FredJones80 Posted April 27, 2014 Share Posted April 27, 2014 Hi, Just wondered if anyone had any thoughts on this. If you haven't read my break up story see :- http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/474124-my-recent-break-up-ramblings Basically, I have moved back to my original area after my ex-gf ended our relationship. Due to being away so long I no longer have any friends here, plus I work from home so have no reason to meet new people. I have to accept my relationship is over, its been 3 weeks now, but not sure when to start moving forward. I know I need to do something and something soon, I'm planning on joining a Gym in the next week as its something I did but have lost since moving. This isn't going to make me new friendships though, more of something I can put my energy in to. The problem I face now is, because I feel so ****ty most of the time and disinterested in anything, how can I meet new people or make friendships? I'm just going to come across as an emotional loser and because I feel down alot I wouldn't want to be friends with me now either. Any suggestions? Leave friendships til I feel better or? Link to post Share on other sites
learning_slowly Posted April 27, 2014 Share Posted April 27, 2014 Is there a support group that meet up near you? You can all moan together. But in the long term to find new friends, look at what interests you and is something where the sharing of ideas is required. E.g. A beginners course in something where you're all trying to improve yourself and are not afraid to make mistakes. You'll all have positive energy then, which can only add to your life. Link to post Share on other sites
melodicintention Posted April 27, 2014 Share Posted April 27, 2014 Meeting new friends is very very difficult if possible at all after college, and working from home (I just stared my own home based business) make it really super hard. Good news is though, meeting new acquaintances is pretty easy. I use meetup.com and search the internet for singles dances, salsa lessons, vollyball teams, etc. You get your ass out there is all. It's hard. I moved to LA after living in 5 cities and I haven't made a single real friend in 3 years here. I certainly dont dwell on my past relationship, but that was 10 years ago and I learned to be self sufficient moving around as I have. You can too, just have to stop dwelling on the past and give yourself time to heal. 3 weeks isn't time honey. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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