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Did he lie to me during the relationship or is he lying now?

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My ex and I had our problems like any other couple but I like to think our relationship was a good one. He would tell me things like "i love you so much" "I found the perfect girl for me" blah blah. A few of our fights he cried and begged me not to break up with him. Even if we would get in arguments were I would walk away he would ALWAYS chase me and begged me to talk to him and not to let things die. When he broke up with me, he asked for a break because he was confused about his feelings. A few days later and a few arguments later, he officially broke up with me and said he had feelings for someone else. From what I heard from a few people they started off in a an extremely bad note since they were arguing & fighting for dominance in the relationship. He also told her to lose weight and put some make up so she could look decent. According to some people he looked miserable. Now they are dating officially (FB and everything) they seem to be extremely happy together. I don't know if this is a rebound or if he left me for this woman because he really did have feelings for her. He used to call me 3 times a week after the breakup to just ask how i was and give me "updates on how happy he was with her". He also asked me to met up in person. I agreed. Said he needed closure. He attacked me on a lot of things he never brought up on our relationship. Saying I'm not pretty, I have bad hygiene, he was embarrassed of being with me, ect. He said he did all the crying and all the begging because he "cares for me as a person" and not because he loved me. He got mad when I told him I was seeing someone else and he even went as far as calling me a whore. Then he turns around and says he misses everything about me and that I am his best friend. He would love to be friends with me because he misses me... that i was his partner in crime and that he enjoyed himself in our relationship but he couldn't because the other is jealous of me and scared he's going to get back with me. Any idea what's going on in his head?

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The kinds of things he says are merely designed to manipulate you--it's like he's entertaining himself watching how you react to every outrageous thing he dares to say to you. He is not mentally healthy. You are best rid of him and never talking to him again. Seems you dodged a bullet.

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My ex and I had our problems like any other couple but I like to think our relationship was a good one. He would tell me things like "i love you so much" "I found the perfect girl for me" blah blah. A few of our fights he cried and begged me not to break up with him. Even if we would get in arguments were I would walk away he would ALWAYS chase me and begged me to talk to him and not to let things die. When he broke up with me, he asked for a break because he was confused about his feelings. A few days later and a few arguments later, he officially broke up with me and said he had feelings for someone else. From what I heard from a few people they started off in a an extremely bad note since they were arguing & fighting for dominance in the relationship. He also told her to lose weight and put some make up so she could look decent. According to some people he looked miserable. Now they are dating officially (FB and everything) they seem to be extremely happy together. I don't know if this is a rebound or if he left me for this woman because he really did have feelings for her. He used to call me 3 times a week after the breakup to just ask how i was and give me "updates on how happy he was with her". He also asked me to met up in person. I agreed. Said he needed closure. He attacked me on a lot of things he never brought up on our relationship. Saying I'm not pretty, I have bad hygiene, he was embarrassed of being with me, ect. He said he did all the crying and all the begging because he "cares for me as a person" and not because he loved me. He got mad when I told him I was seeing someone else and he even went as far as calling me a whore. Then he turns around and says he misses everything about me and that I am his best friend. He would love to be friends with me because he misses me... that i was his partner in crime and that he enjoyed himself in our relationship but he couldn't because the other is jealous of me and scared he's going to get back with me. Any idea what's going on in his head?

 

He seems super unstable. What's going through his mind? Probably that he gets off on toying with you. Or he gets off on drama.

 

The thing that baffles me.. why do you stay in contact. Cut him loose.

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He seems super unstable. What's going through his mind? Probably that he gets off on toying with you. Or he gets off on drama.

 

The thing that baffles me.. why do you stay in contact. Cut him loose.

 

I was kept answering his calls like a dummy lol I was actually in contact with him because I was pregnant but ended up with a miscarriage. He knew there was a possibility but I never told him yes. Just kept saying no. After a while he assumed I wasn't but he still kept calling me just prove I was still in love w him. I told him to leave me alone and he said he was if I saw him "one last time"

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Don't take this the wrong way -- trying to get some background info here... how old are you two?

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Don't take this the wrong way -- trying to get some background info here... how old are you two?

 

I just turned 22 and he's 21 but he's extremely immature. The woman he left me for is 27 turning 28 in a couple of months

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He's trying to be a player but fails at it.

And with those incredible remarks like you're not pretty and the entire rest it's actually clear - cut all ties. You've dodged a great bullet, 'cause it takes a lot of nerve to be that disrespectful after a relationship.

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He's trying to be a player but fails at it.

And with those incredible remarks like you're not pretty and the entire rest it's actually clear - cut all ties. You've dodged a great bullet, 'cause it takes a lot of nerve to be that disrespectful after a relationship.

 

It does lol but I did start it in a way >.> kinda got pissed cuz he was on a high horse saying I was deeply in love with him and he would be me anything that if he would come back begging I would take him back in a heartbeat. So I told him he was a rapist abusive ******* who I only was with him for the stuff he got me lol. He was actually a sweet guy the only problem was that he was insecure and very jealous. He is Mexican so he expected me to be a perfect quite housewife. When he saw me in person he was telling me I was gorgeous and that just i liked his "stench", at the end of the day he liked how I smelled. But yes I did dodge a bullet even after all that **** I told him to stop contacting me and to leave me alone.

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