xCheyenneMariex Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Ok so my fiance and I just got engaged. I want to get married next year but he wants to wait 3 years because that is when he graduates college so I think that its a good enough reason to have a long engagement. But here is my dilemma. We have a venue picked out that we went ahead and booked so that we can pay it off in time for the wedding because we really dont have that much money and neither do our families. I REALLY want to get into the planning, you know wedding dresses, center pieces, all of it. How do I do that but still be smart about it since I have 3 years till the wedding????
MidwestUSA Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Yikes, I'd honestly have to say that I wouldn't attempt it. Three years is such a long time, and things change, even fashion. Who knows if what you would choose today will agree with you three years from now? Why not sit on the idea for a few months, and see if you still feel the same? Congratulations on your engagement!
halfcrazed_i Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Congratulations on your engagement If your fiance wishes to wait 3 years before you get married so he can graduate, it's not an irrational request. I understand that you're excited about planning your wedding and all, but think of the bigger picture. You don't have to do it now. You can do it in 2 years just in time for your wedding -- the experience will not go away. And as MidwestUSA mentioned, a lot can change in 3 years. You can start gathering ideas and stuff now, but don't plan anything solid because you can easily change your mind again. It might end up being a huge waste of your time. You mentioned that neither you nor him have a lot of money. Then that's good... because you can use this time to save up for a more ideal wedding (one that'll make you guys happy). But remember, the wedding is just for one day... it's what comes after it that really counts. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 You be smart about it by setting a budget now. weddings are ghastly expensive. It may take you 6 months even to price stuff out if you do a very thorough job. Once you have the number, you spend the next 2 years saving. One year out, you start spending but not before. You can shop for wedding dresses but don't buy anything unless you find your ideal dress dirt cheap ( < $200). Congratulations & happy planning. I can't stress enough that you should not spend now, not even to lock in the venue. Three years is a long time. You don't want to end up in a situation where you can't get your deposit money back.
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