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acrosstheuniverse Established Member

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You know she's always like that, she likes to say no for the sake of no...

 

Ignore her until the last minute, prepare yourself for the occasion and as she sees that you don't ask her to dress up

or anything

You will see her ready in no time....

 

but when you make a big deal of this and tell her you have to dress like this you must etc

 

you will trigger her stubbornness button.

 

I dunno, I don't think you should have to try and alter your behaviour to avoid triggering a stubbornness button with an adult female who is supposed to be your partner... This would irritate me too, OP. It's one night and like it or not, appearances are important. Would she go to a job interview wearing head to toe Hello Kitty? Probably not. She should treat this occasion as seriously as she treats that, purely because it is important to you.

 

But we know that you won't listen to any advice because you are happy you finally got a hot girl, so you'll let her take you for a ride and do whatever she wants. I honestly don't know why you bother to post for advice, it seems like you're just making stuff up about the relationship now for entertainment because every few days is an entirely new problem and you seem to just completely ignore every single post (of which there are many!) that suggests your relationship is 100% disastrous.

 

But, to each their own I guess...

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Arieswoman Established Member

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ML,

I think there is a bigger issue here than the dress code.

 

She is refusing to do something to please you just for one night - and disrespecting your family into the bargain - that's the problem.

 

In any relationship there needs to be give and take.

 

She's screaming me, me, me, and thinks she can get away with it because she's "hot".

 

She pushing against your boundaries to see what you do. If you let her get away with it she'll do it again and again.

 

If she doesn't like the rules she doesn't go.

 

You might want to have a look at what else you let her get away with because you think she's so "hot" .......:rolleyes:

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Medium.Lumo Established Member

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I have let her get away with a lot, but this is different. I have sent her a message now telling her that she either needs to dress properly or can't come with.

 

I haven't gotten a reply yet but there is "read" status on the message.

 

For the record I don't ignore all advice... There is some I have taken from various posters. But like it or not I can't just treat her any way I want, yes, because she's hot and I may not find another girl like her in a hurry

 

 

I dunno, I don't think you should have to try and alter your behaviour to avoid triggering a stubbornness button with an adult female who is supposed to be your partner... This would irritate me too, OP. It's one night and like it or not, appearances are important. Would she go to a job interview wearing head to toe Hello Kitty? Probably not. She should treat this occasion as seriously as she treats that, purely because it is important to you.

 

But we know that you won't listen to any advice because you are happy you finally got a hot girl, so you'll let her take you for a ride and do whatever she wants. I honestly don't know why you bother to post for advice, it seems like you're just making stuff up about the relationship now for entertainment because every few days is an entirely new problem and you seem to just completely ignore every single post (of which there are many!) that suggests your relationship is 100% disastrous.

 

But, to each their own I guess...

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I guess she could dress 80s neon glam. :D

Arieswoman Established Member

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ML,

You said

 

But like it or not I can't just treat her any way I want, yes, because she's hot and I may not find another girl like her in a hurry

 

No-one is suggesting you treat her "anyway you like". You treat her with respect and expect her to reciprocate.

 

Dropping your standards and moving your boundaries because

I may not find another girl like her in a hurry
is a slippery slope.

 

I was single for over 10 years before I met my second husband, basically because I wasn't going to compromise my integrity to keep guys who weren't on the same page as me. It was well worth the wait.:)

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Medium.Lumo Established Member

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Wow. 10 years is a long time. Congrats for being so patient. I don't think I could handle that.

 

And what if it's her that has dropped her standards to be with me? Just a thought...

 

ML,

You said

 

 

 

No-one is suggesting you treat her "anyway you like". You treat her with respect and expect her to reciprocate.

 

Dropping your standards and moving your boundaries because is a slippery slope.

 

I was single for over 10 years before I met my second husband, basically because I wasn't going to compromise my integrity to keep guys who weren't on the same page as me. It was well worth the wait.:)

guest572 Established Member

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I am curious, how are the clothes childish? Is it just too casual or something? I am picturing green and purple striped tights with a purple tutu, sparkly top and a wand?

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Haydn Established Member

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OP, What are you wearing? Hopefully something that does not clash with `Hello Kitty`

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Medium.Lumo Established Member

Medium.Lumo

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OP, What are you wearing? Hopefully something that does not clash with `Hello Kitty`

 

For guys the requirements are black shoes and collared shirts.

 

They don't really have specific requirements for women but I don't think bright colours are going to be the norm there, I've never seen anyone dressed like that at this establishment.

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For guys the requirements are black shoes and collared shirts.

 

They don't really have specific requirements for women but I don't think bright colours are going to be the norm there, I've never seen anyone dressed like that at this establishment.

 

We used to let in hookers and pimps :lmao:.

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Haydn Established Member

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A compromise is needed.

 

How about a racy little black number? And `Hello Kitty` knickers?

 

 

For guys the requirements are black shoes and collared shirts.

 

They don't really have specific requirements for women but I don't think bright colours are going to be the norm there, I've never seen anyone dressed like that at this establishment.

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martaldn Established Member

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OP - is she the one who thrown a tantrum when you refused to have sex with her because you wanted to watch Walking Dead right?

she is kind of handful! you cant win with her!

however, I would suggest to let her dress as she wants. she will end up to embarrass herself when she will realize how unappropriated she is dressed in the exact time she will step into the restaurant and everybody will look at her in a funny way and NOT because they like her sense of style!

:rolleyes:

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martaldn Established Member

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A compromise is needed.

 

How about a racy little black number? And `Hello Kitty` knickers?

 

lol

so sexy :rolleyes:

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Medium.Lumo Established Member

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LOL.

 

Great idea :)

 

Yes btw... she's the same one. My first and only girlfriend. I guess it's not going as well as I would have hoped.

 

OP - is she the one who thrown a tantrum when you refused to have sex with her because you wanted to watch Walking Dead right?

she is kind of handful! you cant win with her!

however, I would suggest to let her dress as she wants. she will end up to embarrass herself when she will realize how unappropriated she is dressed in the exact time she will step into the restaurant and everybody will look at her in a funny way and NOT because they like her sense of style!

:rolleyes:

tdmnp New Member

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Maybe you two aren't a good match.

 

I vote for going without her.

 

I think this is the best call.

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David87 Established Member

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LOL.

 

Great idea :)

 

Yes btw... she's the same one. My first and only girlfriend. I guess it's not going as well as I would have hoped.

 

Keep going OP this wont be your last problem with this girl, many threads will come after this one.

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martaldn Established Member

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LOL.

 

Great idea :)

 

Yes btw... she's the same one. My first and only girlfriend. I guess it's not going as well as I would have hoped.

 

aww I am sure you will have a great night!

good luck and let us know how it goes! ( I am curious now :p )

 

:)

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gaius Established Member

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Threaten to take that other girl instead. One of my ex's knew I liked older women so if she was being bratty I would always threaten to substitute her mom, and surprisingly enough it worked most of the time.

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Medium.Lumo Established Member

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Keep going OP this wont be your last problem with this girl, many threads will come after this one.

 

Thanks for the vote of confidence lol.

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Medium.Lumo Established Member

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aww I am sure you will have a great night!

good luck and let us know how it goes! ( I am curious now :p )

 

:)

 

Well... I messaged her with a demand that she dresses appropriately or she can't come with and she's read it but not replied. I'm kind of nervous now.

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gaius Established Member

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Well... I messaged her with a demand that she dresses appropriately or she can't come with and she's read it but not replied. I'm kind of nervous now.

Probably ran off to masturbate to you since you finally stood up for yourself. ;)

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David87 Established Member

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Well... I messaged her with a demand that she dresses appropriately or she can't come with and she's read it but not replied. I'm kind of nervous now.

 

I really hope she will dress properly, now it's the perfect time for her to make a compromise for you.

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saltyfishhead666 Established Member

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Probably ran off to masturbate to you since you finally stood up for yourself. ;)

 

 

LMFAO!!!!!!

 

Seriously op - if your girl has no respect for your family, and cannot dress suitably for the occasion she needs to grow up and learn to have respect for her boyfriend.

 

Saying that if I were a bloke and some chick turned up dolled up in hello kitty - I would be running off.

 

She's clearly not 10 - hello kitty is extremely childlike in my opinion.

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Medium.Lumo Established Member

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I don't mind the clothes in general, and yes she still is a 9+...

 

But my oldest brother is a very successful man and he bought the apartment my girlfriend and I are living in and it just rubs me the wrong way that she would turn up so casually to meet him and my other brother and cousins etc.

 

LMFAO!!!!!!

 

Seriously op - if your girl has no respect for your family, and cannot dress suitably for the occasion she needs to grow up and learn to have respect for her boyfriend.

 

Saying that if I were a bloke and some chick turned up dolled up in hello kitty - I would be running off.

 

She's clearly not 10 - hello kitty is extremely childlike in my opinion.

Haydn Established Member

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My daughter is a fan of `Hello Kitty`, My wallet is not.

 

 

OP, couldn`t she wear something colourful but unassuming?

 

How posh is this `gaff?` `Is it a lodge` of some kinds? Secret handshakes?

 

If someone orders the lobster does everyone stop talking?

 

But seriously she needs to compromise here.

 

Good luck.

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