Strength in Healing Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 She is technically my fiance, but I am still waiting for the ring, so I say gf/fiance. We only see each other on the weekends for now, so we text all throughout the week. The problem is, I have no idea what the heck to say after so long. I mean I could say random things, but really, I'm running dry. She doesn't really like talking on the phone, but she will, however the problem is at her house she gets a weak signal and the call gives out so she doesn't like talking at her house, where she usually is. So that leaves texting. How do people do this? How the hell do you hold relationships when you have to text all week? I have no idea how people keep coming up with things to text about while keeping the other interested.
InnocentMan Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 What you had for breakfast/lunch/dinner. Amusing anecdotes about your day. What your evening plans are. One you've exhausted all that, it's best just to create an argument, and rinse/repeat the next day. She's probably thinking the same thing. There's only so much crap you can discuss by text. Maybe get snapchat and exchange genital snaps, but even that gets boring after a while.
Author Strength in Healing Posted April 26, 2014 Author Posted April 26, 2014 Dress up, take her out somewhere special, get down on one knee and with really crazy eyes and in a crazy voice say... "If I can't have you.... Nobody can!". It's very romantic and ladies love that type of stuff. Lmao my dude what in the HELL does this have to do with the topic. I appreciate it though
Raena Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I don't know... my best friend and I text all day long every day, sometimes we take a break and don't talk for a day or so but there is ALWAYS something to talk about if you have similar interests. It's like one big ongoing conversation about anything and everything. Treat it like that I guess... talk to her about what you would talk about if you were talking to her face to face. 2
Poppyolive Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 You could send funny YouTube videos, fav music videos, funny memes so its all light & fluffy...and not always how was your day, weather talk....
veggirl Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 You know you don't need to text all day, every day, right? What's wrong with just a good morning text in the AM, a quick check-in hello during the afternoon and then like a night-time recap of your day of sorts? tbh the "can't talk on the phone" would annoy me, you are her FIANCE not a stranger. Would she be more comfortable Facetiming or Skyping w/ video or something? Does she initiate the texts? It doesn't have to be all on you... 1
mammasita Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I'm not a phone talker...I hate it. My BF and I are like you...we see each other on weekends and pretty much text throughout the week. We text about work, food, funny things, stupid things, jokes, mushy things, complaints about coworkers, plans for the weekend, my dog (because he does stupid things lol), pictures of my dog (because he's so ugly he's cute and my BF loves him), my son, his daughter...... there's literally thousands of things to text about. 1
Shepp Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I treat texting like a conversation, what would you say if she was standing right next to you? My go to is ask about her day/Talk about your day - something funny or intresting that happened. And then you've got a subject - take it and branch off, and branch of again! The more random it gets the better!! Haha
Els Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Can't you Skype? Or doesn't she have internet either? IME unless you're living in a very rural area, most phone reception issues can be solved by switching to a service provider with better coverage. I guess what I'm trying to say is, I don't think it's abnormal for texting to feel dry especially if you've been together for a long time. Phone/Skype conversations provide a sort of interactivity that makes it easier to maintain a connection over the long term than text, IMO. I wouldn't stick to texting unless there was absolutely no other way out.
WeirdChick Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I have done the LD thingy, I also hated to talk on phone, but just texting wasnt enough for me and him. We used to skype almost everyday. Is skype-videochat not an option for you two? If you talk face-2-face, then you dont have to text so much?! 1
d0nnivain Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I hate texting & think trying to have a conversation via text is a joke. I need more context & the tone of of voice that at least comes from a voice call. That said, why does it have to be long? Every day when DH & come home I ask him the same Q: How was your day? Since our days vary that same Q opens up a myriad of conversations. Try it. Also express that you love her. Perhaps discuss ideas or dreams for your upcoming wedding. You may also want to discuss the financial arrangeemnts. How you are saving? What's the budget? Current events is also a good topic. Discuss what is going on in the world. Talk about plans for the weekend. Talk about possibilities for new shared hobbies.
ThursdayChild Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I hate texting & think trying to have a conversation via text is a joke. I couldn't agree more
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