Is he not interested anymore?

[Heartbroken12416]

Hi there everybody!. So I have a question about a guy and was wondering if anybody could help me out. After two terrible breakups, I finally got over them and moved on to finding somebody who will treat me right. So I joined a few dating sites, and it seemed pretty impossible by some of the replies I was getting, but then I got an email from one guy, and we started chatting a bit and actually seemed to hit it off pretty well!. We literally chatted all week....and with him starting conversation 90% of the time. I would always get a text from him in the morning saying hi or whatever. So after a week of talking, we decided to meet up in person and things went well, we got along great, had a fantastic night!, and then went our separate ways. After he left, he texted me and said he had a great time, I replied saying that I felt the same way and then we continued to chat over the course of the next couple days. But the reason I'm coming here today is because, the chats have definitely decreased A LOT. He never texts me first anymore and sometimes it's murder to get him to even reply to my texts. Yesterday we chatted for a bit, lost contact for a few hours and then he texted me out of the blue starting up conversation again. During our conversation, he actually said that he really wanted to get to know more about me and after that, I became very happy because that told me that he was definitely still interested in me....but today is the problem. I texted him this afternoon, and it took him a good while to reply....well finally he did, we texted back and forth a few times (literally a FEW times) and then the texts just stopped and I haven't heard from him in hours.... I really like this guy so far and would be kind of bummed if he wasn't interested anymore, but since we have only been chatting for like 2 weeks, I'm not getting my hopes up. I would just hope that if he's not interested anymore, he'd tell me. Especially after having one of my ex relationships "disappear" on me twice. That is really hurtful, and if this guy was to just disappear on me too, it would annoy me pretty bad. I've contemplated texting him and asking if I did or said something wrong, but I don't want to seem like that "crazy, needy, psycho woman".

 

If anybody can give me some insight as to what may be going on, it would be very appreciated!.

[Eivuwan]

Um, just relax and go on more dates. If it's yours it's yours. You can't force anything.

[lilmiscassie92]

Unfortunately, there are not many people in the world that will tell a person "I'm not interested anymore." It's sad but true. I would rather them let me know than string me along and give me a migraine. The only thing you can do is not put all your eggs into one basket. A lot of the guys on the dating websites are also meeting up with other women on there and continuing to respond to emails as well. If it works, it works. You've only been on one date. I wouldn't wait around for him though. If he likes you he will ask you out again and want to continue seeing you.

[HappyLove]

He's multi dating, you should be too. Sorry but that's how it is online. He's found a new shiny toy to play with. Don't get too caught up with this guy. If you don't want a guy to disappear on you then you need to stop OLDing NOW! The thing that got me to understand the flakiness of OLDing was the advice that he doesn't owe you anything. Not a goodbye, no explanation, nothing. It's how it is when you OLD. The consensus seems to be that three dates or less the guy can vanish and he doesn't owe you anything. It sucks and needless to say I don't OLD anymore.

[Joangel]

Some guys play a lot of games, especially those on online dating websites. He may very well be talking to a few women and comparing. I made my mistakes but I've learned. Keep your life moving and don't emotionally invest too soon. When he wants chat, he will. In the meantime, get busy living your life.