SciFiWriter Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Am just visiting again (under a new name) In my previous incarnation - before I lost my password details - I was Thunder Child. Around mid-Feb 2013 my partner of 5 years announced that she was pregnant - by someone else! Those were pretty damned dark and despairing days. However, I had a neck stiffer than a lamp post, a healthy dose of self-respect and a f*ck you I'll-cut-off-my-nose-to-spite-my-face sweetheart! attitude. Plus, I also had this board and all the good (but slightly crazy) people that populate it. Where are you people now? So, for all you folks feeling the pain out there, right now, take heart. There is an ending to that tunnel of darkness and hurt. And, pay attention to the folks on this board - they talk a lot of sense. Remember (1) No Contact, (2) Don't fall for the 'let's-be-friends' BS and (3) Work on you - never mind them! They've lost you, and that's their loss! UPDATE: Well, since that split, I've kept up with my sci-fi writing career. 2013 was a bit of a washout for that, but, still I managed to get two more novels published plus a handful of short stories. One of my historical novels in under consideration by a big UK publisher - and, taking their own ******* sweet time getting back to me! C'est la Vie. But, my head had been all over the place in 2013, so I'm astonished that I managed to get anything done at all! This year, there's a new series pilot novel already written, and submitted, plus two more revised/resubmitted. I'm in the middle of a new novel with several ideas bubbling away in the background. Sometimes, there just aren't enough hours in the day. I've lost quite a bit of weight, but now it's getting harder, so I've had a backslide - after being stuck at the same weight for months - but now I'm on the weight loss streak again. I've taken up ballroom dancing - and have discovered that I have two left feet and very little co-ordination (thank God I'm still handsome ) I've also gotten into a pub quiz team and are doing well in the local quiz league. Nothing on the romantic front as yet - probably a good thing. I didn't dive into some pointless series of hook-up encounters. I still had some self-respect and respect for others. As for her: she had her sprog - a mutual friend on facebook posted a pic without realising that I would see it back at Xmas. TBQH, she looked pretty rough (having put on quite a bit of weight). She lost her job (working as a Property Manager) most likely through diddling the petty cash. The people I know - who worked with her - told me that she was claiming unfair dismissal. In the UK, organisations that sack pregnant women unfairly face claims of hundreds of thousands of pounds. So, I suspect that she was caught with her hand in the cookie jar. Strangely, there was no hurt with seeing the picture. Just a kind of morbid fascination. Like when you rubberneck at a road accident. It just confirmed that I'd dodged a bullet. And, from what I can piece together, I've avoided a narcissistic personality with strong sociopath tendencies. I know it is easy to throw around labels, but a whole lot of things now make sense within that frame. So, onwards and upwards. I'll drift in and out of here again to see how folks are doing. 1
No Limit Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 I'm curious, can you give me a few titles that were written by you? And yeah, you did dodge a bullet. A cheater, Lord no, and a pregnant one? HELL no. But yeah, I think her actions have led her to a darker place. Be glad you weren't dragged into that pit. I just wonder what the babies ' father's doing? I doubt some guy having a fling with a selfish chick will go for a relationship.
Author SciFiWriter Posted May 1, 2014 Author Posted May 1, 2014 Hi No Limit How's things with you? If you're a sci-fi fan, I write the "First Admiral" series, plus various other bits and bobs. Yep, definite bullet-dodging situation there. She told me that it was a Xmas Party Fling, but, since I long realised that anything that came out of her mouth was a load of horse-sh*t, I can't be bothered speculating. Let them get on with it - far far away from me!
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