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Wrong to not give someone a chance b/c of their name?


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I've had a lot of interest from girls on online sites here recently but most of them have the same name as my recent ex who cheated on me. Is it wrong of me to ignore that b/c of the similarities?? The name in general right now just repluses me.

 

Anyone else ever have this issue?

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Completely irrational.

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I agree. Completely. However, when you are with someone you love for 5.5 years, engaged to be married and get dumped out of the blue and cheated on, it makes you a little bitter.

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I agree. Completely. However, when you are with someone you love for 5.5 years, engaged to be married and get dumped out of the blue and cheated on, it makes you a little bitter.

 

My cousin was sexually abused by her own father all of her childhood till she was a teenager and ran away from home.

 

At 21 she met her now husband, he had the same name as her father. He is an amazing man, they have been married for 30 years.

 

She is glad she did not let it get in the way.

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As if finding someone decent wasn't difficult enough...sheez...

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I guess I should sack up and just ignore the bad parts and what the name reminds me of, replace it with something better. :)

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I can understand but... If your ex had a common name then rejecting girls because of that name is going to rule out a LOT of women.

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The majority of girls you meet have the same name as your ex? Wtf? Thats weird. How common is this name?

 

 

I would still give them a chance. The name really doesn't make the person. And you gotta learn to get over the negative feelings associated with that name eventually. I used to get so mad whenever i hear my exes name/the guy she cheated on me withs name. Now i don't even care anymore.

 

But if its hurting you that much then just give it time. After a few months the name will lose all power.

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Just because it may be irrational, doesn't mean you're not reacting to it. If you can't not associate the name with the EX, then don't even try. In time the connection will fade.

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Her name was Emily. So yea, VERY common name. Id say at least 5 out of 8 women who initiate conversation on these sites, have this name. Im not even joking. My son was very attached to my ex, so bringing another woman around in time with that same name, might mess with his head and hes only 7.

 

The guys name who'm she cheated on me with, I can't escape that either. Its in every tv show, every movie....Everywhere..Why does life do that to us? lol

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