bu2002 Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 I'm not that experienced with dating or it's been awhile rather. How quickly should spark/chemistry be present? If you've been talking with someone for a month, one date a week (total of 4), there should be some butterflies at this point right? Should there be signs of "missing" her when you're not with her?
sagetalk Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 I would like a little bit more info on each date. Nothing too descriptive, just an overview of your feelings from each date.
tlegend Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 I'm not that experienced with dating or it's been awhile rather. How quickly should spark/chemistry be present? If you've been talking with someone for a month, one date a week (total of 4), there should be some butterflies at this point right? Should there be signs of "missing" her when you're not with her? Everyone is different, but its perfectly normal to miss the company of someone you enjoy being with.
GemmaUK Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Spark from when I meet them. I don't know that I would miss someone after only 4 dates but I would want to be looking forward to seeing them and catching up. 4 dates isn't many over a month though presuming you are localish to each other. Too much or too little communication in between dates can make me not look forward to seeing them though.
hopefullove Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 4 dates im usually in love lol. I acknowledge in my brain. then i acknowledge that I am crazy. But if anyone makes it to 4 dates, that's a HUGE feat because I am extremely picky.
DArtagnan2 Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 It all depends on how you are wired. You continue to go on dates with her, so there must be something there for you, no? bonding, connecting and even falling in love comes in many different forms and not just the "butterfly" one. You may already be building something solid with this person regardless. But only you would know where you stand.
Author bu2002 Posted May 3, 2014 Author Posted May 3, 2014 It all depends on how you are wired. You continue to go on dates with her, so there must be something there for you, no? bonding, connecting and even falling in love comes in many different forms and not just the "butterfly" one. You may already be building something solid with this person regardless. But only you would know where you stand. I was setup with this girl by friend (she works with this girl). This friend also setup my brother and my now sister-in-law so I thought maybe she's a good match maker and probably giving it more of a chance than I would if it was a girl I met online I have had to initiate all communications and when I kissed her it only ended up as a couple of pecks. She has such a busy social calendar that it's hard to talk daily or meet up more than once, so the dates are the only way to build rapport really. I'm trying to give this a chance but I'm not having any sort of euphoric feeling about her. We hung out last night, but she was tired from the week from all of her social events during the week. So the energy level was down. If I went the next couple of days without contacting her, I really wouldn't care I don't think.
DArtagnan2 Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 I was setup with this girl by friend (she works with this girl). This friend also setup my brother and my now sister-in-law so I thought maybe she's a good match maker and probably giving it more of a chance than I would if it was a girl I met online I have had to initiate all communications and when I kissed her it only ended up as a couple of pecks. She has such a busy social calendar that it's hard to talk daily or meet up more than once, so the dates are the only way to build rapport really. I'm trying to give this a chance but I'm not having any sort of euphoric feeling about her. We hung out last night, but she was tired from the week from all of her social events during the week. So the energy level was down. If I went the next couple of days without contacting her, I really wouldn't care I don't think. then you have your answer really. But I can see you hoping / trying given how it turned out for your brother. But it seems she is not really trying to do much either. Social calendars can be changed, she appears to be ok with how things are as well . Or, she isn't feeling it much from you and isn't putting much effort in to it either. We feed off what the other is putting out as well. Possibly, its just something to leave as is. If you feel that continuing the effort is more of chore then pleasure, then yeh, time to just put this aside for the moment.
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