Anna84 Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 Hi, I feel ridiculous for actually typing out my situation, it adds to the feeling of being a teenager again but here goes..(and thanks for reading ) So for those that dared venture on this post, I'll quickly offer some background: I've been in a dry spell for almost 2 years. I'm in my late twenties, open and easy going, physically fit and not too unattractive, but I haven't come across anyone lately causing me to have become as desperate as I am now, resulting in this ponderous post. I'm on a big trip abroad at the very moment and have finally actually met someone I felt instant chemistry with. Sexual chemistry. I tend to think that whenever you perceive strong tension this feeling is mutual (..otherwise it would probably be named something other than tension). However; I've been here 1 week now and nothing's happened and I'm becoming confused (and desperate - I've got 2 days left to make it happen) by his behaviour thus doubting my instinct and losing my confidence.. A sum up of what confuses me about this guy: He never gets into real conversations with me, but he will do it with random people standing close to me - his kind of interaction with me and mine with his is almost always teasing, and yesterday he said 'I tease and insult him as that's just my way of hitting on him '(he's right). Is it a bad thing if he notices I'm hitting on him, and could he have mentioned it because it puts him off? He asked me whether I missed him yesterday, to which I jokingly said of course I did - did you miss me? to which he pulled a face and made a minimal gesture with his hand. Point of such questions?? He's never physically touched me, not even by brushing past me. I made him laugh so hard once he had tears coming from his eyes. I'm wondering if there's a direction to which the above is pointing, however vague - do I stand a chance, or am I wasting my time (I don't mind putting up a bit of a fight!)? Is there anything I should look out for?
ExpatInItaly Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 I'm not really certain what it is you're looking for. A quick physical fling? Something more? You've mentioned you've only got two days left to make this happen - are you leaving after that? Is it likely you won't see him again? If you could give a bit more info, we can likely make some better suggestions.
stillafool Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 yesterday he said 'I tease and insult him as that's just my way of hitting on him '(he's right). I don't think he's that interested by what you've said but you should stop the above behavior when you like guys. It's kind of childish and unladylike. Men like feminine women.
Author Anna84 Posted April 25, 2014 Author Posted April 25, 2014 sorry about that - yeah that's basically the situation: I leave the continent, so I'm looking for a fling, or even only just a kiss If he's anywhere near attracted, it should form the perfect scene as he won't have the hassle of a girl pursuing him afterwards, as I'll be on the other side of the planet! And in reply to the post above, apologies for my unclear way of writing and lack of being elaborate - I should've mentioned that the subject insulting and teasing has become our inside joke, so he was by no means serious when he said it - he was just trying to provoke as that's kind of the nature of our interaction.. I guess we're both kind of goofy and sarcastic.. Hope that clears it up a bit. Thanks both for your input
Chocolat Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 Maybe he's a decent guy who sees no point in pursuing you because he knows you're leaving in 2 days. Or maybe he is not all that interested. If what you want is a ONS, then you probably need to make your intentions clear and let the chips fall where they may.
slizl Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 Next time you are with him, put your hand on his leg or something. The banter seems good, but someone has to initiate touch, might as well be you.
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