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Dear all,

 

i m 30 years old and have been living with my flatmate for last 6 months., recently we went out and we make out under the influence of alcohol.. wasn't sure if it was liking or it was because we were drunk. There was no sex that day as she had restrictions that night. Next day both me and her went off for business trips and came back after 10 days.. it was a bit weird because i wasn't sure what is she thinking and at my end i wanted to take things forward.

 

on the day, we returned, we spent an hr together and in the end we kissed but it didnt go any further..

 

After that, i tried to message her twice but i felt that she wants time and may be i m scaring her off.

 

now, i need help / advice /suggestions on how to take things forward.. should i take things slowly - don't message her at all and wait? OR should i just invite her for open conversation about it?

 

From my end, i m pretty sure i like her and i want to get to know her more.. For me Sex is not important, it can follow much much later.. but i want us to be together and get to know each other.

 

really appreciate your help.

Edited by geisha99
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Think about this really carefully! If you go there with a flatmate or workmate, you can ruin things at either place which is considered a "safe" zone because you spend so much time there. Are you prepared in case things don't work out to move, perhaps at short notice, or to kick her out?

 

Ask her out on a date, don't involve alcohol.

 

Can you see yourself with this chick 6 months, a year, two years or more in the future?

 

Do you have common interests?

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What you have to do is not be needy. Youve displayed signs of neediness already after you guys made out.

Play it cool, and just go on with your life as if nothing happened.

 

Why are you worried about this, like you are the female in the relationship?

Let her worry about it.

 

Just be like water, and move with things, how they flow, and just have fun and enjoy the ride

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