Gauranga Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 This really sucks, just in a lot of pain. Our relationship started off rocky, but was finally getting SO good the past 6 months (2 years known, 1 year dating). She moved early March for another job 2 hours away, and I was upset at first, but actually the LDR made it even easier than before. We both really liked that we would have time to talk throughout the week, and then connect on the weekends. I felt that we would be able to overcome any obstacle in our relationship because we were communicating very well on any issues. The deal breaker is that I am vegetarian and my beliefs restrict me from raising non-veg children. My compromise was for the children to be raised vegetarian until 5, and they can decide to eat meat or not. She is different, she wants them to eat meat the whole time, it's a bonding issue for her at that young age. For me, it is difficult to have them wait until 5 and then decide to be vegetarian because it is also tied into a religion where meat eating is prohibited. She feels that she would be missing a connection with her children in sharing experiences and values she had as a child herself. She wants a family where she can wake up and cook breakfast, and everyone has the same meal. I never wanted children until I met her. Once I realized that I did want a family, I knew that I couldn't have them eating meat. While I really wish we would have reached some sort of compromise, I don't want her to miss out on the family experience she desires, and I'm unwilling to raise children eating meat straight from the start. It's NC right now, we broke up yesterday, we've had 2 breaks, the longest of 2 weeks. I really don't see another solution except indefinite NC, but that's why I'm right here. I FEEL like I'm missing something, a compromise, or an answer. Like I don't fully understand my own thought or feelings, and so questions/feedback would be really appreciated.
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