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Hello all! Haven't been on here in a while but quick re cap.

He broke it off in October. Our relationship was brief compared to some but it was great. Never fought, no cheating, no abuse etc. Even the break up was polite and respectful.

 

Anyway, he said we couldn't remain friends and I never heard from him again. I was beyond crushed. Anyway, 2 weeks ago. A text "Hi. Been thinking about you."

 

I didn't respond and I have to admit, it felt great to ignore his a$$!!!!

 

In the beginning, I blocked him from my phone but not because of reasons most people do. The reason was because I knew he would never contact and the thought of that was way to painful. If he's blocked at least I thought he "might have" I'll just never know.

 

I unblocked a couple months back and not even sure why. I honestly didn't think I would hear from him again and was starting to feel MUCH better.

Anyway, I still feel pretty good but now he's on the brain again.

Not really sure what I'm looking for. . . I kinda feel like NC has begun all over again even though he broke it and I didn't respond.

 

Anyway, my heart goes out to everyone hurting ((hugs))

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I get **** like this daily from my ex. Let him sweat.

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I get **** like this daily from my ex. Let him sweat.

I'll never respond. I'm absolutely TERRIFIED of him now. if that makes any sense.

I suppose I thought I was in the "clear" because most dumpers offer the we can be friends line. To ease their guilt, I suppose.

He said we COULD NOT be friends because "it's already out there"

Whatever that means????

Anyway, I guess you just never know.

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I didn't respond and I have to admit, it felt great to ignore his a$$!!!!

 

Excellent, Although I wish my ex no ill, this would be like readdressing the power balance :)

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Excellent, Although I wish my ex no ill, this would be like readdressing the power balance :)

LOL! right! :D

 

I wish him all the best but yeah, felt really good. If there was any chance I would ever break NC (which there wasn't) there is absolutely NO WAY I will now. I will never risk feeling that crappy again. Not with him anyway.

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Just wanted to clarify. The power shift feels great and all (hey, I'm human and the dumpee) I would be lying if I said it didn't.

 

But. . . I really really wish there were none of these power BS games. I would much rather have simply been his equal.

 

But I guess we all feel that way. Now I'm off to feed my pet unicorn. Hahaha! :D

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But. . . I really really wish there were none of these power BS games. I would much rather have simply been his equal.

 

Understood, but when its the last thing you have control over you have to grab it with both hands ;)

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Just curious how long you guys were together.

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Understood, but when its the last thing you have control over you have to grab it with both hands ;)

Good point! ;)

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Just curious how long you guys were together.

7 months. I've often wondered if that's why this one knocked me on my a$$ so bad????

I was in the magical falling in love amusement park and LOVING it!! I never wanted to leave. Still had lots of rides to go! (not meant dirty) ;)

Also, never experienced any of his faults, which I'm sure he had. We all do.

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He broke it off in October. Our relationship was brief compared to some but it was great. Never fought, no cheating, no abuse etc. Even the break up was polite and respectful.

 

Anyway, he said we couldn't remain friends and I never heard from him again. I was beyond crushed.

 

Yup. I know what that is like.

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Yup. I know what that is like.

I'm sorry for your pain.

I have never been dumped in the falling in love stage. IT SUCKS!!!

 

You can message me any time :)

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Hello all! Haven't been on here in a while but quick re cap.

He broke it off in October. Our relationship was brief compared to some but it was great. Never fought, no cheating, no abuse etc. Even the break up was polite and respectful.

 

Anyway, he said we couldn't remain friends and I never heard from him again. I was beyond crushed. Anyway, 2 weeks ago. A text "Hi. Been thinking about you."

 

I didn't respond and I have to admit, it felt great to ignore his a$$!!!!

 

In the beginning, I blocked him from my phone but not because of reasons most people do. The reason was because I knew he would never contact and the thought of that was way to painful. If he's blocked at least I thought he "might have" I'll just never know.

 

I unblocked a couple months back and not even sure why. I honestly didn't think I would hear from him again and was starting to feel MUCH better.

Anyway, I still feel pretty good but now he's on the brain again.

Not really sure what I'm looking for. . . I kinda feel like NC has begun all over again even though he broke it and I didn't respond.

 

Anyway, my heart goes out to everyone hurting ((hugs))

 

Sorry to hear about this. Obviously he doesn't care about you healing, and what he did was pretty selfish.

 

You're on the right track. With how it ended, the possibility of being friends is possible in the future once all these feelings don't impact at all.

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Sorry to hear about this. Obviously he doesn't care about you healing, and what he did was pretty selfish.

 

You're on the right track. With how it ended, the possibility of being friends is possible in the future once all these feelings don't impact at all.

Thank you! I agree, selfish indeed!

Especially since he's the one that wanted NC from the start. He never outright said it but breaking it off and saying we can't be friends, telling me to take care, pretty much screams NC!!

 

I guess he did me a favor though. I would have been stupid enough to try and be friends which just would have prolonged my healing.

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Thank you! I agree, selfish indeed!

Especially since he's the one that wanted NC from the start. He never outright said it but breaking it off and saying we can't be friends, telling me to take care, pretty much screams NC!!

 

I guess he did me a favor though. I would have been stupid enough to try and be friends which just would have prolonged my healing.

 

I am glad for you that you are strong enough to withstand the breadcrumb! Good for you.

 

I am truly now, I am pretty sure, the only one from our breakup "class" who hasn't and will never receive a breadcrumb.

 

I wonder what I have done to earn the distinction.

 

I know it is better for my healing, but it still makes me question a little if there is something wrong with me or something, or if I am somehow not desirable enough. Because I do have that idiotic little "voice" in the back of my head.

 

Trying to get rid of it!

 

But lets put the focus back where it totally should be, on you and your strength!

 

:cool: if there were applause hands I totally would post them!

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I am glad for you that you are strong enough to withstand the breadcrumb! Good for you.

 

I am truly now, I am pretty sure, the only one from our breakup "class" who hasn't and will never receive a breadcrumb.

 

I wonder what I have done to earn the distinction.

 

I know it is better for my healing, but it still makes me question a little if there is something wrong with me or something, or if I am somehow not desirable enough. Because I do have that idiotic little "voice" in the back of my head.

 

Trying to get rid of it!

 

But lets put the focus back where it totally should be, on you and your strength!

 

:cool: if there were applause hands I totally would post them!

Thank you so much for your kind words. It really means a lot!! :)

 

Please message me any time.

Sending you big hugs right now! And thanks again for your support.

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I am glad for you that you are strong enough to withstand the breadcrumb! Good for you.

 

I am truly now, I am pretty sure, the only one from our breakup "class" who hasn't and will never receive a breadcrumb.

 

I wonder what I have done to earn the distinction.

 

I know it is better for my healing, but it still makes me question a little if there is something wrong with me or something, or if I am somehow not desirable enough. Because I do have that idiotic little "voice" in the back of my head.

 

I don't get breadcrumbs, but then I asked not to have them, but also I know she has been here and so I think she knows what the best cause of action is for me to get over it and so in a weird way is trying to help.

 

Maybe thats the case for you, maybe they know NC will help you. Theres always at least 2 sides to every story, why not look on the positive side :)

 

Hard I know.

 

Look on the bright side, supposedly men take breakups alot worse as we don't talk to our friends about it: I think I told one friend in about 10mins and thats it :eek:

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I am truly now, I am pretty sure, the only one from our breakup "class" who hasn't and will never receive a breadcrumb.

 

Don't worry AnyaNova, I haven't either :)

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AnyaNova,

It's a double edge sword because now he's really on my mind.

 

Breadcrumbs just suck either way. Hurts to not get one, hurts.to get one.

 

My thoughts are with everyone hurting and heartbroken at this time. Here's to the day we all reach indifference and don't even care. All we'll want to do with these annoying crumbs is vacuum them.

 

Love you guys! :D

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I don't think breadcrumbs even benefit the dumper.... it just hurts...

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Don't question your unblocking. It's very mature to be honest, and there's no need to keep them blocked forever. You'd think that at some point they should be forgetting about you anyway. :confused:

 

Having a similar situation on Facebook, keeping them at bay though until next year, just to be sure. ;)

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