Break down my first date? Why do I feel it went bad?

[Guitarisgood]

We've known each other for while so it was inevitable the flirting and tension would lead to something. So I took her out. Here is how it unfolded:

 

-Initially she had let me know she had to be home before 9 as she was helping her best friend (business) organise her boot camp for the next day - seemed legit and we were on time to it.

-Walking, my hand would accidentally brush against hers so she'd tease me about trying to make a move which I was totally not. I did after we got dinner but and held her hand then.

-Dinner went well and we were chatting really well, got to know one another and found out we had a lot in common and even our views on the world.

-She laughed at everything I said while out that night

-Then we got a bit wishy washy as I tried to think up things to do because it was so cold - I suggested relaxing at a park and me giving her a massage but she suggested in the car instead. We ended up round the corner ordering dessert but deciding against as we both were not feeling it and then I dropped her home.

-Dropping her off, she thanked me for the night, said she was paying next time we went out etc.

-Going for the kiss it was two quick kisses before she raced off inside. Funny thing is she is the one who went in for the kiss.

 

I guess my previous first date experiences have consisted of something a bit more passionate and this felt lacking. Everything felt rushed towards the end. She is definitely different to other girls I've dated. While we are so similar, we are just as different - me being still at university and her a working professional girl for at least 5 years now (same age though).

 

So how do you guys think I went? Am I over thinking this? I feel I could have done better. Have not even received a 'thanks I had a great night' message from her either.

Edited May 2, 2014 by Guitarisgood

[hopefullove]

Mmmm sounds fine to me. You got a kiss which may or may not mean anything. I've kissed guys when I've been bored before, but if they make a move to kiss me. If I make a move to kiss that means I am interested.

 

I'm always weary of guys who want to massage me. Guys always wanna massage me. It's such a slimey move I think, you just want some reason to touch me and "relax" me... I don't trust any guy who wants to massage me right away, like seriously keep your paws off me, I am a lady.

 

She said she was paying next time, that's nice!

There's a next time then.

 

Hey passion fizzles out. Take it slow and get to know her respectfully. Y'all still strangers you know. Dont think so much and just treat her with respect. Just cus you're not groping each other doesn't mean it's bad, id take a look at what your expectations are.

[Gaeta]

-Walking, my hand would accidentally brush against hers so she'd tease me about trying to make a move which I was totally not. I did after we got dinner but and held her hand then. .

That's good, but her joke about if you're trying to make a move on her is indicative doesn't totally see you as romantic prospect. She is unsure if she sees you that way.

 

-Dinner went well and we were chatting really well, got to know one another and found out we had a lot in common and even our views on the world. -She laughed at everything I said while out that night

That's good but friends have fun like this too, I have had fun like this with dates I did not wish to meet a second time. I had a good time but once home I decided that the chemistry was not there or the man wasn't for me.

 

-Then we got a bit wishy washy as I tried to think up things to do because it was so cold - I suggested relaxing at a park and me giving her a massage but she suggested in the car instead.

Bad move, bad suggestion, I hate it so much when a guy brings up a 'massage' on a first date, it's such an insult to our intelligence..and a massage in the car? huh?

 

-Dropping her off, she thanked me for the night, said she was paying next time we went out etc.

Oppsss I beleive you've just been friend zoned. There was no reasons for her to bring that up now. I think it was done on purpose to put you back at a friendly distance.

 

-Going for the kiss it was two quick kisses before she raced off inside. Funny thing is she is the one who went in for the kiss.

The kiss means nothing. Sometimes if I don't really feel the guy I will kiss him to see if it changes how I view or feel about him.

 

So how do you guys think I went? Am I over thinking this? I feel I could have done better. Have not even received a 'thanks I had a great night' message from her either.

In my opinion it's because she didn't feel you.

 

You could contact her and offer a second date. Maybe it just needs a little boost but don't be disappointed if suddenly she's too busy.

[Guitarisgood]

Thanks guys! Well I thought just grabbing a blanket and relaxing on the grass looking at stars was going to be a good idea. The massage thing comes as I'm a qualified masseur and when she found out, she's been pesting me for a massage. So definately not interested then hey?

[Versacehottie]

overthinking. go out again

[Guitarisgood]

So she never sent a 'thanks I enjoyed the night' text. I know she is busy today. Do I have to get in touch with her? Or can I leave it til I see her next. I will be seeing her in night class in another days time.