bluenote Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 I recently met a lady, she is a bit younger than me as in ten years, she really pulled me in and we had some intimacy. She however didn't have or pretended not to have a mobile so it was difficult to communicate with her often. I bought her a mobile, she also asks/demands other stuff which I oblige. My problem she keeps missing appointments, and gives me such silly excuses for that, or simply doesn't chat with me, its like I have to raise mountains for her to give me any kind of attention. Two days ago out of frustration I checked her mobile inbox when she denied receiving texts from me the previous night. To my surprise I find that she is chatting with another guy even using the same names she uses on me like "baby, papa, daddy" etc., my heart sunk to feet. She also demands small favors from him. Didn't know if I should be surprised angry or stupefied. Ok; I confronted her and she says the guy is just interested in her which is a lie I'm old enough to know. My dilemma is should I now ask for the mobile back. Its humiliating I buy her a mobile and she makes appointments with another guy with it and then lies to me and sticks me up, its an uncomfortable situation.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 You know what you need to do, we dont need to confirm that. Now let her and the mobile go and walk away this woman is bad news x You will meet someone worth your time x 3
MidwestUSA Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 You know what you need to do, we dont need to confirm that. Now let her and the mobile go and walk away this woman is bad news x You will meet someone worth your time x Cut the service to it first. Unless of course it's a prepaid. But yea, cut your losses.
hatem10 Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Everyone's nailed it here. Cut her out of your life. Make sure you aren't getting charged again. Learn from your mistake and don't buy girls items unnecessarily. Joe
saltyfishhead666 Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 I recently met a lady, she is a bit younger than me as in ten years, she really pulled me in and we had some intimacy. She however didn't have or pretended not to have a mobile so it was difficult to communicate with her often. I bought her a mobile, she also asks/demands other stuff which I oblige. My problem she keeps missing appointments, and gives me such silly excuses for that, or simply doesn't chat with me, its like I have to raise mountains for her to give me any kind of attention. Two days ago out of frustration I checked her mobile inbox when she denied receiving texts from me the previous night. To my surprise I find that she is chatting with another guy even using the same names she uses on me like "baby, papa, daddy" etc., my heart sunk to feet. She also demands small favors from him. Didn't know if I should be surprised angry or stupefied. Ok; I confronted her and she says the guy is just interested in her which is a lie I'm old enough to know. My dilemma is should I now ask for the mobile back. Its humiliating I buy her a mobile and she makes appointments with another guy with it and then lies to me and sticks me up, its an uncomfortable situation. Missing appointments? What is she a hooker? 2
J21 Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Cut off service on the phone. Not worth it to get it back, better to just take it as a harsh lesson learned never to be a fool again.
Author bluenote Posted May 10, 2014 Author Posted May 10, 2014 Thanks for all the responses, I am happy that ladies also reacted and gave straight logical advise. unfortunate for me the mobile is prepaid and I can't cut services. I went back to her and told her how I felt, and asked for the mobile back, her answer was that I Fd her and she deserves it, I almost went into a debate about how I gave her money also. Its sad she comes through as a hooker. The other small problem is that just before our small drama, her mom apparently gave her money to give to me so I could buy some building materials for her in the city and I still have that money. I wanted to use it to blackmail her into returning the mobile, I told her that should she refuse to hand me back the mobile, I would keep her mother's money, but seems I failed because she says I Fd her. I feel somewhat used and it makes me vindictive and reluctant to buy her mom's things.
Omei Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 (edited) I recently met a lady, she is a bit younger than me as in ten years, she really pulled me in and we had some intimacy. She however didn't have or pretended not to have a mobile so it was difficult to communicate with her often. I bought her a mobile, she also asks/demands other stuff which I oblige. Do you always just buy women that you "recently" meet anything they want? Do you never feel used when this girl who you only recently know asks for things? Are you that much of a sucker? Stop being so desperate and trying to buy effection, girls love attention esp YOUNG girls who think its totally okay to have mean buy them stuff because they're cute and entitled just to have their company they will happily take it from you untill you get angry then they will try to remove you from the picture and enchant the next sucker guy. Edited May 10, 2014 by Omei
Author bluenote Posted May 10, 2014 Author Posted May 10, 2014 Well, I know this lady for nine months, I see your point, recently may sound too recent. She is not that young, not young enough for statutory rape anyway, and I am not old enough to be her father. Things didn't seem strange before the mobile story, and I see your point why my desperate demeanor may have inspired her. I do accept the fact that I may have been blinded by it also. Thanks it makes sense
Hopeful30 Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 I noticed you said "she misses appointments". What do you mean by that? I understand your dilemma, but if I were you, let her keep the phone. Why? Because you don't need to go through any other trouble. Do something more useful with your time.
topaMAXX Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Missing appointments? What is she a hooker? Sounds like he bought her a phone for having sex with him. So, yes, she's a hooker. 1
still_an_Angel Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 Maybe you should tell her mum the real story regarding the money to set the record straight. But the mobile is a lost cause. Please be wary of young girls who ask you for stuff, you have no obligation to provide them anything.
Author bluenote Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 Thanks, Still An Angel, Appointment perhaps really makes her sounds like she's a hooker. I am not old enough to be her father, and she is not that young for statutory rape, she's in her mid twenties, I am in my thirties and by the looks of things very rusty and out of touch. I work about 20km from where she lives and its not conveniently easy for us to meet up anytime we choose or chose. I couldn't really just drive up and announce that I'm here you drop everything and come to me, I considered the fact that she may have a life outside of our relationship (again I must've hoped there are no other men in the picture). I respected the fact that she is young and enjoys what young ladies do like going out dancing etc., I liked it to although I am not as outgoing, I prefer the quite life, farming etc. We had to agree to a time which would be suitable for both of us not necessarily for us to have a schedule. In that sense I called it appointments. I really don't want to think of her as a hooker. I didn't buy her the mobile or gave her money and staff with that intent. I must have considered it a boyfriend trying to impress and keep his girlfriend happy situation. Its just sad that my desperateness was inspiring enough for her to play me for eight months, the whole thing was a lie. I accept responsibility, I should have been more weary and careful. The girl is one of a kind and I really would have preferred us having a mutually loving and caring relationship, but sadly I must see my errors and withdraw very far from her. If I had to redo or relive this experience prior to the drama, I would not change anything except maybe buy her a much more cheaper mobile. I must be honest apart from seeing her texts to the other guy I did enjoy her company.
Poppygoodwill Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 Seems like you're talking yourself back into a situation where she sees you as a cash machine who ought to be grateful for her time and "affections", and you take what you can get, as if you somehow agree with that. Walk away. And if you don't want to follow through on the favour for her mum, that's fair - just give her the money back. Take the high road, maintain your dignity. You'll be better off in the end. 1
saltyfishhead666 Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 One reason why young women like older men. Cash. Not always true. I'm young I think (26) and love older men for maturity reasons, they seem to usually have a kind of class that younger men usually don't have. I have a job, pay my way and pay for things between the two of us. I do however think if an older man has a younger lady they feel obligated more financially. I recall when me and my older ex used to go food shopping (he spend his leave at my house maybe 1-2 weeks) he would whip out his debit card and say hey I eat at your house I'm paying. I'd never let him because he didn't use my daughters nappies, formula, eat any if the kids food or drink. He was a guest, wouldn't take no for an answer though lol
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