LostLord Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 I met this girl about a month ago at my place of work, though we don't really work together, and are only at the same place twice a week. We really hit it off, had a lot of similar interests and talked so much via messaging (too much I think). But we were both really enjoying it. Anyway we both knew we liked one another, I have never spoken to someone so much, nor has anyone showed so much interest in me before, we just clicked on so many things, so I asked her out and she said yes. The problem is she is always busy, that was almost two weeks ago. Today I said we have to do it this week and she dodged it, giving reasons why its another busy week. So clearly she has lost interest but I can't understand why! a few days ago she was showing her strongest signs of interest yet. And I get people have genuinely busy lives, but that busy that can't spare any time for a week? I now figure It's time to just cut contact, as if I keep holding on hope its only going to get worse and I'm going to seem like a desperate fool. But where did I go wrong?
Confusedguy81 Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 I said we have to do it this week This comes off as bossy to me. You should have just stopped asking and waited for her to come to you. If she doesn't come, then you know she isn't interested.
silvereyez Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 I disagree with the previous poster. She already showed interest and should of continued that. If she's not willing to do any work and go hot and cold on your then she isn't worth it. She's either playing games or she's just not into you. Either reason she isn't worth your time. Forget her and move on . You're more deserving.
Author LostLord Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 Thanks guys, and yeah when I said that I said "have to do it this week", I didn't say it exactly like that but in more playful manner. This one has just really thrown me.
silvereyez Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 Whatever happened with her isn't your concern. She should really have the balls to tell you but she might be keeping you as a backup or would rather let it fizz out. If she was interested, she would show interest. Any other play is just bull****.
silvereyez Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 And the title of your thread suggests you did something wrong. You didn't, don't turn this inward. Again, find someone more deserving
singhnatasha903 Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 alright so i was once in a very similar situation. but heres what ticked me off and why i cooled off on the guy, may help you figure things from a different perspective cause sometimes the SMALLEST things can turn someone off : this is my list of things that made me cool off : -overkill : after a point he just seemed too desperate. i told him i was busy once and i couldnt chat/ talk but he kept incessantly trying to get in touch. just cooled me off the whole thing - started making plans too much into the future, told me hed told his friends and parents about us, it made me feel like i was already in a committed relationship and i wasnt ready or interested in something that serious. -i was actually really really busy moving homes and his constant nagging bordering on demanding to meet up or chat really really tipped the scale. if i were you. what id do is- send her a text / whatsapp just saying- " hey ive been trying to get together and make plans with you for a few days now. totally get youre super hectic right now, why dont you connect with me once you have a minute and let me take you out to lunch/ dinner? would be great to see you.x" then LET it BE. if shes interested, shel come back. if not. then the advice works both ways : shes just not that into you.
Author LostLord Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 (edited) Thanks Silvereyez, I figure it is going the fizz out option, thank you for the kind words! I figure its time to forget. And thank singhnarasha903, a very interesting insight! Luckily I don't think I did any of those things, if anything she messaged me too much (which seems strange). That is why I came here, I guess, as I did not want to go down the path of nagging her, which I felt like I was beginning to do today. I probably should have said your line but I said something else, and I think I put the nail in the coffin with it (this is where I did screw up for sure). Edited May 11, 2014 by LostLord
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