Wisecrack Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Dinner, date went really well. Heck, we could have ended up in my back seat making out. The only thing that bugged me was that when she jumped into my car at the start of the evening, she let me know she had plans after - her best female friend was coming over at 9 as she was a personal trainer and needed to sort out her boot camp with her for tomorow morning. A friend of mine told me it showed I was not on her priority and should have simply taken her to a fast food joint round the corner, grabbed a coffee and dropped her off then go find another girl to take out. I obviously just brushed it off and had a good night that I don't regret paying for. She kissed me a few times when I went to just hug her and we hugged for a bit after when she got home but now I am not sure whether she actually liked me or she was just following protocol of a date.
OneMess Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Stop listening to friends, especially if they don't know her How did you feel? Like her enough to see her again? If so, ask her out again. If not, then why worry about what she thought of you?
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 As a woman I can tell you that it's a bad sign. 3
SYLLPalmer Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Was that your first meeting? If yes that could have been her way of limiting the duration of the date because she was unsure of how she was going to feel about you. How did it end? You said you could have ended up making out in the back seat of the car. Did either of you suggest contact going forward after that night? If you guys are young (16 to 25 +/-) it is not all that unusual for a girl to be super tight with her friends. A girls best friend is often the equivalent of a mother in law and the girl is sometimes torn in the beginning. This might explain why she would have had to cut it short. Silly but possible. 3
Author Wisecrack Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 As a woman I can tell you that it's a bad sign. Thanks! Thats what I thought. I'm just feeling mixed because besides that, everything else on the night went really well. I guess her kissing me first when I dropped her off and then kissing again and embracing has kind of confused me. If she walked off quickly or just hugged/ when for a cheek kiss, I'd get the message and leave it. Was that your first meeting? If yes that could have been her way of limiting the duration of the date because she was unsure of how she was going to feel about you. How did it end? You said you could have ended up making out in the back seat of the car. Did either of you suggest contact going forward after that night? If you guys are young (16 to 25 +/-) it is not all that unusual for a girl to be super tight with her friends. A girls best friend is often the equivalent of a mother in law and the girl is sometimes torn in the beginning. This might explain why she would have had to cut it short. Silly but possible. Thanks SYLL! Yeah it was our first meeting proper. We both brought up going out again throughout the night but I have not contacted her since the date and niether has she although we both knew that we both have full on weekends coming up. Yes again, we're both 20. I guess again as I replied to ES, I just feel so mixed and the kiss is probably what is confusing me...
OneMess Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 I still say if you're interested in her, it cannot hurt to ask her out again. The worst she can do is say is no. 1
MidwestUSA Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 I'm gonna go against the grain here. Has anyone here ever done boot camp? Is this something she already had planned? Boot camp is brutal. LOL! OP, ask her out again. 2
d0nnivain Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Was that your first meeting? If yes that could have been her way of limiting the duration of the date because she was unsure of how she was going to feel about you. This ^^ I have set limits like this myself to avoid possible temptation & also as a way of being safe. If I had immediate after plans, somebody would be missing me if I failed to show up. You can't be too careful. 1
hasaquestion Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Has it occurred to you that maybe she had a life and doesn't schedule her entire day around meeting a stranger? It's not a bad sign. she may not be interested but that has nothing to do with it. 3
Omei Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 There's nothing wrong with her seeing her friend in fact if she's a trainer and she is helping her friend for the boot camp that's supposed to start the very next day, she made time for YOU in the evening. Be happy.
Frank2thepoint Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Dinner, date went really well. Heck, we could have ended up in my back seat making out. The only thing that bugged me was that when she jumped into my car at the start of the evening, she let me know she had plans after - her best female friend was coming over at 9 as she was a personal trainer and needed to sort out her boot camp with her for tomorow morning. A friend of mine told me it showed I was not on her priority and should have simply taken her to a fast food joint round the corner, grabbed a coffee and dropped her off then go find another girl to take out. I obviously just brushed it off and had a good night that I don't regret paying for. She kissed me a few times when I went to just hug her and we hugged for a bit after when she got home but now I am not sure whether she actually liked me or she was just following protocol of a date. If she kissed you several times, she likes you. Well at least that's the impression I have when a girl kisses me back. Not sure about how you 20 year olds operate these days. She gave you a reasonable notice about her plans after the date. She was upfront and respectful. Yes it was also a way for her to ensure that if the date went bad, she'd have an easy escape. But it seems you guys had a good time, so give her credit. Just ask her out again. 1
deathandtaxes Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 OP - people have lives that don't involve around dating. I have good friends that I will help out. She let you know at the very beginning that she had limited time. She was being honest at least on that bit of info. Why the grief? Chill the frack out. 2
Hopeful30 Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Why does it matter if she had plans after or not? She's a busy girl and has things to do, and of course you're not top priority, you just met and went on ONE date. 1
Author Wisecrack Posted May 5, 2014 Author Posted May 5, 2014 Thanks guys, well things were to say the least awkward coming up to this point. I think she is not interested in me and maybe you guys can put the nail in the coffin for me? While I don't message her as much I shot a message just to check in and got a brief but good reply before no reply after. Saw her in class tonight and she was acting very distant towards me. Absolutely no flirtation and she seemed very distant and on edge compared to her usual self - no normal showing off or anything to get my attention. Occasionally she'd have a quick stare at me. Still acknowledged me though when we were all talking together as a group but. Thing is when I got the opportunity to pull her aside and tease her a bit, her face lighted up but besides that, it looked like she had her poker face on all night.
saltyfishhead666 Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 Thanks guys, well things were to say the least awkward coming up to this point. I think she is not interested in me and maybe you guys can put the nail in the coffin for me? While I don't message her as much I shot a message just to check in and got a brief but good reply before no reply after. Saw her in class tonight and she was acting very distant towards me. Absolutely no flirtation and she seemed very distant and on edge compared to her usual self - no normal showing off or anything to get my attention. Occasionally she'd have a quick stare at me. Still acknowledged me though when we were all talking together as a group but. Thing is when I got the opportunity to pull her aside and tease her a bit, her face lighted up but besides that, it looked like she had her poker face on all night. Maybe she's just nervous about how to proceed now...
isisisweeping Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 If she's a personal trainer, those plans were not only plans but WORK. Are we really upset if someone has work later to get to???? Seriously? I don't think plans mean anything either. Some of us have busy lives we have to carry on. So we should clear our whole day schedule for a date? You know... I think the next day should be cleared too, just in case- I mean if she really liked you.
StanMusial Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 Thanks guys, well things were to say the least awkward coming up to this point. I think she is not interested in me and maybe you guys can put the nail in the coffin for me? While I don't message her as much I shot a message just to check in and got a brief but good reply before no reply after. Saw her in class tonight and she was acting very distant towards me. Absolutely no flirtation and she seemed very distant and on edge compared to her usual self - no normal showing off or anything to get my attention. Occasionally she'd have a quick stare at me. Still acknowledged me though when we were all talking together as a group but. Thing is when I got the opportunity to pull her aside and tease her a bit, her face lighted up but besides that, it looked like she had her poker face on all night. From the way you describe the class situation, it could be that she was just keeping up appearances in the group setting. Hard to say though. Women can be fickle creatures. Especially at that age. Don't get too bent over this, you're in school so there should be plenty of hot young tail around.
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 Only one way to find out...ASK HER OUT AGAIN! Stop torturing yourself and over analyzing the situation. If you like her and want to see her again, ask her out again and see how THAT date goes. It's way too soon to start making all these assumptions. 3
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