Guitarisgood Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 First date went well. Then she pulled back - friends say it's because up to this point, she has been the most forward and feels that and maybe is waiting for me to chase. I asked her out a second time but she could not make it. She offered the next week 'sorry, I have dinner with family tonight but next week we should catch up'. I told her to let me know when she is free (I'll be seeing her in class regardless). She never suggested a day and we just carried on with the usual teasing text messages. The change in her has actually annoyed me. I almost feel I am now an option and not a priority. If that is the case I'd rather move onto someone who would think better of me.
Gaeta Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 First date went well. Then she pulled back - friends say it's because up to this point, she has been the most forward and feels that and maybe is waiting for me to chase. I asked her out a second time but she could not make it. She offered the next week 'sorry, I have dinner with family tonight but next week we should catch up'. I told her to let me know when she is free (I'll be seeing her in class regardless). She never suggested a day and we just carried on with the usual teasing text messages. The change in her has actually annoyed me. I almost feel I am now an option and not a priority. If that is the case I'd rather move onto someone who would think better of me. If up to this point she is the one who's been leading you need to step up your game. She may be the one getting annoyed. She did offer you an alternative when you invited her out. She said next week. It was up to you to book it right there and then. You offer Saturday next week? if she says she's busy you ask for a day she is not and you close the deal. You have had ONE date with her, you are not suppose to be a priority yet. Is something else going on?
PegNosePete Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 I told her to let me know when she is free (I'll be seeing her in class regardless). She never suggested a day and we just carried on with the usual teasing text messages. Well why did you carryon with the usual teasing messages, if what you wanted was a date? Call her up and ask her what day she is free. Seems simple to me, why make it complicated! 2
David87 Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Of course you're just an option to her because you went on a date not a hundred. Stop texting her, pick up the phone, ask her out.... if she says yes go for it if not move on . It's not rocket science. 1
Assasda Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 First date went well. Then she pulled back - friends say it's because up to this point, she has been the most forward and feels that and maybe is waiting for me to chase. I asked her out a second time but she could not make it. She offered the next week 'sorry, I have dinner with family tonight but next week we should catch up'. I told her to let me know when she is free (I'll be seeing her in class regardless). She never suggested a day and we just carried on with the usual teasing text messages. The change in her has actually annoyed me. I almost feel I am now an option and not a priority. If that is the case I'd rather move onto someone who would think better of me. The problem is OP is not being honest with us. You know that you are the one putting in all the effort, thats why she pulled back. Thats the scenario that makes sense. You are needy and thats why she pulled back
stateofgrace Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Yeah, you've only had one date with her, you can't expect to be a priority. In all actuality, you're not really supposed to be a priority until you guys are officially dating. So don't have that mentality. You ARE an option, and you will be until/if she decides (or you decide) that you are the better option than others. Call her up, ask her if so and so day works for her, if she says no, ask her what day does work for her. If she doesn't give you a straight answer, then she's probably just not interested. Sometimes first dates turn into second dates, sometimes they don't. That's the reality of dating. If this is the case, take it with a grain of salt and move on. Don't invest so much into a person you've only gone on one date with. Hell, don't invest too much into a person until you are in an official relationship with them! It takes the pressure off you, AND the other person for that matter. If you want a second date, ask. Don't beat around the bush. She'll either say yes, or she'll say no. Worst case, she says no, and there's your answer. Easy as that.
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