bitconfused Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Been dating a guy for about two months now. He texted me earlier and I replied, then just after I sent another text just adding a bit on to what I'd just said. The thing is, he's only received the second text (I get delivery reports). The first one hasn't gone through for some reason. Without the first text, the second one sounds really strange. It could have actually been a reply, so he won't necessarily know that another text was supposed to come before it. He hasn't replied and now I feel like I look weird. Also, I'm thinking that if he does eventually receive the first bit, it'll look like I sent it hours after the second one, which will look even stranger! What should I do? I can't send a third text! Haha. Thanks
Gaeta Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 You've been dating for 2 months.......why are you walking on eggshells over a text delivery problem? 1
Author bitconfused Posted May 10, 2014 Author Posted May 10, 2014 You've been dating for 2 months.......why are you walking on eggshells over a text delivery problem? Because it still feels quite new. The text he sent me was a nice one. When he reads my reply, he might be like wtf? and think I'm just weird.
Gaeta Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Re-forward your first text and say : sorry looks like you did not get the first part of my text. I'm sorry but it doesn't sound normal to me to be counting texts after 2 months dating. How often do you see each other? 4
Author bitconfused Posted May 10, 2014 Author Posted May 10, 2014 Re-forward your first text and say : sorry looks like you did not get the first part of my text. I'm sorry but it doesn't sound normal to me to be counting texts after 2 months dating. How often do you see each other? What do you mean by counting texts? About twice per week. I just feel like we're still getting to know each other. We don't text that much, it's mainly phone conversations. I don't want him to think that if he sends me a nice text I'll reply with a weird response. Also, I'm always reading about not texting too much. I don't want to bombard him with messages. Or maybe I'm thinking about it too much.... :/
Gaeta Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 What do you mean by counting texts? About twice per week. I just feel like we're still getting to know each other. We don't text that much, it's mainly phone conversations. I don't want him to think that if he sends me a nice text I'll reply with a weird response. Also, I'm always reading about not texting too much. I don't want to bombard him with messages. Or maybe I'm thinking about it too much.... :/ You text him, he did not get the first part, and you don't want to text him again because that would make 3 text in a row....so what? You prefer leaving him confused then sending a 3rd text? The not texting too much means to not flood someone with text all day long, has nothing to do with sending a 3rd text. Also you avoid flooding someone with text at the beginning under 3 dates, after 2 months dating and talking you should not be worried about little things like 'should I send a 3rd text'. May I ask how old you are?
Author bitconfused Posted May 10, 2014 Author Posted May 10, 2014 You text him, he did not get the first part, and you don't want to text him again because that would make 3 text in a row....so what? You prefer leaving him confused then sending a 3rd text? The not texting too much means to not flood someone with text all day long, has nothing to do with sending a 3rd text. Also you avoid flooding someone with text at the beginning under 3 dates, after 2 months dating and talking you should not be worry about little things like 'should I send a 3rd text'. May I ask how old you are? Ok then, maybe I'm just over thinking it. I'm 23.
Gaeta Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 2 dates per week over 2 months dating that is 16 dates. You have not reached a certain level of comfort here?
Author bitconfused Posted May 10, 2014 Author Posted May 10, 2014 2 dates per week over 2 months dating that is 16 dates. You have not reached a certain level of comfort here? Not really. I'm still quite insecure about the whole thing. He doesn't give much away. I think that's just him though
Gaeta Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Not really. I'm still quite insecure about the whole thing. He doesn't give much away. I think that's just him though ok I see, he's been keeping you on the tip of your toes. Remember, if a guy likes you, there is very little you can do wrong. Even if you text often, that is not going to make him change his mind about you. So go ahead, you can use humor, and resend that first text. 3
Author bitconfused Posted May 10, 2014 Author Posted May 10, 2014 ok I see, he's been keeping you on the tip of your toes. Remember, if a guy likes you, there is very little you can do wrong. Even if you text often, that is not going to make him change his mind about you. So go ahead, you can use humor, and resend that first text. Ok, thank you
milanlover Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 2 months and you can't communicate with him about this?? Just simply explain and send it again!
milanlover Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 ok I see, he's been keeping you on the tip of your toes. Remember, if a guy likes you, there is very little you can do wrong. Even if you text often, that is not going to make him change his mind about you. So go ahead, you can use humor, and resend that first text. Lol I think this is true because I bombarded this guy I've been dating for almost 2 months (like I posted in a thread before) with long texts and my anxiety and he still assured me that he's interested in me and there is no insecurity I have to feel! And I think it applies back to him to cuz I genuinely like him. Little could go wrong if someone really likes you! Especially those little things like that!
littleplanet Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Well, bitconfused - Forgive me for having ancient attitudes about this, but here's a little bit of perspective: Your relationship should not be reduced to the mercy of a communication device. If your fella likes you - he likes YOU........not your teck-savvy. If a text messes up, dial the number and talk. Most of anything that really makes a relationship work - is what happens in real time, face to face. That phone in your hand is never going to settle your anxieties and smooth out your insecurity. The only thing that will do that is him....in person. You're looking to an external device to do for you what your own sweet self should be capable of doing. He's not having a romance with an avatar. Try putting the phone down, and discovering what up close and personal actually can accomplish.
Shepp Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Whats wrong with "haha the first bit of my text didnt send: [insert text]"? 2
Author bitconfused Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 Point taken, guys Think I just get like this because he really doesn't give much away. He never talks about how he feels about me or anything like that. Maybe he's just like that, or maybe he doesn't actually care. Who knows. Not liking this insecurity though, so might have to rethink things anyway!
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