Update: There Really is a Silver Lining to Every Bad Breakup...

[Mr.Pine]

Hello everyone...

 

Good news and bad news.

 

Good news, I met someone new recently who digs me and whom I dig in return. A very healthy and copacetic union.

 

Bad news, I won't be frequenting this place as often because it kinda/sorta reminds me of what I lost.

 

I want to thank everyone here who didn't judge me and helped me out with some amazing advice and words of wisdom. I, in turn, threw down some advice that mirrored most of the people here. Although some of the new visitors felt I was a bit too harsh and blunt, it's really the only way to get my point across. Tough love.

 

Bottom line, you will find someone else. Someone better. Someone you're more compatible with. It may take days, weeks or even months. But it will happen. You just need to believe, be patient and go easy on yourself.

 

For the first month or so, I hated myself, my life and did nothing but pine for my ex, which basically explains my moniker.

 

I am no longer pining. I have let go and I have forgiven. I won't soon forget, but the memories I have will be less painful.

 

For those of you who think there is no light at the end of their broken-hearted tunnel, do not fret. You will find happiness again.

 

Much love and respect to everyone here. And best of luck.

 

Signed,

 

Mr. Pine who no longer pines for anyone.

[mtnbiker3000]

LOL!!! Well, Mr Pine, I do hope you are correct. Just seems a little weird that you just joined a few weeks ago and already on your way out, claiming no more 'pining'. Have you grieved? Have you processed? Have you grown? Have you learned anything about yourself? About the opposite sex? About relationships? Or are you just jumping blindly into another to help ease the pain?

 

I only say this as I've seen it before, many times here. It might just be a false sense of indifference. But, I truly hope for your sake, I am wrong.

 

God speed...

[Mr.Pine]

LOL!!! Well, Mr Pine, I do hope you are correct. Just seems a little weird that you just joined a few weeks ago and already on your way out, claiming no more 'pining'. Have you grieved? Have you processed? Have you grown? Have you learned anything about yourself? About the opposite sex? About relationships? Or are you just jumping blindly into another to help ease the pain?

 

I only say this as I've seen it before, many times here. It might just be a false sense of indifference. But, I truly hope for your sake, I am wrong.

 

God speed...

 

Biker,

 

Yes, I am a relatively new member. And yes, I have grieved and processed and grown. If you remember my story, I lost my apartment, my cat, my job and my girl in the same week. It was devastating. That was back in February.

 

Since then, I have found a better job, decent place to live and, although no new kitty cats, I have met a wonderful new woman. I took it slow and am seeing some positive results. No jumping blindly. But I am taking baby steps.

 

I appreciate your concern and will keep you posted. I am happy. Happier than I have been in a long, long time. If this relationship sours, it's ok. The fact that I was able to find happiness again is the clincher that my pining days are over.

[mtnbiker3000]

Brother. If this all went down in February as you describe... then unless you possess super human abilities at letting go and moving on, this is extremely worrisome!!! I mean how could you have possibly grown, grieved and processed so quickly?? And what you describe does not allow for 'taking it slow'. That is an oxymoron...

 

It's just not possible. There is no way you can be ready to be with someone new. Again, I am only stating this because it has disaster written all over it and I fear you may go down in flames and be way worse off then if you were just toiling in hell for a while like the rest of us

 

But... I do wish you luck!!

[Mr.Pine]

Brother. If this all went down in February as you describe... then unless you possess super human abilities at letting go and moving on, this is extremely worrisome!!! I mean how could you have possibly grown, grieved and processed so quickly??

 

It's just not possible. There is no way you can be ready to be with someone new. Again, I am only stating this because it has disaster written all over it and I fear you may go down in flames and be way worse off then if you were just toiling in hell for a while like the rest of us

 

But... I do wish you luck!!

 

Some of us are more resilient than others, I guess. The more time that has gone by with NC, the easier it was to grieve and process and move on.

 

I'm sorry it sounds so unbelievable to you. These past few weeks, I just haven't thought about my ex like I did in the very beginning. I've gone an actual day or two with nary a thought. And when I do think of her, it's nothing harsh or bitter or pain inducing.

 

Believe, brother. It can (and will) happen for you as well.

 

P.S. Taking it slow for me means not bumping uglies on the first date. I waited until the more acceptable third date.

[mtnbiker3000]

Well... OK then!! I hope it works out!!!

[Jiivy]

I truly wish you all the best. Hope you find happiness in you, for you!

[elseaacych]

This sounds like a line from a bad breakup, but, we're here if you need us.

[Mr.Pine]

I truly wish you all the best. Hope you find happiness in you, for you!

 

Thank you. I really appreciate it.

[Mr.Pine]

This sounds like a line from a bad breakup, but, we're here if you need us.

 

It doesn't at all and you're extremely kind.