bluegreen Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I wonder has any of you found yourself in situation that you owe your ex something it could be anything from material to .... You been on strict NC for long while now and when you think of them you think EWWW so how do you return what you owe without contacting them or anyone around them? Do you forget about it say s.... them they would just ignore me anyway or pay it forward in some way let them know and say OK we are even now G bye for eternity ? Or do nothing at all and as for me am leaning toward option 2
Strength in Healing Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Well, personally, I think if I owed them something I would mail it to them. Best way to avoid any contact. I would recommend not replying either if they send you a text later saying thank you for sending the stuff.
flitzanu Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I wonder has any of you found yourself in situation that you owe your ex something it could be anything from material to .... You been on strict NC for long while now and when you think of them you think EWWW so how do you return what you owe without contacting them or anyone around them? Do you forget about it say s.... them they would just ignore me anyway or pay it forward in some way let them know and say OK we are even now G bye for eternity ? Or do nothing at all and as for me am leaning toward option 2 is it something valuable or are you looking for reasons to reach out to them in this indirect way? if they aren't asking for it, i wouldn't bother.
jay1983 Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Sorry I've only been on the other side of the fence. Had an ex break it off by NC cold turkey. I felt like she owed me an explanation or a formal break up. ALSO she also had my physiology book that let her use so she wouldn't have to buy her own. I sent text after text and even drove to her home for it so I could sell it back. The b***h wouldn't give it back. This was during college when I didn't have any money
FredJones80 Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Do you forget about it say s.... them they would just ignore me anyway or pay it forward in some way let them know and say OK we are even now G bye for eternity ? and I didn't understand a single word of that :/
Author bluegreen Posted May 6, 2014 Author Posted May 6, 2014 Sorry I've only been on the other side of the fence. Had an ex break it off by NC cold turkey. I felt like she owed me an explanation or a formal break up. ALSO she also had my physiology book that let her use so she wouldn't have to buy her own. I sent text after text and even drove to her home for it so I could sell it back. The b***h wouldn't give it back. This was during college when I didn't have any money Jay it seems I can always count on you to make me laugh : )))) I guess I'll have to suck it up and just do it it makes my skin crawl to think I'll have to break of NC after so long and when am indifferent jerk will get all ego maniac about it but .... O God physiology you to ? That book made me weep on more then few occasions
sooshi Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 What do you feel like you need to give back, bluegreen? I think my ex-fiance owes me a massive apology, and actions to make up for the way he has treated me, but it looks like that will never come. And he'd just tell me that I need to take responsibility for how I feel and what I do. 3
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