Jordvn Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 if you know my story, my ex served me with a restraining order. we went to court and she lied about almost everything. i couldn't give enough evidence to defend myself and the judge granted it to her for 5 years. i also found out that i cannot join the navy because its considered domestic violence. this is making me even more depressed, because i was looking forward to traveling, and getting college paid for. i feel like posting dirty pictures of my ex online that will get her fired from her job! she needs to get a taste of her own medicine.
FortunateSon Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Is it possible to somehow appeal so that you are able to get into the Navy? Posting "dirty" pictures isn't the way to go, it can get you in more trouble than you are in already. 4
Author Jordvn Posted April 26, 2014 Author Posted April 26, 2014 Is it possible to somehow appeal so that you are able to get into the Navy? Posting "dirty" pictures isn't the way to go, it can get you in more trouble than you are in already. already tried appealing, the judge said "tough."
KaliLove Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Posting dirty pictures of her online will not make your life any better, and it would make you a supreme @sshole pig. I'm sorry she screwed your future up but that's not the way to go. Stop worrying about her and worry about what to do with your own life next.
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Were you charged with domestic violence or was the restraining order simply granted? Criminally, she could not charge you with anything for posting her pics online, but she definitely could file a civil case against you and seek damages for loss of her job as well as punitive damages. And since she already has won a case against you for domestic violence(?) and a 5 year restraining order (which is pretty stiff), then a judge would most likely throw the book at you in civil damages for retaliation. Just something to think about...
Author Jordvn Posted April 26, 2014 Author Posted April 26, 2014 Posting dirty pictures of her online will not make your life any better, and it would make you a supreme @sshole pig. I'm sorry she screwed your future up but that's not the way to go. Stop worrying about her and worry about what to do with your own life next. she's being an ultimate bitch. she knew my plan and my future and she screwed it up on purpose. idk what to do.
Author Jordvn Posted April 26, 2014 Author Posted April 26, 2014 Were you charged with domestic violence or was the restraining order simply granted? Criminally, she could not charge you with anything for posting her pics online, but she definitely could file a civil case against you and seek damages for loss of her job as well as punitive damages. And since she already has won a case against you for domestic violence(?) and a 5 year restraining order (which is pretty stiff), then a judge would most likely throw the book at you in civil damages for retaliation. Just something to think about... i wasn't charged with domestic violence. but i talked to the recruiting office and they said a RO is just like domestic violence, and you're not able to use a weapon.
AlphaC Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 if you know my story, my ex served me with a restraining order. we went to court and she lied about almost everything. i couldn't give enough evidence to defend myself and the judge granted it to her for 5 years. i also found out that i cannot join the navy because its considered domestic violence. this is making me even more depressed, because i was looking forward to traveling, and getting college paid for. i feel like posting dirty pictures of my ex online that will get her fired from her job! she needs to get a taste of her own medicine. It's time to move on big boy, leave her alone. I bet if you deleted these pics, in a few months time, you will feel better about yourself. You will have very few memories of her and can devote your time to meeting someone else and growing. To the poster who said the judge will throw the book at you if she sued (for defamation, et al) doesn't know what he/she is talking about. Restraining orders and civil suits for posting nude pics are unrelated (you are not contacting her by posting these pics). Why would she lose her job? Is she a nun or politician, come on man, get real. Get real my man, leave her alone and move on with your life, there are tons of women in this world. I got my revenge on my ex by blocking her, erasing all her pics, changing my phone number and meeting a younger, prettier, smarter and successful woman.
zen2475 Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Were you charged with domestic violence or was the restraining order simply granted? Criminally, she could not charge you with anything for posting her pics online, but she definitely could file a civil case against you and seek damages for loss of her job as well as punitive damages. And since she already has won a case against you for domestic violence(?) and a 5 year restraining order (which is pretty stiff), then a judge would most likely throw the book at you in civil damages for retaliation. Just something to think about... Assuming the OP is in the US, most states subscribe to the at will doctrine of employment, meaning an employer can fire you at any time without reason. There would be little ground for her to stand on is a case as you describe, unless she had a valid, enforceable employment contract, of which you find very few these days unless you are a very high level officer or director of a company. That being said, as far as actual legal damages go, she would only be able to recover compensatory damages, or her lost wages. Punitive damages would be highly unlikely in this instance. To the OP: the best thing to do is cut your losses and let this go. I'm sorry you got the RO against you, but the best thing to do is obey it and move on. Revenge will serve no useful, long-term purpose for you.
d0nnivain Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 If you post dirty pictures of her on line without her written consent in most states in the US you are committing a crime. These are relatively new laws designed to stop exactly what you are doing. Talk to a diffferent service branch. They may be more willing to overlook one indescretion but nobody will overlook 2 if you post the pictures. 3
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 To the poster who said the judge will throw the book at you if she sued (for defamation) doesn't know what he/she is talking about. Restraining orders and civil suits for posting nude pics are unrelated (you are not contacting her by posting these pics). Why would she lose her job? Is she a nun or politician, come on man, get real. Ummm, I do know what I'm talking about and I've seen it happen. I've seen a judgement handed down on an ex for emailing naked photos of a girl to everyone in her family, including her father. I said nothing about violating the restraining order by posting the pics, but causing intentionally harm through retaliation and her being able to prove a negative history between them by the case that has already happened. And people have lost jobs from having sexually explicit photos posted online. OP- you've been through enough with this girl. It's best to just move on.
Elle1975 Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Does this kind of restraining order stays on your record for ever? I would think it goes away after a while. If it does, can I suggest you go to college and then join the military? Don't make things worse for you by posting naked pics and getting sued later for it.
AlphaC Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Ummm, I do know what I'm talking about and I've seen it happen. I've seen a judgement handed down on an ex for emailing naked photos of a girl to everyone in her family, including her father. I said nothing about violating the restraining order by posting the pics, but causing intentionally harm through retaliation and her being able to prove a negative history between them by the case that has already happened. And people have lost jobs from having sexually explicit photos posted online. OP- you've been through enough with this girl. It's best to just move on. Sounds to me like you work around inexperienced lawyers. Again, restraining orders are to prevent an individual (the OP) from going near or contacting another person (victim - aka ex gf). The OP said nothing about sending pictures to her family so don't get these cases confused. He said he would post the pics online, that's all he said. Assuming arguendo, these pics are not doctored, she can't really sue for defamation. She can probably sue for lost wages but punitive damages no way!! Remember she agreed to take these nasty pics, lol. "Retaliation?" Let's see she would have to prove he intended to cause her harm when he posted these pics. He could argue that he posted the pics because they are beautiful and had no intent to harm his ex. Do you understand? 1
Author Jordvn Posted April 26, 2014 Author Posted April 26, 2014 its not naked pictures. she wearing lingerie and theres pictures of us doing drunk things, like making out, etc. she wanted to take those pics. she's a teacher, and she keeps her private life hidden. one time one of her students saw my instagram and she flipped out.
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Sounds to me like you work around inexperienced lawyers. Again, restraining orders are to prevent an individual (the OP) from going near or contacting another person (victim - aka ex gf). The OP said nothing about sending pictures to her family so don't get these cases confused. He said he wouuld post the pics online, that's all he said. Assuming arguendo, these pics are not doctored, she can't really sue for defamation. She can probably sue for lost wages but punitive damages no way!! Remember she agreed to take these nasty pics, lol. "Retaliation?" Let's see she would have to prove he intended to cause her harm when he posted these pics. He could argue that he posted the pics because they are beautiful and had no intent to harm his ex. Do you understand? You don't need an attorney in a small claims civil court case which some states allow up to $10k. He just posted here on the WORLD WIDE WEB that he wanted to post the pictures online for revenge in order to get her fired. Yea, if the judge didn't graduate from junior high, that explanation MIGHT be convincing after a domestic violence restraining order. DO YOU UNDERSTAND?? You don't have to agree with me, but don't talk to me like I'm stupid.
AlphaC Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 You don't need an attorney in a small claims civil court case which some states allow up to $10k. He just posted here on the WORLD WIDE WEB that he wanted to post the pictures online for revenge in order to get her fired. Yea, if the judge didn't graduate from junior high, that explanation MIGHT be convincing after a domestic violence restraining order. DO YOU UNDERSTAND?? You don't have to agree with me, but don't talk to me like I'm stupid. Haha I notice how you change the topic, "small claims, 10K" blah blah blah. Lady, these issues are not handled in small claims. Small claims is for suing your mechanic, the air conditioning repair man and the local cleaners for burning your shirts with an iron, lol. You don't know what you are talking about so I will leave it there. OP move on my man, don't state any other details about your ex on this forum, trust me.
d0nnivain Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 its not naked pictures. she wearing lingerie and theres pictures of us doing drunk things, like making out, etc. she wanted to take those pics. she's a teacher, and she keeps her private life hidden. one time one of her students saw my instagram and she flipped out. What you describe is a cyber crime. It's a also a violation of her privacy. If she gets fired as a result of your posting you could be sued for intentional interference with a prospective economic advantage. That's legaleze for you screwed with her ability to keep her job. Her damages could be her yearly salary from the day you posted until she turns 65 plus punitive damages (punishment for your intentional mean act) which are not dischargable in bankruptcy. Do NOT post the pictures. 1
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Haha I notice how you change the topic, "small claims, 10K" blah blah blah. Lady, these issues are not handled in small claims. Small claims is for suing your mechanic, the air conditioning repair man and the local cleaners for burning your shirts with an iron, lol. You don't know what you are talking about so I will leave it there. OP move on my man, don't state any other details about your ex on this forum, trust me. Changing topics?? Are you reading the same thread??Where did I say anything about attorney's?? I said CIVIL suit. RE-READ and stop assuming. Assuming that someone thinks you're gonna get a million dollar settlement for pics posted online is stupid and no one ever said that. If you've never seen cases outside of services rendered in small claims court than perhaps YOU should do some more research. I know exactly what I'm talking about, so yea, it is best you leave it there.
d0nnivain Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Changing topics?? Are you reading the same thread??Where did I say anything about attorney's?? I said CIVIL suit. RE-READ and stop assuming. Assuming that someone thinks you're gonna get a million dollar settlement for pics posted online is stupid and no one ever said that. If you've never seen cases outside of services rendered in small claims court than perhaps YOU should do some more research. I know exactly what I'm talking about, so yea, it is best you leave it there. Only a lawyer should advise about the forum selection. As I said above, if the pictures result in the EX-GF losing her job, over time she could have million dollar damages. Assuming she's 30 years old, earning $30,000 per year & that she would have worked until retirement at age 65. not even considering benefits, possible raises & the present value of money, that could be close to $1M. Clearly the possible damages far exceed small claims.
Author Jordvn Posted April 26, 2014 Author Posted April 26, 2014 fine i won't post sexy pictures of her online. but instead i'll post a picture of my sisters sonogram, and pretend i'm having a baby with another girl already. lol.
d0nnivain Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Although that's petty & makes you look extremely immature, as long as your sister knows you used her picture, at least it's not a crime so you are learning. 2
KaliLove Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 fine i won't post sexy pictures of her online. but instead i'll post a picture of my sisters sonogram, and pretend i'm having a baby with another girl already. lol. That is beyond creepy and will probably turn off any women you try to date in the future. Ever. Eww..that makes my skin crawl.
tdmnp Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 You're better to spend your time amassing enough evidence to refute her claims. That is the best revenge.
Author Jordvn Posted May 3, 2014 Author Posted May 3, 2014 (edited) So me and my friends made a rumor that I got a new girl pregnant to piss of my ex who lied and got a restraining order on me. lol, I guess it's bugging her because she's making fake Instagram accounts to look at my profile. it's so obvious that's it's her because I never go on it, and never get requests. guess I'm getting revenge by her not knowing what's going on in my life... Edited May 3, 2014 by Jordvn
TylerDurdenn Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 So me and my friends made a rumor that I got a new girl pregnant to piss of my ex who lied and got a restraining order on me. lol, I guess it's bugging her because she's making fake Instagram accounts to look at my profile. it's so obvious that's it's her because I never go on it, and never get requests. guess I'm getting revenge by her not knowing what's going on in my life... You and your friends are idiots. 3
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