waterlily44 Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Hi everyone, I recently started dating a guy about 3 months ago and now he has asked me to move in with him. The problem is that he has been for the past 3 years and still is texting and seeing his ex wife after not speaking to her after a bitter divorce 9 years ago. He says that they are just good friends, but I am having doubts as why should he be seeing her when he has me? His children are grown up now so its not as if he has to keep in touch because of them. Am I justified in my concern? I don't want to move in with him if he still has feelings for his ex.
CarrieT Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Hi everyone, I recently started dating a guy about 3 months ago and now he has asked me to move in with him. I didn't have to read much beyond this to say, NOOOOOO!!!! You need to know a guy through all four season - at least 12 months - before moving in with him. Your problem is less about him texting his ExWife so much as that you barely know him. And if this is already a red flag for you, learn about the other ones -- because there WILL be more! -- before you move in with him. 7
J2911 Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 I completely agree with Carrie on this ..... NO This is a red flag for you . Please rethink moving in together to a dont move in together at this point . 1
Raena Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Yeah, I agree with the other posters... you are focused on worrying about his relationship with is ex when what you should really be worrying about is why are you considering moving in together so quickly? But, since you did ask about the ex-wife, yes, it could be a huge red flag. If I were you, I'd want to actually meet her and find out what her perspective on the situation is before even continuing the relationship with him and completely forget about the idea of living together until after you've gotten to know him better. 1
Author waterlily44 Posted May 1, 2014 Author Posted May 1, 2014 Yeah, I agree with the other posters... you are focused on worrying about his relationship with is ex when what you should really be worrying about is why are you considering moving in together so quickly? But, since you did ask about the ex-wife, yes, it could be a huge red flag. If I were you, I'd want to actually meet her and find out what her perspective on the situation is before even continuing the relationship with him and completely forget about the idea of living together until after you've gotten to know him better. Thanks everyone, I was having my doubts about the relationship anyway and I will certainly follow your good advice
Assasda Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Thanks everyone, I was having my doubts about the relationship anyway and I will certainly follow your good advice lol you were having your doubts about the relationship, and you were thinking of moving in with him. hahahahaha 2
Author waterlily44 Posted May 2, 2014 Author Posted May 2, 2014 The guy has now said he will not be in touch with his ex anymore if it is effecting me emotionally
MidwestUSA Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 The guy has now said he will not be in touch with his ex anymore if it is effecting me emotionally That's NOT a go ahead to move in with him. Don't do it. Follow Carrie's guideline, it's a good one.
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