Hungup123 Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 Had a great first date with a girl and I'd like to keep it going. Hung out for about 3 hours, lost track of time, kissed at the end. All good so far. She texts me this morning about how coffee is her friend etc etc. and we've exchanged a few messages. At the end of the date yesterday she told me she had exams for the entire next week. I'd like to schedule a 2nd date, and not draw out the texting, but would it be too forward (aka desperate) if I ask her now (knowing she said she would be jammed next week) or should I just continue out the flirting texts and try later on.
d0nnivain Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 On some levels I'm a "game player" in that I'm conscious of the timing & worry about seeming desperate. I'd send a coffee related response but then not communicate for the rest of the day. Tomorrow, I'd call her & set up the date saying you wanted to nail something down before she gets bogged down in exams because you don't want to bother her next week. Make it clear that you would be happy if she called you if she needs a study break but you are going to lay low while she's busy. Depending on how close (meaning nearby) to her you are you may want to make her an exam / study kit: a highlighter, a # 2 pencil, a small thing of coffee, a stress ball, an energy bar & perhaps some sort of goofy cheap ($2) stuffed thing that says 'hang in there'. My vision is that you spend $10 -$15, nothing big.
Valen Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 If dating has become like this where we have to second guess each and single decision, how can we even enjoy the process? It would drive me crazy. I suggest doing what comes natural to you. The whole point of dating is to find your match and she would respond favorably if she is the right one for you. 1
Author Hungup123 Posted May 2, 2014 Author Posted May 2, 2014 If dating has become like this where we have to second guess each and single decision, how can we even enjoy the process? It would drive me crazy. I suggest doing what comes natural to you. The whole point of dating is to find your match and she would respond favorably if she is the right one for you. I completely agree. I will admit though that I suffer from the "awesome with girls I don't care about, and turn into a bumbling fool with girls I like" disease. So far I just threw a few jokes and teasing at her, and will probably schedule something in a few days. Start it off with something like "good luck on your exams coming up, let me know when you're free and we'll celebrate"
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 If dating has become like this where we have to second guess each and single decision, how can we even enjoy the process? It would drive me crazy. I suggest doing what comes natural to you. The whole point of dating is to find your match and she would respond favorably if she is the right one for you. AMEN to this!!! Take a chance. Women enjoy being pursued (not stalked) and until she tells you otherwise, go for it.
mammasita Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 Set something up now. Say something along the lines of "I know you're pretty busy this next week, but can you pencil me in for a coffee date when things slow down for you". Then continue with the flirty texts. Simple. 1
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