krista28 Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Ive been seeing this guy for the last two months I noticed fairly early on that he put other things ahead of me...his friends just didn't have too nuch time for ne. Ive tried to talk to him about it but he doesnt think he dif anything wrong . I liked hum quite a bit but it's like d He doesn't even care to be around me. On weekends and stuff this weekend I just gave up and said I camt have this kind of relationship. He seems self is h. It hurts but what are you really gonna do hes always making me sad...
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Ive been seeing this guy for the last two months I noticed fairly early on that he put other things ahead of me...his friends just didn't have too nuch time for ne. Ive tried to talk to him about it but he doesnt think he dif anything wrong . I liked hum quite a bit but it's like d He doesn't even care to be around me. On weekends and stuff this weekend I just gave up and said I camt have this kind of relationship. He seems self is h. It hurts but what are you really gonna do hes always making me sad... YOU put yourself first and move on to someone that makes you happy. 2 months in is way too early to be investing a bunch of sad emotions on someone that doesn't have time for you. 1
spiderowl Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 You did the right thing. You need a guy who makes you feel happy and loved, not one who makes you sad. Your feelings are an easy guide as to whether a guy is going to be right for you or not. They give you a guide as to where to draw the line too, when someone is not being kind and respectful. If you have standards, I'm sure you'll meet the right guy for you. Guys can sense when a woman has mutual respect as a foundation for her love life. 1
Author krista28 Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 I started seeing this guy and it was going good. Slowly into it...he started being busy all the time....he said I deserve better finally because he cant give me the time I need or want. Hes the one that came after me and is 36 and single.....I just dont know if this is about him or me...if he didnt like me enough or if its just the guy he is.
carhill Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 whys he doing this? Pure speculation but based on life experience and women who were or became busy, it's because he didn't like you enough, either to date or because he liked someone else more. It happens. I've only made that latter choice a couple of times and it was admittedly a bit uncomfortable telling a woman directly I chose someone else but I did it. When a man really likes a lady, no matter how busy he is, he makes the time for her, even if it has to fit into a busy schedule. 1
babycrapgreen Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Yeah, I'm sort of in a similar situation. I think I'm realizing from reading threads and from my friends in happy relationships, who can't change how he acts. What you can do is, you know what you want and if he's afraid of that, walk away. Rejection is temporary, broken heart last longer.
Lani Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 It's not you, and it's not him. It's both of you. This thing isn't working. If it were then he'd not be letting you go. Don't blame yourself or him, but do have enough self respect to walk away.
Assasda Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Yes it is you. The thing is you are stifling him. Bothering him, and bascially being his mother. Thats it
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 I once had this issue. At first he was very talkative, would text me numerous times a day and the evening would be on and off talking. We were exclusive - we went out to dinner one night and it was fine. I missed the last train home (after having sex for the first time) so he drove me home. The following few days he was very distant. Didn't text me like he usually would, didn't respond in a manner that he usually would and I began asking questions. In the end he broke up with me stating he was getting out of the Army and moving to his hometown (4 hours away) and he didn't have the time for me I deserved. Of course he knew all of the above before he met me and it wasn't an issue. I think either he's lost interest or he's met someone else he has more interest in. The whole "you deserve more" Is a line men typically use to break up with someone without seeming like an a**hole - although they are a bigger a**hole because they are trying to do it "for your benefit" when it's clearly their own. move on
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