OLD older men after younger women

[FitChick]

Older men prefer much younger women b/c women closer to their age are not as attractive. Let's be blunt, after 35 or so, both men and women begin to let themselves go. Especially women, imho. I tried dating women 5-7+/- my age (mid-forties). But, believe me, there are many more fit and attractive women at much younger ages...duh, right?

You believe it's mostly women because you date women. I date men so I notice the same is true of the men. Especially the ones who describe themselves as "young at heart." Like this one, no doubt. There are many more fit and attractive men who are younger. Not really rocket science, is it?

 

But maybe I am strange for not being attracted to men with larger breasts than I have.

Edited April 25, 2014 by FitChick

[MidwestUSA]

But maybe I am strange for not being attracted to men with larger breasts than I have.

 

OMG, I used to list that under my 'do not message me if' section.

[TigerLilly78]

I like me a chubby man but admittedly I cant do huge moobs A cup max on a dude...lmao

[FitChick]

Thanks to someone's suggestion on here once upon a time, in my profile I put it more diplomatically when I describe the man I am looking for physically: "...your waist is smaller than your chest..." Most men know their chest and waist size. Of course there are always those who wear their pants below their fat bellies so they think they have small waists.

[PinkSapphire]

I have been using online dating since I was 23, adn this has always been the case. I get the guys my age and in my range contacting, too, but there's always these old geezers in their 40s or close to it contacting me as though it's totally normal.

Gross.

If you are 5 - 10 years or more out of my range, I do *not* want to hear from you. I meet plenty old dudes irl who want to date and marry me, who I am also not interested in (I actually have an old post on here questioning this, and the women had wise, persuasive suggestions that lined up with my own experience). So now, I will be very careful not to date anyone too old; 35 is my soft limit, 36 the hard limit. Guys older than that are too moody, whiney, unable to perform, and get weirdly clingy and attached. It's amazing they think they can hit on me, though.

[Iguanna]

It's like playing a lucky game. You know you will never win, but you just keep a little hope inside you that says "what if I do win?".

 

People who don't respect my wishes disgust me.

[xxoo]

I'll never understand why the minority hot and fit 40+ men and women don't seem to appreciate and want each other. How is a younger partner better? Who knows if that young partner will age half as well!

[Woggle]

I'll never understand why the minority hot and fit 40+ men and women don't seem to appreciate and want each other. How is a younger partner better? Who knows if that young partner will age half as well!

 

Most do. Most couples are still around the same age.

[Jethro]

I always look at the age requirements before sending a message. If I'm not in their age range I do not send a message under any circumstance.

[Succession]

I have been using online dating since I was 23, adn this has always been the case. I get the guys my age and in my range contacting, too, but there's always these old geezers in their 40s or close to it contacting me as though it's totally normal.

 

If you are 5 - 10 years or more out of my range, I do *not* want to hear from you. So now, I will be very careful not to date anyone too old; 35 is my soft limit, 36 the hard limit. Guys older than that are too moody, whiney, unable to perform, and get weirdly clingy and attached. It's amazing they think they can hit on me, though.

 

Your post touched a nerve with me. Not in a bad or unfair way - you're entitled to your preferences, and it would be wrong of me to lash out against you just because I don't measure up (37).

 

However, it's really hard for me to think of myself as "moody, whiny, unable to perform, and get weirdly clingy and attached." It's especially hard to think that I'm that way now moreso than I was at 36 or even 26.

 

Maybe that's why older men (and fatter women) ignore the preferences of younger women (and thinner men) - we humans systematically fail to see ourselves the way the world sees us.

 

I try to respect the stated preferences of others online, but I also try not to get too annoyed about someone who doesn't respect mine. It's a small inconvenience to skim and delete an email, and the fact they sent it is something of a compliment. If you read between the lines of this thread, the OP isn't really upset that the wrong men are contacting her; she's really down because the right men aren't. And that's the way life goes.

[xxoo]

Most do. Most couples are still around the same age.

 

Yes, true.

 

But I was thinking of all the 40+ men AND women on these threads who insist that the other gender is too out of shape at this age or whatever. Apparently, there are groups in both genders thinking the OTHER gender is out of shape. Why don't these fit outliers seek each other out instead of tearing each other down?

[Anela]

I'm happy that I found these boards, because of the friendships that developed for me, but I do wish that I hadn't seen so many posts on the dating board, about 35 being the age that women deteriorate. I found it just before my 35th birthday, and I was already dealing with someone screwing with my mind. I've spent part of the past four years, pushing away the idea that I should be in a nursing home, using a walker to get around, and that I was suddenly not attractive in any way. The constant insults and reminders are just dreadful.

[PinkInTheLimo]

So yea I see what you mean about "self reflection" but I don't think its really anything about me..

 

No it's not about you, it's about them. They feel entitled to a younger woman.

 

It only gets worse when you are older because fewer and fewer guys your age are interested in a woman their age.

I'm not on a dating site right now but I know that since I'll be 50 in Autumn, I would start to get messages from guys mid 6Oies. It does not help to indicate your age preferences in your profile, it does not help to explicitly say that you don't want an older guy... They just ignore it (which is already a red flag) because they feel they deserve a younger woman because they are so much better than other guys their age, blablabla.

 

There was a time that I tried to reason with this guys, I answered their message asking them why they did not respect my preferences and all I got was this talk about how much better, dynamic, active they were than other guys their age. One guy told me he could be a houseman while I would work (yeah right, and live off my money ).

 

The best thing you can do is to apply "Don't discuss with idiots, they beat you with experience and drag you down to your level". So no reply (they don't deserve it), just block them. They will then probably sulk about how women don't answer you when you send them an email. The fact is: women do answer mails on OLD but not if our preferences are totally ignorer.

[PinkInTheLimo]

I'm happy that I found these boards, because of the friendships that developed for me, but I do wish that I hadn't seen so many posts on the dating board, about 35 being the age that women deteriorate. I found it just before my 35th birthday, and I was already dealing with someone screwing with my mind. I've spent part of the past four years, pushing away the idea that I should be in a nursing home, using a walker to get around, and that I was suddenly not attractive in any way. The constant insults and reminders are just dreadful.

 

It's scandalous.

 

It would be considered totally unacceptable if what is said about "older" women was said about people based on their race or nationality.

 

But one can say no matter what about a woman of a certain age. It's disgusting ageism and sexism.

If I would be a politician I would propose a law to punish this.

 

There is no scientific proof that indicates that women of a certain age are in worse shape than men of a certain age.

[thefooloftheyear]

It's scandalous.

 

It would be considered totally unacceptable if what is said about "older" women was said about people based on their race or nationality.

 

But one can say no matter what about a woman of a certain age. It's disgusting ageism and sexism.

If I would be a politician I would propose a law to punish this.

 

There is no scientific proof that indicates that women of a certain age are in worse shape than men of a certain age.

 

There's no scientific proof that taller guys are better in any way than shorter ones.....but that doesnt stop many women from kicking them right to the curb....

 

 

I think people just need to stop worrying what other people are doing with their lives...There is an ass for every seat..

 

 

Just sayin:

 

TFY

[PinkInTheLimo]

There's no scientific proof that taller guys are better in any way than shorter ones.....but that doesnt stop many women from kicking them right to the curb....

 

 

I think people just need to stop worrying what other people are doing with their lives...There is an ass for every seat..

 

 

Just sayin:

 

TFY

 

1. Women care a lot less about a man's height than man care about a woman's age. I have never heard about statistics that indicate that there are more small men single than tall men. I know plenty of smaller guys who are in a relationship and plenty of women who don't care much about a guy's height. I personally don't want a guy who is smaller than me(I am a woman of average height so that's a reasonable preference) but I have been together with guys who were my height.

I prefer a smaller handsome one than an ugly tall one.

 

2. When women want a taller guy they don't come up with all kind of negative qualities a small man would possess. They just state it is a preference without calling small guys "jaded" or "bitter".

 

3. Everyone can do with their life what they want but if they discriminate on the basis of age then that's... discrimination.

It would also be nice if the older guys accept that some women simply don't want an older guy. They should leave these women alone.

[hotpotato]

Only 17 years older? Ive had guys about 40 years older message me!

[thefooloftheyear]

1. Women care a lot less about a man's height than man care about a woman's age. I have never heard about statistics that indicate that there are more small men single than tall men. I know plenty of smaller guys who are in a relationship and plenty of women who don't care much about a guy's height. I personally don't want a guy who is smaller than me(I am a woman of average height so that's a reasonable preference) but I have been together with guys who were my height.

I prefer a smaller handsome one than an ugly tall one.

 

2. When women want a taller guy they don't come up with all kind of negative qualities a small man would possess. They just state it is a preference without calling small guys "jaded" or "bitter".

 

3. Everyone can do with their life what they want but if they discriminate on the basis of age then that's... discrimination.

It would also be nice if the older guys accept that some women simply don't want an older guy. They should leave these women alone.

 

Please spare me...

 

1) If you discriminate, then you discriminate...Everyone does...If you wouldnt date a shorter guy than you, then you are discriminating...And you mention you dont want an ugly guy...Why not? Maybe that ugly guy would treat you better than any handsome guy...Discrimination comes in all forms....period...end of story..And its fine..Who cares?

 

2) Wrong...Women mock and belittle bald guys, broke guys, fat guys, hairy guys, guys with small peckers....I could go on forever..They do it all the time..

 

3) Dating isnt a civil service job......People are free to choose whoever and whatever they want or what suits them...If they find someone that fits their criteria, then its their business...End of story...

 

What you are talking about just seems like sour grapes and insecurity on the part of aging women..If you dont like it, there really isnt much you can do about it...Just avoid those people and surround yourself with people that meet your emotional needs....No sense throwing bottles at other people for what they do...No one cares..

 

TFY

Edited April 26, 2014 by thefooloftheyear

[Iguanna]

I prefer a smaller handsome one than an ugly tall one.

 

 

Sorry to say but if you are being shallow regarding the external beauty of a guy you can't demand from a guy not to be shallow about the age of a woman. You want the handsome one, he wants the young(er) one. If his preference for the young(er) one is discrimination then so is your preference for the handsome one. Fair?

[Robert Z]

No it's not about you, it's about them. They feel entitled to a younger woman.

 

 

This delusional and a perfect example of why I would never date someone like you.

 

Men desire younger women due to biology. And I seriously doubt most women my age could begin to keep up. We were joking one day when I mentioned that idea of me being with my sb's mother, who is about my age. She started laughing almost hysterically. Her mother would never be up to spending an evening with man like me.

Edited April 26, 2014 by Robert Z

[Robert Z]

Women my age who go out and work their asses off for a hard body are definitely desirable in general. But they are relatively rare and are often cougars.

 

I always have to laugh when I see a couple of women about my age in the gym. They use 5 pound weights and never even break a sweat. Compared to me they seem old and feeble.

 

 

Perhaps the biggest lesson for me has been that most women my age aren't willing to make the effort to improve themselves, as I have.

Edited April 26, 2014 by Robert Z

[stillafool]

 

I always have to laugh when I see a couple of women about my age in the gym. They use 5 pound weights and never even break a sweat. Compared to me they seem old and feeble.

 

 

 

Now you know how young women feel about you.

[Robert Z]

Now you know how young women feel about you.

 

Funny that they go out on dates with me. I have dated six women since divorcing and only one was over thirty.

 

And now I'm sure the neighbors can hear my 23 year old sb screaming in the night. We're having the hottest sex I've ever had with anyone. One night recently I literally wowed her!

 

I've recently relocated and have about a half dozen young women who are interested.

Edited April 26, 2014 by Robert Z

[Robert Z]

Four years ago I was at least ten years older and had one foot in the grave. I was literally at death's door. We can all change but you have to be wiling to make the effort. In my experience, most women my age are not willing to do this.

 

 

At this point I am outperforming many men half my age at the gym.

Edited April 26, 2014 by Robert Z

[xxoo]

It makes all the sense in the world that escorts and gold diggers go for older men.