HopefulandTrue Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Alright, so there’s this guy that I work with. We’re both cashiers at a store. We’ve worked together since maybe January. For that past month though, we’ve been talking to each other a lot at work. Throughout our shifts together, we’ll make playful flirty faces at each other and we tease each other here and there. A few days ago, he asked why I was making a face at him. I asked “what face” in a joking type way and he said the faces I make at him are cute. He also comments on every outfit I wear telling me he thinks a certain item is cute and tells me he likes my hair. When we don’t have any customers, he always makes a point to walk over to my register to talk to me and he even lingers sometimes when customers start to form again. About a week ago, he saw a guy customer walk up to me to tell me something and when the guy left, he asked me what the guy said. A couple of days later, he kind of made it a point to give me his phone number. Yesterday we texted each other a few times (he sent some winking smiley faces). He then sent a text asking if I worked the next day because he wanted to know if I wanted to hang out. I sent a text back saying “Ohhh…not tomorrow. But sometime soon.” He didn’t respond back and I didn’t really expect him to. I’m just curious how he probably interpreted my response. I want to hang out with him, but I couldn’t that day because of work and I was kind of nervous responding to him in the first place. I don’t want him to think I’m not interested, because I am. I’m not sure of what to do from here if anything.
David87 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Let him 'conquer' you if you like him that much. He will ask you out sooner or later, accept and see how it goes. 1
Omei Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 (edited) But he already did ask her out.... And OP you did give a uninterested response. Now you will prob have to ask him if you would like to see him you kinda crushed it with the "Ohhhh not tomorrow but sometime" It's up to you now, since you are busy and declined the first invite its natural for him to wait till you tell him your available, ask him out. Edited April 30, 2014 by Omei 4
David87 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 But he already did ask her out.... And OP you did give a uninterested response. Now you will prob have to ask him if you would like to see him you kinda crushed it with the "Ohhhh not tomorrow but sometime" It's up to you now, since you are busy and declined the first invite its natural for him to wait till you tell him your available, ask him out. He asked her to hang out not on a real date..... 1
somedude81 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 He asked her to hang out not on a real date..... Same thing. Very few guys use the word date. Though now if HopefulandTrue is a little bold, and if she wants to; she can text him "You know when you asked me if I wanted to hang out, did you mean that as a date? Because I'd like to go on one " 3
David87 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Same thing. Very few guys use the word date. Though now if HopefulandTrue is a little bold, and if she wants to; she can text him "You know when you asked me if I wanted to hang out, did you mean that as a date? Because I'd like to go on one " O well I guess I'm old school....for me the first 'date' is very important. . . 2
Omei Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Date or hang he did ask and she declined so hes prob at a loss and hopes she will come around. Yeah I think a lot of guys dont use the word date. 1
Author HopefulandTrue Posted April 30, 2014 Author Posted April 30, 2014 So, even though I put the words "sometime soon", it showed uninterest? I might see him at work later. I need more suggestions on what to say. I'm not sure I feel bold enough to mention a date yet. I've never dated before, so he would be my first date if this all goes right. Thanks for all the input so far; I need more please! By the way, this guy knows I'm kinda quiet, so maybe he thinks I was a bit nervous or something.
Omei Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 It was the "Ohhhh not tomorrow" part the longated Oh makes it seem non concerning, you say not tomorrow but dont express what it is that has you tied up and the sometime is like an iffy blow off. Texting has to be very clear because there is no emotion or body expression saying something like... "I can't today im helping my mother but next week or the weekend which day?" See that gives reason so there will be no feelings of rejection and it gave a more believeable answer to if you will actually hang sometime. You dont have to call it a date he didnt but im sure his intentions is to eventually get there, text him or call and ask if he would like to hang out you offer a day and see if he can make that if he cannot you then ask which day is good for him and back and forth till a day has been set. 1
Author HopefulandTrue Posted April 30, 2014 Author Posted April 30, 2014 I sent him a text letting him know that I didn't mean for my previous text to look the way it did and I let him know that I do want to hang out. He replied back saying he figuared that and for me to let him know when I'm available. Thanks for the feedback everyone!!! Greatly appreciated! 2
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