LordVader Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 (edited) Both girls are in the same broader social circle, both are early 20s, I'm early 30's. 1 is friendly, the other I've barely spoke to but I'm not good at noticing, reading, or understanding body language, her face etc. And I'm an outsider. But I bet she knows I like her, or must suspect, or was even told by some other girl. But because I really like her look and stuff, its in my mind for reasons too long to write, that she really doesn't want to talk to me, I'm old. So I don't know if she would mind talking again or not. Now thats fine if true, I must move on if so, that is starting to feel painful thought, and thats near crush level stuff. Now I want to ask the friendly girl about her. Just to find out right now before I should completely stop looking at her and daydreaming of her....other wise the crush remember. But for other reasons I'm afraid to ask the friendly girl about her. (not because I want the friendly girl atm, maybe she would be my next oneitis at this rate) Edited April 26, 2014 by LordVader
d0nnivain Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 What you propose would be fine in middle school. After the 9th grade it's no longer appropriate. You can start talking to the friendlier woman but you can't ask her about the woman you like. You will have to find a reason to speak directly to her yourself. Before you do, work on your self confidence. At 30 you are not old. Besides many women like older men. If you think you have no chance with the woman you fancy, you will prove yourself right. 2
todreaminblue Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 straight down the line you want to keep your options open and you cant....one or the other make your choice....its not a very good feeling to know that you are second best its not considerate and pretty self centred to do that....so i wish you well...i hope you choose right.......deb 1
Author LordVader Posted April 27, 2014 Author Posted April 27, 2014 straight down the line you want to keep your options open and you cant....one or the other make your choice....its not a very good feeling to know that you are second best its not considerate and pretty self centred to do that....so i wish you well...i hope you choose right.......deb Actually the friendly girl is off limits, and I'm happy to be friends with her and keep it that way. What I'm saying is if its obvious that other girl doesn't like me, but I missed it........well why not ask my friend? I guess I'm still way too worried I'll have to move on if the answer is no. But right I'm supposed to say life is short and we need to find what we want without wasting time on things that won't work out.
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