Wang Stop Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 hello all, i've been in a long distance relationship with a girl for 7 months now, and i suspect that she is cheating on me, or i'm a side guy. she only comes to my place and she doesn't want me to meet her friends or family, which pisses me off. i stay away from social media, but wanted to see my gfs instagram which is private. so i made my own account and she still won't add me, i asked her and she played dumb. i just want to see what she's really up to, and dump her if she has been cheating.. anyone have advice on how to catch her??
soccerrprp Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Catch her? Do you have any evidence? If you are so certain that she is, simply ask her. If you are so certain, man up and tell her that you believe that she is cheating on you and why you believe this. If I ever suspected if my gf was cheating, either physically and/or emotionally with another person, I would tell that I do, why and give her the chance to explain herself as to the manner of her behavior. But if you do discover that she has been, I hope you are equally man enough to dump her, so second chances, move on...
Author Wang Stop Posted April 27, 2014 Author Posted April 27, 2014 I asked her straight up, she said no... But was so suspicious. I don't have hard evidence yet. I'm trying to find someone to add her on Instagram, so I can find some closure
ExpatInItaly Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Have you asked her directly why you can't meet her friends or family? What was her reason for not adding you on IG? In any event, it does sound suspicious. Your gut isn't lying to you, here. There isn't much chance for a relationship when you feel so uncertain and she's not doing anything to help you feel more secure.
d0nnivain Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I'd be straight with her. LDRs require trust. Tell her the fact that she won't add you to her Instagram & hasn't introduced you to her friends & family is erroding your trust. Tell her it would put your mind at ease if she'd add you & bring you around. Do not share your suspicions. If she does as you ask, let it be. If she doesn't, she doesn't care enough about your feelings & is probably cheating.
Author Wang Stop Posted April 27, 2014 Author Posted April 27, 2014 believe me i tried to be calm with her and talk it out... but she gets so defensive and we'll just end up in a big fight. i would hire a private investigator lol but thats too much work. i rather just find out whats shes doing on social media instead, then drop her ass cold turkey without saying anything. anyone wanna help me catch her???
d0nnivain Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 believe me i tried to be calm with her and talk it out... but she gets so defensive and we'll just end up in a big fight. i would hire a private investigator lol but thats too much work. i rather just find out whats shes doing on social media instead, then drop her ass cold turkey without saying anything. anyone wanna help me catch her??? I'd just drop her, even without "proof." You don't need a reason to end a relationship. If it's just too hard combined with the distance, why put in the effort when she's not.
Author Wang Stop Posted April 28, 2014 Author Posted April 28, 2014 I'd just drop her, even without "proof." You don't need a reason to end a relationship. If it's just too hard combined with the distance, why put in the effort when she's not. she's moving back home soon, and don't get me wrong i'd love to take it to the next level, but i just need to know for sure if she's cheating or not... i already invested so much emotionally & just want to know whats going on behind closed doors.
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