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ML,

You said - post#37

 

And what if it's her that has dropped her standards to be with me? Just a thought...
Are you for real ?!

 

All I'm getting from your postings is that this girl's mindset is "I-want-what-I-want-and-I-want-it-now" accompanied by "if-I-don't-get-what-I-want-I'll-scream-and-acream-and-scream-until-I'm-sick".

 

You asked for suggestions and here is my last piece of advice to you.

Put your hand down the front of your pants. You should be able to feel two round wobbly things attached to your body.

 

(If you can't, then stop reading now because no-one can help you, sorry.)

 

If you can feel them then you know you've got them and you know what to do.:rolleyes:

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Thanks for your post and I am not ignoring your advice or anyone's for that matter, I'm sorry if you are getting frustrated.

 

Unfortunately reality is as you find it, seldom how you wish it to be.

 

The reality here is she could replace me instantly. Could I replace her so easily? Not a chance.

 

You have to understand how different dating is for guys and girls.

 

Just look at the numerous "can't get a girl" threads on Loveshack for details.

 

ML,

You said - post#37

 

Are you for real ?!

 

All I'm getting from your postings is that this girl's mindset is "I-want-what-I-want-and-I-want-it-now" accompanied by "if-I-don't-get-what-I-want-I'll-scream-and-acream-and-scream-until-I'm-sick".

 

You asked for suggestions and here is my last piece of advice to you.

Put your hand down the front of your pants. You should be able to feel two round wobbly things attached to your body.

 

(If you can't, then stop reading now because no-one can help you, sorry.)

 

If you can feel them then you know you've got them and you know what to do.:rolleyes:

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I don't mind the clothes in general, and yes she still is a 9+...

 

But my oldest brother is a very successful man and he bought the apartment my girlfriend and I are living in and it just rubs me the wrong way that she would turn up so casually to meet him and my other brother and cousins etc.

 

LOL I wasn't meaning "rating" I was meaning she's not 10 years old PMSL

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Unfortunately reality is as you find it, seldom how you wish it to be.

 

The reality here is she could replace me instantly. Could I replace her so easily? Not a chance.

 

You have to understand how different dating is for guys and girls.

 

Just look at the numerous "can't get a girl" threads on Loveshack for details.

The issue is how you conduct yourself and how you come across. Not the fact that you are a guy or that she is hot. There are a lot of men out there who are successful with good looking women. Respect is an important part of that. Women find doormat attitudes incredibly unattractive, that's the reason for your lack of success. Not the fact that you are a man.

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LOL I wasn't meaning "rating" I was meaning she's not 10 years old PMSL

 

Sorry, my mistake, I misread that part of your post :)

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Sorry, my mistake, I misread that part of your post :)

 

no problemo ;)

 

op - you need to get to a place where you are happy within yourself.

 

I and most people would rather be single and on here moaning about their terrible dates than having a partner who doesn't respect them.

 

Just because she's hot doesn't make her right for you.

 

You seem like you have a mature attitude and she sounds like a bratty immature child. You really should find someone more on your wave length.

 

You certainly lowered your expectations to date her - it wasn't the other way around.

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Thanks. I appreciate it.

 

The sad thing is I really thought she was perfect when we were friends.

 

There are things I love about her... obviously her hotness, but she is also sweet and considerate at times.

 

If only there were a way to remove her negative traits :)

 

But honestly my options are limited.

 

I tried to indicate my interest to another friend a while back. She's a single mom and I get along well with her and her daughter. But she didn't really respond and we just stayed friends.

 

I had an opportunity to sleep with some drunk girls in college but couldn't bring myself to do it.

 

So what other options do I have? Either approaching strange girls or doing online dating, neither of which seem like very good options if you read the numerous threads on LS about them...

 

At the moment I have a very hot yet admittedly flawed girlfriend but I should probably stop complaining and enjoy the fact that I actually have her.

 

no problemo ;)

 

op - you need to get to a place where you are happy within yourself.

 

I and most people would rather be single and on here moaning about their terrible dates than having a partner who doesn't respect them.

 

Just because she's hot doesn't make her right for you.

 

You seem like you have a mature attitude and she sounds like a bratty immature child. You really should find someone more on your wave length.

 

You certainly lowered your expectations to date her - it wasn't the other way around.

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Thanks. I appreciate it.

 

The sad thing is I really thought she was perfect when we were friends.

 

There are things I love about her... obviously her hotness, but she is also sweet and considerate at times.

 

If only there were a way to remove her negative traits :)

 

But honestly my options are limited.

 

I tried to indicate my interest to another friend a while back. She's a single mom and I get along well with her and her daughter. But she didn't really respond and we just stayed friends.

 

I had an opportunity to sleep with some drunk girls in college but couldn't bring myself to do it.

 

So what other options do I have? Either approaching strange girls or doing online dating, neither of which seem like very good options if you read the numerous threads on LS about them...

 

At the moment I have a very hot yet admittedly flawed girlfriend but I should probably stop complaining and enjoy the fact that I actually have her.

 

OMG!!! I just realized who you are!!

 

You are the bloke with the friend with a baby? Who had fallen out with your girlfriend and your girlfriend said she didn't want you to go to dinner with this friend?

 

DUDE WHAT ARE YOU STILL DOING WITH HER???????????????

 

Now I know who you are - you certainly need to be single and find someone else.

 

I thought she was a disrespectful brat in the last post - I am thinking it even more now.

 

What's it going to take for you to say CYA LATER to this girl?

 

She's already disrespected you, your things, your car and now your family? When does it end?

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Yes!

 

And the drama between that friend and my girlfriend has actually got worse since that thread. This weekend was a nightmare because of it.

 

As to why I don't leave her - see my posts above, I love her and don't want to be alone.

 

OMG!!! I just realized who you are!!

 

You are the bloke with the friend with a baby? Who had fallen out with your girlfriend and your girlfriend said she didn't want you to go to dinner with this friend?

 

DUDE WHAT ARE YOU STILL DOING WITH HER???????????????

 

Now I know who you are - you certainly need to be single and find someone else.

 

I thought she was a disrespectful brat in the last post - I am thinking it even more now.

 

What's it going to take for you to say CYA LATER to this girl?

 

She's already disrespected you, your things, your car and now your family? When does it end?

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Yes!

 

And the drama between that friend and my girlfriend has actually got worse since that thread. This weekend was a nightmare because of it.

 

As to why I don't leave her - see my posts above, I love her and don't want to be alone.

 

Darling you aren't alone you have friends and family! You aren't ever alone.

 

You may love her however her actions don't show any kind of love for you.

Someone's disrespects me once - they learn their lesson and learn it fast.

 

She's done it numerous time's to you, and now she's doing it to your family too?

 

That is YOUR family Do you think they'd approve? HELL NOOOO!!!

 

You my dear need to put your net in the water and find someone whose actually kind, whose nice to you, who puts you first, who wants to impress your family and eventually become one of them.

 

She is the complete opposite to what you need.

 

I'm going to bang my head against a wall now because I know, as do all the other posters you won't listen to us. We ALL can't be wrong numerous times. You are writing these threads for a reason. That reason is she aint good enough, she won't ever be good enough and you are so blinded you don't even see it.

 

Go talk to your mum - ask her opinion if you value it at all. She will tell you the same thing.

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In my opinion if u cannot go everywhere in public with the person and not be embarrassed then find someone you can because people have there own styles and style is a comfort zone for many ppl men and women. I won't ever wear dresses so there for I don't go anywhere where one is needed, I make sure lol know this. Lol but people can clean up to go to a place and still not change there comfort zone if they don't want to then there is underlying reason why, such as nervous, don't really want to go, or just plain stubborn

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Thanks again. I appreciate your sentiments and u wish it was just that easy to net someone who is as nice as you describe :)

 

I don't really want to bother my mom about this as she is still upset about my brother's divorce and my other brother being in a verbally abusive marriage.

 

Notice my brother's wife is not attending as she and my mother hate each other so much.

 

As messed up as it sounds I am the best off relationship wise. It's the one area where that's true as both my brothers are very successful. I've got a good job but my oldest brother is a millionaire and my other brother has a very high powered job.

 

I was hoping to make them jealous of my hot girlfriend but that's not looking good right now :(

 

Darling you aren't alone you have friends and family! You aren't ever alone.

 

You may love her however her actions don't show any kind of love for you.

Someone's disrespects me once - they learn their lesson and learn it fast.

 

She's done it numerous time's to you, and now she's doing it to your family too?

 

That is YOUR family Do you think they'd approve? HELL NOOOO!!!

 

You my dear need to put your net in the water and find someone whose actually kind, whose nice to you, who puts you first, who wants to impress your family and eventually become one of them.

 

She is the complete opposite to what you need.

 

I'm going to bang my head against a wall now because I know, as do all the other posters you won't listen to us. We ALL can't be wrong numerous times. You are writing these threads for a reason. That reason is she aint good enough, she won't ever be good enough and you are so blinded you don't even see it.

 

Go talk to your mum - ask her opinion if you value it at all. She will tell you the same thing.

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Thanks again. I appreciate your sentiments and u wish it was just that easy to net someone who is as nice as you describe :)

 

I don't really want to bother my mom about this as she is still upset about my brother's divorce and my other brother being in a verbally abusive marriage.

 

Notice my brother's wife is not attending as she and my mother hate each other so much.

 

As messed up as it sounds I am the best off relationship wise. It's the one area where that's true as both my brothers are very successful. I've got a good job but my oldest brother is a millionaire and my other brother has a very high powered job.

 

I was hoping to make them jealous of my hot girlfriend but that's not looking good right now :(

 

 

So your girlfriend is using you for sex and a doormat, she wants your families money and all you want is to make your brothers jealous.

 

This is even more f*cked up than I originally thought.

 

Maybe you do deserve eachother after all. Apparently in both of your worlds all you do is use people for a specific reasons.

 

That's not a relationship - however have fun in la la land until you figure that one out ;-)

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Your family reunions must be eye catching.

 

All this over a dress code?

 

All wear Gingham and go straight to the desert menu.

 

 

Thanks again. I appreciate your sentiments and u wish it was just that easy to net someone who is as nice as you describe :)

 

I don't really want to bother my mom about this as she is still upset about my brother's divorce and my other brother being in a verbally abusive marriage.

 

Notice my brother's wife is not attending as she and my mother hate each other so much.

 

As messed up as it sounds I am the best off relationship wise. It's the one area where that's true as both my brothers are very successful. I've got a good job but my oldest brother is a millionaire and my other brother has a very high powered job.

 

I was hoping to make them jealous of my hot girlfriend but that's not looking good right now :(

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come on Lumo be realistic

everything is better than being in this relationship. U are only 20 and U dont know how many people here ( me in the list ) would like to be 20 again to enjoy dating without any sort of paranoia or problems like the ones you are constantly having with her.

set yourself free and enjoy yourself! you have plenty of time in the future for heartaches and pain!

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That's not really fair. Of course I want more... I want a full relationship and I really do love her.

 

But I am just being honest here... After all, if you can't be honest on an anonymous Internet forum where can you be, right?

 

Yes. I do want to make my brothers jealous. But that's hardly all I want.

 

So your girlfriend is using you for sex and a doormat, she wants your families money and all you want is to make your brothers jealous.

 

This is even more f*cked up than I originally thought.

 

Maybe you do deserve eachother after all. Apparently in both of your worlds all you do is use people for a specific reasons.

 

That's not a relationship - however have fun in la la land until you figure that one out ;-)

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come on Lumo be realistic

everything is better than being in this relationship. U are only 20 and U dont know how many people here ( me in the list ) would like to be 20 again to enjoy dating without any sort of paranoia or problems like the ones you are constantly having with her.

set yourself free and enjoy yourself! you have plenty of time in the future for heartaches and pain!

 

I'm 22 and she's 20 but I do get your point. I wish it was easier too.

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Personally I disagree with most people posting here, I think he should definitely stay with this girl. It will teach him a valuable lesson I think he really needs in life...it doesn't matter if the woman is a super model, at some point he will get sick of her sh*t and he will see her 'hotness' fade right before his eyes based on her personality.

 

 

At some point no matter how desperate he is now or how hot he perceives her to be, unless she changes, one morning he will wake up and think she just isn't all that attractive anymore. The endearing flaws he sees now will become major turn-offs.

 

 

I think it's better if he sticks it out and learns this lesson while he is young.

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That's not really fair. Of course I want more... I want a full relationship and I really do love her.

 

But I am just being honest here... After all, if you can't be honest on an anonymous Internet forum where can you be, right?

 

Yes. I do want to make my brothers jealous. But that's hardly all I want.

 

Rightio doll face - if you believe any of that is true I must be a 7ft chimp.

 

Gotta go ... That wall is calling my name :)

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Yes!

 

And the drama between that friend and my girlfriend has actually got worse since that thread. This weekend was a nightmare because of it.

 

As to why I don't leave her - see my posts above, I love her and don't want to be alone.

 

This is no reason to stay with her.

 

Trying to change someone else never works. Break up with her.

 

Find out why you can't be on your own.

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It's abundantly clear from your posting history that your girlfriend has no respect for you and is using you. I'm actually embarrassed for you that you are putting up with such shoddy behavior just because you think she's hot. If she's treating you (and your house and car) this disrespectfully after one month, do you honestly think it is going to get any better? This is not going to end well for you.

 

You keep claiming she's so sweet. Well, in my opinion, a sweet girl who loves her boyfriend wouldn't be putting up a fight when asked to wear a nicer outfit to a fancy restaurant to meet her boyfriend's family for the first time. I mean, this is a no brainer. You aren't asking her for anything ridiculous. And while it's true that the restaurant won't kick her out for wearing Hello Kitty, you are well within your rights to request that she wear something more appropriate to meet your family.

 

Stand your ground on this one.

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True, but it is just so upsetting... I have this hot girlfriend and I will have to go alone. Not cool.

 

Ever thought that this is your issue right here? And the root of everything else, too?

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As others say its apart of who she is....

 

What is the name of the place your going too? I would like to know and see if it really is as formal as you say aka no tie and suite no entry only only private clubs or socialite dinners are like this now a days with 300$ wine bottles I doubt its this.

 

It's 2014 some of the most fancy places will serve you based on you paying not what you wear were in a age of tattoos and piercings are a common thing now I doubt her hello kitty style is an issue or that they would even care.

 

I bet given the chance there's something about your style she would change.

 

You requested, she declined

 

Until you tell us what resteraunt yall are going too I have a feeling you are seriously blowing this out of proportion, and is it worth your relationship with her? She has a right to wear what she wants, truely in the end.

 

As for the people calling this woman brat, bitch and other things....are you ****ing serious? Grow up. You forget that this is someone he cares about how does that help in fact OP do you think people who dont know your girl but are willing to call her slander have your best interest at heart?

 

Anyway it sounds like both of you want "your way" here and in the past too often.

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As others say its apart of who she is....

 

What is the name of the place your going too? I would like to know and see if it really is as formal as you say aka no tie and suite no entry only only private clubs or socialite dinners are like this now a days with 300$ wine bottles I doubt its this.

 

It's 2014 some of the most fancy places will serve you based on you paying not what you wear were in a age of tattoos and piercings are a common thing now I doubt her hello kitty style is an issue or that they would even care.

 

I bet given the chance there's something about your style she would change.

 

You requested, she declined

 

Until you tell us what resteraunt yall are going too I have a feeling you are seriously blowing this out of proportion, and is it worth your relationship with her? She has a right to wear what she wants, truely in the end.

 

As for the people calling this woman brat, bitch and other things....are you ****ing serious? Grow up.

 

To be fair, Omei, most of us have taken OP's history with this girl into account. And the fact that he's put up with everything she's dished out so far, just because she's HOT. And he's afraid he might not get another girlfriend. Hardly a reason to put up with someone who is, by everyone definition of the word, being a brat. I won't go so far as to use the word bitch....yet.

 

Regardless of the dress code at the restaurant, it's obvious she doesn't care one bit about making a good impression on OP's family. A "good girlfriend" would find this to be a no brainier. Especially since she's indicated she's partly into him for the family money.

 

OP, can you buy her a Hello Kitty matching bra and panties set, and have her wear it under something appropriate?

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Let her wear whatever she wants to this meeting with your family. The following will then happen:

 

1. She may not be allowed in the restaurant. That should make her feel like an idiot. The other diners in the restaurant will also look down their noses at her making her more uncomfortable. If she throws a temper tantrum, it will show you her true colors, which you are clearly not seeing now.

 

2. Your parents will think you are an idiot for dating her. When she makes a bad impression on them, they will start pressuring you to dump her. So then you will be getting the same message from real people who care about you instead of just us here on LS.

 

3. Your brothers may think she's hot but they will not respect her & they will treat her like trash. Again, you will see another side of her.

 

4. She will most likely get mad about the above & break up with you because at the end of the day she's a selfish, self centered little drama queen who doesn't care about anybody else other than herself.

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