maturityassets Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 (edited) So I've been with my girlfriend for over a year. She is a beautiful girl in not only my eyes but other people as well. We have a rough relationship because of her parents though, we are lucky to just see each other once a week even though she is less than a 5 minute drive away. But fortunately she is moving out of her parents' place for the summer so we will be able to see each other a lot more often. Just sometimes I do have to remind myself why this relationship is more than just attraction and is instead about our understanding of one another, how we act complimentary to one another and how I doubt any other woman will really relate to me how she does since we grew up in similar family setting and culture while each of us having the same problems with that upbringing. Is this a 21 year old thing? Limited sex once a week not enough? Maybe insecurity to prove I'm good looking and masculine beyond the eyes of just my girlfriend? Feeling the need to have sex with more people because I've only had sex with 2 people; my girlfriend and my first love? Of course there are days I'm impatient by the thought of seeing my girlfriend. I can't wait till the chance to grab her by the waist and tell her I love her as we lean toward the bedroom. Nobody turns me on like she does when that happens but sometimes I feel like I'm in a relationship that makes me feel "old" because of the limitation and the need to remind myself why I'm with her. (side note: I gave up porn about 6 months ago, so my view of woman is not necessarily this objectified sexual demeaning thing as maybe it once was) Edited May 11, 2014 by maturityassets
ja123 Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 I think your feelings are normal. You're only 21. You still have a lot of growing to do and, yes, probably need to sow some of your wild oats, eventually. 1
silvereyez Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 Don't give up on love due to your insecurities. You need to really evaluate why you love her and if you want to stay with her, it sounds like she's great and loves you too, because once she's gone, she's gone. You may feel you are missing out but pussy is pussy my friend. Love is hard to come by and for many comes once but a lifetime. You sound like you are very much in love and perhaps you should be happy with that, in time, perhaps your feelings may change. If feel insecure about yourself, and you let that destroy your relationship, then you may end up regretting it. You say you have a troubled relationship, is there more here than you're letting on? If there are real issues with your relationship apart from her parents then that may be a legitimate reason to rethink and assess and talk to your gf about. To be honest I'm not entirely sure what you're asking for here. It seems like your seeking validation about your relationship. Whether to stay or leave. You have to decide that yourself. Whether you want to stay with this woman or try other pastures. But if you are in love, and she is pretty, and you click, and you're extremely young. Why waste that. You may end up regretting it for the rest of your life. Why not be happy for the moment and see where it goes. Don't let those thoughts of other women crop up in your mind and eat at you. If you really have something great, let your thoughts be about her. Treasure her. Show her you love her and embrace her. There is a lot of pressure to have lots of relationships these days and try out other people, don't listen to this bull**** and if you're happy, you're happy. Love is what drives us.
Author maturityassets Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 Why did you give up porn? Suffered from DE and wanted to reduce the amount of times I went solo
silvereyez Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 Don't throw away love for this beautiful woman you click with because of your insecurities. Let your relationship play out. Sex is sex. Don't let those thoughts crop in and ruin what you have if what you are saying is true. You are extremely young, so conversely, I say you ample time to see how strong your love is. Take it or leave it, but try to evaluate why you love her, and try to imagine losing her. You may end up regretting it. If it's not meant to be, you'll know in the long term anyway. Just my 2 pence.
Assasda Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 I dont know what you want. Just dont feel needy, and feel like you have to prove anything to her
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