jonsnuh Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 Is there like a tactic that women (or even men) use when they say they're on a trip for a month? I get the feeling it's an excuse to put someone on the backburner, or to distance themselves to stop you from responding... like a muzzle.
Mrin Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 Sure I guess. Or they could be in a trip for a month. Ask for pics of cool things she sees. If she doesn't do it, no trip and no interest. Next!
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 It sounds fishy if only because who can really afford to go on vacation for a whole month these days?! How were things going before she let you know about the trip? It's hard to give better feedback when there isn't much background about your relationship.
Author jonsnuh Posted May 2, 2014 Author Posted May 2, 2014 It sounds fishy if only because who can really afford to go on vacation for a whole month these days?! How were things going before she let you know about the trip? It's hard to give better feedback when there isn't much background about your relationship. The reason why I didn't bring up the context is because I was curious if this was a common excuse that people bring up. I've seen two instances when this was used: by my ex after she gave me the ultimatum during the bargaining process, and by a woman that I was engaged in conversation that I mentioned in an earlier thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/473888-when-banter-goes-intellectual-discussion-potential-date I just received a response from the latter girl after 5 days. She said she hadn't been on POF since she finished school and that she had been reconnecting with friends and family, preparing for a trip and didn't have time to check the site or respond to messages (I did see her online once in a while, but for how long I will never know-- I never was the stalker type). She apologized for having led me on this past week, complimented me for being cool, and said that she would love to get to know me and hang out, and perhaps reconnect in June to see where things go! This may have been her friendzoning me? I asked her if she had any feedback and thanked her for a great conversation previously. This was in her own words: In terms of feedback, I don't have anything negative to say. You seem like a very intelligent and interesting guy that I would have enjoyed getting to know if I had more time and was in the right headspace. I really enjoyed our little intellectual/philosophical debate, and I feel like I learned a few things from you, which is always nice! Hopefully you did too. Best of luck on here, and hope to be in touch soon!
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