MrGuy Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Been paranoid with my girlfriend with years, I always think she's lying to me and never being honest when she's not around me. I haven't caught her once doing anything. Except one time i thought i saw a name on her phone (hard to explain but her brother has the same name as my best friend) but i thought i saw two contacts of the same name. When i checked her phone i only saw one (this was just 2 hours later after i saw it) When i confronted her about it a few days later she said she doesn't talk to him ever nor does she have my friend on her phone and that I'm crazy. She said I want to see things that aren't there, I don't know what to do. Right now i feel like she's talking to him in secret and that both are starting something up. Every time I think something is happening nothing is, i seriously need help. Today i again asked her if any thing is going on and she was very upset and wanted me to go away. I left her alone, a few hours later we started talking again. Earlier today she did say something weird, she said "I was reading one of those stupid articles where it's like 10 ways to know if your partner is hiding something and some of them i did lol" so that made me iffy. Any who my gut keeps telling me something is up and that she's hiding something from me. She keep saying she really hates how i keep thinking those things about her. I don't know what to do
ASG Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 You know what? This is a self fulfilling prophecy. You keep doubting her and throwing it in her face, at some point she will just stop caring and move on You need help. This is NOT about your girlfriend, it's about YOU. 3
The Like Fairy Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 (edited) You know what? This is a self fulfilling prophecy. You keep doubting her and throwing it in her face, at some point she will just stop caring and move on You need help. This is NOT about your girlfriend, it's about YOU. Yeah, bingo. This sounds like a miserable existence. For you both. Your real fear is your inability to handle it if you did discover she was cheating. What would you do? How would you react? Would you consider suicide? How ridiculous is that? How would you deal with the pain? Would you become depressed for years on end? How ridiculous is that? Would you work through it or dump her? Why would she cheat? Do you feel insecure in certain areas of your relationship? Insecurity is a turn off. Confidence (natural, authentic confidence) is very attractive. Authentic confidence doesn't come from being perfect. It comes from accepting yourself as you are, imperfections and all, and being OK with it. Self love, as they say. Being comfortable in your own skin. You don't sound like you are. I don't think she's cheating. But if I were her I'd end this relationship with you, because it sounds miserable. Being alone sounds like a better gig than being with you, as you are right now, with your suspicious nature. No offense. Start trying to sort out some of these issues in yourself. Edited May 4, 2014 by The Like Fairy
Author MrGuy Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 I don't deny that i need help believe me ill take whatever help i can get. But how? How do i even start to fix myself?
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Have you been with someone who cheating on you then?
Author MrGuy Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 No but awhile back I thought the friends i had were my friends but then I found out that they all stole from me. They were all friends with the only best friend i have too, the one i think is talking to my girlfriend. 1
GemmaUK Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 (edited) So this is only one incident out of many? If she told you to go away you can pretty much consider she has had just about enough of this. For one thing you are totally disrespecting her. You have issues big time with insecurity and need to work on your confidence and stop making assumptions or you're going to lose her. This kind of behaviour can lead to being controlling and abusive. You need to get a handle on it before it gets to that stage. Edited May 5, 2014 by GemmaUK
Author MrGuy Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 I want help I don't deny i have a huge problem. Just when i think I'm getting better I can't get that thing off my head when I was very sure i saw my friend's name on her cell. But she denied it and even tried to find it to prove it wasn't on her phone (she didn't show me) she told me that i'm losing it and that I'm seeing what i want to see.
Targetlock Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 the first stage of dealing with a problem is admitting you have one so well done on that part. 1
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