Thegreatestthing Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 I reply to him and talk to him because he always messages me,but mid conversation he will leave,I don't get it. today we were talking and he was actually saying how he would hold me and these nice sort of things,then next message I asked him what he thinks about what is happening in Ukraine and he just left? I thought maybe it's to do with me talking to other guys,and today just before he left the conversation I had told him it was speaking to someone,but clearly if I didn't want to speak to him I wouldn't have asked him about Ukraine.i never actually talk about politics but I just don't understand.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted April 25, 2014 Author Posted April 25, 2014 I know he lives by himself
Author Thegreatestthing Posted April 26, 2014 Author Posted April 26, 2014 So of course hours later he messages me again,asking how I am and all sorts of things ,I don't actually care about it as I usually have plenty of other people to talk too,but I feel like I shouldn't talk to someone who just stops talking to me and comes back hours later. Anyway I'm kind of wanting to reply and need someone to tell me not too,it's hard because he is so nice,and the first few months was msging me constantly,really into me etc.
soccerrprp Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 How do you know that he's living by himself? Doesn't have a gf? Etc?
spiderowl Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 He could be in a relationship and cutting off when he thinks his partner is approaching. Maybe he's only interested in the fantasy/sex chat and when you talk about something else he gives up (what does that tell you about the kind of guy he is?). Whatever he's doing, it's rude and thoughtless. You don't have to allow him to treat you like this. Set your own standards and draw a line. If he can't meet them, someone else will be able to. 2
Author Thegreatestthing Posted April 27, 2014 Author Posted April 27, 2014 Well I thought maybe it's because I've rejected him a lot,who knows. Only weeks ago he wrote me a message saying I love you my name,and I didn't reciprocate in any way,and I've rejected him in the past. Though I did mention sex to him once,he didn't really talk about it with me so I don't think he is in for any dirty talk. Still there probably isn't any excuse for a guy leaving mid conversation and not replying for hours.
lilmiscassie92 Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Maybe he's only interested in the fantasy/sex chat and when you talk about something else he gives up (what does that tell you about the kind of guy he is?). I agree with the above. However, sometimes people get busy and don't respond back for a couple hours.
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Arieswoman Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 TGT, Should I continue contact with him? No. He's rude and I presume he lives in another country to you? These are two very good reasons not to continue with this time-waster.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted April 27, 2014 Author Posted April 27, 2014 He does live in a different area,far from me. He is the same guy,who wouldn't get the text app,but now says he can't get it on his phone.but he can read email on his phone so it's probably not true. He was only saying he would hold me,because I was upset. He doesn't usually leave mid conversation,only once before,but he is flakey. Majority of the time he answers within an hour or two.but three times he has taken more than a day to reply. Sometimes I take a day or so to reply.sometimes when I see him online I immediately log off
MidwestUSA Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 He is the same guy,who wouldn't get the text app,but now says he can't get it on his phone.but he can read email on his phone so it's probably not true. He doesn't usually leave mid conversation,only once before,but he is flakey. Majority of the time he answers within an hour or two.but three times he has taken more than a day to reply. Sometimes I take a day or so to reply.sometimes when I see him online I immediately log off "Well I thought maybe it's because I've rejected him a lot,who knows. Only weeks ago he wrote me a message saying I love you my name,and I didn't reciprocate in any way,and I've rejected him in the past.," Still there probably isn't any excuse for a guy leaving mid conversation and not replying for hours." ^^^yes, maybe there is. Not an 'excuse' exactly, but justification for him not taking you seriously. How is his behavior rude and yours not? If not rude, you're at least playing games. 1 He said 'I love you', and you ignored it. 2 You've rejected him before. (Not sure what that means. Rejected the text?) 3 You don't trust him, saying he's lying about the app for his phone 4 You sometimes take a day or so to reply to him, AND 5 You log off when you see him online. Why? Is this a relationship or a chat buddy? What do you hope to achieve by communicating with him? You're both being flakey. Set some rules or learn to take what you get. He's not the only guy you're talking to.
Arieswoman Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 TGT, I'm sorry but this isn't sounding good. He does live in a different area,far from me.If you can't establish good communication and trust at this early stage this is going nowhere. You also said, but he is flakey.so why waste your time? Surely there must be guys who live nearer to you, who aren't flakey?
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I met someone like this too, very nice chap when he wasn't vanishing. He was single, I knew this, he didn't live with a partner, he was in army basic training and had a bed in a room with 7 other dudes. It always annoyed me when he had free time "evenings" that he would strike up a conversation usually something in depth and then poof he vanished mid conversation. Now people get busy, have plans. It happens. But when it happens every day far too often and then they just pop up out of no where and strike another conversation up you sit thinking ummmm I wonder when he will vanish this time. I stopped talking to him, I explained it annoyed me. If you don't have time to have a conversation then don't start one. He couldn't understand how annoying it was. I would advise cutting your losses personally. It's annoying and disrespectful.
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