blueberrycandlewax Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Hello all.... Ladies, gentleman, I need some help involving my now ex boyfriend who just upped and left in the middle of the night. There were no warning signs. Every thing was the same as any other nights. We were laughing and enjoying each others company all day. I remember him coming in for his goodnight kiss and I told him to turn the a/c down then fell back asleep. Well, some where from that time til I awoke again at 3 he was packing his stuff and getting God knows who to pick him up. I just keep thinking that he was only 3 feet away from me and gathering his belongings which is setting me on a crying spell from hell. :( I need to hear other stories of a partner who has upped and left in the night, I know I can't be the only one.
KaliLove Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Was he sleepwalking or something? Did he say anything to you when you woke up? Or leave a note? That's bizarre!
Author blueberrycandlewax Posted April 27, 2014 Author Posted April 27, 2014 Nope, no letter, no nothing. He usually plays his game and maybe 2 times out of a year and a half he stayed up all night playing. So, I looked at the clock and it was 3, I went to say something about coming to bed and I noticed he erased everything from his user account, then I checked my purse because I always held his ID and other cards, gone, then I went to the closet and saw his bag, gone. I am sitting here running through in my mind if there were any red flags. I saw none.
KaliLove Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Woah. O.o Well..I've got nothing. I have absolutely no idea what to tell you. That is truly bizarre. What a twisted coward he is! I'm so sorry you're hurting. I wish I could give you a hug right now. 2
flightplan Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Your situation is an exaggerated example of what some dumpers do. It was a self centered, cowardly act, done out of fear. He couldn't force himself to face you because he can't face himself. He is, in essence, running from himself. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but thank whatever God you worship that it's over. This was going to happen at some point because he is not dealing with whatever that haunts him. A man who adores a woman does not do this. This is abnormal behavior. The universe has given you a gift, to take from this experience and lift your life to greater, more fulfilling experiences. It doesn't seem like it now, but time will prove me right. Hang in there. 1
STM206 Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I cannot imagine. You probably dealt with the worse case scenario of a breakup. It's one thing to hear the words that it's over... But to have someone pack up and leave with no warning? That is so low. I'm sincerely sorry you are having to deal with this. It doesn't make any sense but if it makes you feel any better... It really WAS him and not you. He could've left a note, or SOMETHING to give you an ounce of closure, an ounce of "knowing" but he was too much or a coward to do even that. His loss! 2
Mr.Pine Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 . You snore way too loud and he opted out. Purchase some snore strips, go NC, and find someone else. Boom! 1
Author blueberrycandlewax Posted April 27, 2014 Author Posted April 27, 2014 At least I have a guaranteed no contact with him, since he doesn't have a cell phone and he deleted his face book page. I guess I have that to be very thankful for.
Mr.Pine Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 At least I have a guaranteed no contact with him, since he doesn't have a cell phone and he deleted his face book page. I guess I have that to be very thankful for. Blueberry, You have a great sense of humour. You'll do just fine. Keep us posted. 2
KaliLove Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I agree. I think you'll be ok Blueberry. More than ok..I think you'll do great. 2
Author blueberrycandlewax Posted April 28, 2014 Author Posted April 28, 2014 It's been 24 hours and I am finding things he left behind and throwing it all away. Crying still just because of the shock of it all. The first 72 hours feels the worse. I have decided to go see some friends that I haven't seen in a good while so at least I will be around other people and not stuck alone in this house.
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