Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Can a woman be too strong & too independent? Are strong, independent woman sexy?.or are they too difficult to nail down? Just wondering, I'm strong and independent and proud of it.... would this be a turn on for men or turn off? When i say independent i mean like, can look after themselves, a man is a great addition in their life but it doesn't mean that they're any less because they don't have one. They're strong well, well travelled, can hold their own in the world, career sorted etc...? Are these lovely qualities? Or is too much independence a bad thing.
RuggedlyHandsome Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Hello Daisy To me its a turn on because I like a strong, independent woman who is not afraid to take decisions, knows what she wants and is well travelled, well read and has a world view. But then obviously too strong a woman would just be absolutely ruthless, being men we want our woman to have that family and feminine characterstic to her where she has that homely side to her too. I believe after what you have said, you shouldn't have problems. Why did you ask the question though ? Are you with someone who thinks you are a handful lol ? Can a woman be too strong & too independent? Are strong, independent woman sexy?.or are they too difficult to nail down? Just wondering, I'm strong and independent and proud of it.... would this be a turn on for men or turn off? When i say independent i mean like, can look after themselves, a man is a great addition in their life but it doesn't mean that they're any less because they don't have one. They're strong well, well travelled, can hold their own in the world, career sorted etc...? Are these lovely qualities? Or is too much independence a bad thing.
Imported Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Will you clean the kitchen and bake me a cake? Or is that too much to expect. I have no problems taking out the trash and doing yard work.
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 Um.no I've been single for a long time and beginning to feel.proud of the length i still.find men that are clingy..a person who has been single for less than two years is not what I'm looking for. There is a guy whose been single for only two years but he's desperate to go out with me. So desperate he asked me to be his girlfriend through a text message. The man is 31. But he's never been outta the country ( new zealand ) and I've been to.crazy places. My life interests his, but his life does not interest mine. I was just wondering if they're a like minded people, who wanna strong woman to start a family with... who think like me? Some men want less learned woman but they're usually afraid of woman who have opinions of their own in case they're more intelligent than they are.
Shepp Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 I'm all thumbs up for a strong, feisty women. Other blokes will feel different! different strokes for different folks! 1
AdrianCrawley Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Can a woman be too strong & too independent? Are strong, independent woman sexy?.or are they too difficult to nail down? Just wondering, I'm strong and independent and proud of it.... would this be a turn on for men or turn off? When i say independent i mean like, can look after themselves, a man is a great addition in their life but it doesn't mean that they're any less because they don't have one. They're strong well, well travelled, can hold their own in the world, career sorted etc...? Are these lovely qualities? Or is too much independence a bad thing. Hmmm... since no strong independent woman has expressed an interest in me, I suppose they have high standards. Maybe higher then they can afford (men generally don't care about money in women, nor about their careers, men won't appreciate that, 'cause they don't compete with women). I did have something with the co-owner of a small food company a couple of years ago. She kept bossing me around, to the point I was turned off by her, I mean her attitude was a bone-killer (the first woman that succeeded in doing that to me, and fortunately, the only one that did this). Does that help ?
AdrianCrawley Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 I meant boner-killer. But the board wouldn't let me edit. So, very quickly, we became unable to have sex, as my body wouldn't fully cooperate anymore because of her attitude. I mean... in my interactions with her, not only sex, but the others as well, I started feeling used and abused. Not wanted, not respected, not treated like a man, but like some sort of man-dog.
bluegreen Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Can a woman be too strong & too independent? Are strong, independent woman sexy?.or are they too difficult to nail down? Just wondering, I'm strong and independent and proud of it.... would this be a turn on for men or turn off? When i say independent i mean like, can look after themselves, a man is a great addition in their life but it doesn't mean that they're any less because they don't have one. They're strong well, well travelled, can hold their own in the world, career sorted etc...? Are these lovely qualities? Or is too much independence a bad thing. I been dumped before because of this same thing now but man did it hurt then. Am still getting to career sorter part I guess am traveled some but for sure I can hold my own in world ...
RuggedlyHandsome Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Kiora Not at all. I lived in New Zealand for like 6 years so I am very familiar with the country and I love kiwis lol. Awesomest people ever. Well give me your email and lets chat or take mine. [email protected] Yeah okay I am all the way from new zealand though? Does this matter?
GemmaUK Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Oh..for a guy who is cool with me being independent..that would be bliss! I'm with you OP. I don't need a man but I would like one. One who is a man though...and not insecure. One who has passions for things... I don't want to be his focus in life. It's too much pressure and not healthy.
AdrianCrawley Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Oh..for a guy who is cool with me being independent..that would be bliss! I'm with you OP. I don't need a man but I would like one. One who is a man though...and not insecure. One who has passions for things... I don't want to be his focus in life. It's too much pressure and not healthy. Then you probably won't get one. Men don't stay where they are not needed. But boys may.
somedude81 Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 I feel that strong independent woman would leave me at the first sign of any trouble in the relationship. Or she might leave if she has a feeling that she isn't completely happy and she won't talk about it to me first. She'd just suddenly disappear. So no, I don't want a strong independent woman. I can't imagine being with somebody who would have no feelings of attachment to me.
bluegreen Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Adrian I like your name for specific reason Now for what you say it might be true but then each man has his own specific version of "being needed". 1
sagetalk Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 1. Can a woman be too strong & too independent? 2. Are strong, independent woman sexy?.or are they too difficult to nail down? 3. Are these lovely qualities? Or is too much independence a bad thing. 1. Absolutely, if they want to play the role of the man, they have gone too far. Only wimpy males will be attracted to them unless they are very physically attractive. But if you're physically attractive, you could be an axe murderer and get guys. 2. They can be, but their standards are often far above what they can actually attain. The only advice my Dad gave me point blank about women was regarding women who referred to themselves as "independent women". He said they could be great, but it could also mean they have had very weak men in their life growing up (parents divorced, drunk dad, abusive dad, weak minded anything goes dad). A girl with Daddy issues can be a huge pain in the butt for men. 3. Men like a level headed independent woman, but if you want the guy to be a world traveler, you have taken this too far. Travel has very little to do with independence, that's an entirely different issue altogether. Someone can be the neediest person in the world and love traveling the globe. Traveling is not independence. I read so many girls who think like this, especially in online dating. 1
GemmaUK Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Then you probably won't get one. Men don't stay where they are not needed. But boys may. Interesting post ..however I have a problem getting rid of men I am not interested in. These are not bad boys. No sex involved.
GemmaUK Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Deductive Reasoning Skills are awesome. There is I do not NEED a man and I do not need man. She means I do not NEED a man. I couldn't even fathom that post. Please explain your analysis of me?
sagetalk Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Interesting post ..however I have a problem getting rid of men I am not interested in. Don't friend zone them then, just tell them it's never going to happen and go no contact. Nothing hard about it.
Million.to.1 Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Hi from NZ OP! Yes. We, independant woman are very attractive to independant men.
Armegoggon Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 In my opinion, I think independence is not something that men should take for granted. It's not bad honestly. I think that being independent is more helpful. So what if society wants men to be more dominant? I'm an 18 year old boy and I struggle to take care of myself despite being intelligent at school. So what if that's true? I think that I'd really enjoy getting a girlfriend to take care of me emotionally.
GemmaUK Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Don't friend zone them then, just tell them it's never going to happen and go no contact. Nothing hard about it. I do say nothing is ever going to happen. I am very clear saying that I do not want any kind of relationship, not even friends and just ended up blocking them.
Legatus Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Nothing wrong with independent women. I do prefer someone who is in control of their lives but I would also like that person to admit that they need someone close to COMPLETE their life. You said a man is just an addition (yes I've added "just" on purpose), but that's what seems wrong to me. You can be strong, independent and sexy at the same time, but what would complete that perfect scenario is if you can admit all that is pointless without special someone. Someone who can be as big part of their life as all those qualities together. 1
GemmaUK Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 I think that I'd really enjoy getting a girlfriend to take care of me emotionally. That isn't someone else's responsibility. It's yours.
sagetalk Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 I do say nothing is ever going to happen. I am very clear saying that I do not want any kind of relationship, not even friends and just ended up blocking them. You've done all you can then, they sound like the kind of guys who need independent women. No wonder they are chasing you.
Armegoggon Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 That isn't someone else's responsibility. It's yours. Well I'm sure lots of guys do go through depressed girlfriends.
StanMusial Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 I'm all thumbs up for a strong, feisty women. Other blokes will feel different! different strokes for different folks! These are traits that can be held without the "independent" part. Let's be realistic here. In my experience, if a female labels herself "strong, independent", it is typically bad news. Most of the "strong personality" women I know, did indeed marry a guy that was more submissive. It works, but women who are "dating" don't like to hear it because they are not "attracted" to those types. At the end of the day, you want peace and harmony in your home... not oil and water. 2
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