Has Anyone Tried Separating and Dating?

[AriaDE]

Hi-

 

I have been living with a man for 2.5 years. Moved in after 1 year of dating into his shared apartment with another male roommate. The apartment is separated so it is alright, but not perfect. I never felt 100% comfortable there, but that's not the issue here. I found out after living together for 6 months that my bf has no intention to marry me either. Whatever, I am not eager to get married, but I am eager to work on my career. I have an office space, where I work some days and nights apart from working a part time day job. I run my business half the week, and I eventually want to run it full time. It makes me come home really late, and bf gets pissed. Where he wants me is a good wife (that he doesn't have to marry), that is a good lay, a good cook, and pays bills (which I do), usually about 1/2 bills sometimes more.

 

Anyway, I like my bf, but I want to move out. I don't want him giving me cold shoulder, when I come home late or don't want to listen to his problems, when all I am trying to do is start a lucrative career that would benefit both of us. I am finally getting the recognition and I am signing contracts (Interior Design - takes several years to build credibility)

 

Don't get me wrong, he is a sweetheart, but the whole living in his place makes me feel like I am living his life, and he can be very self-centered (he is an only child). But he is also very sweet a lot of times, and he likes to be nice to me. Anyway, I have decided to move out, and I love him, so I don't want to see anyone else. Has anyone successfully continued dating after moving out? I don't care if we ever move back in, or get married, have children, although I have wanted this with him, he has delayed everything, so I don't think he is any rush either.

 

Whenever I mention moving out he gets very upset. I think it is a convenience for him, because his rent is cheaper, too.

[d0nnivain]

I lived with a BF for almost 10 years. Then I got a job farther away from our apartment & it was too much of a p.i.t.a. to commute, plus I wanted to buy a house. I moved out. Our relationship continued. Eventually we broke up but not because I moved.

[KaliLove]

Hi-

 

I have been living with a man for 2.5 years. Moved in after 1 year of dating into his shared apartment with another male roommate. The apartment is separated so it is alright, but not perfect. I never felt 100% comfortable there, but that's not the issue here. I found out after living together for 6 months that my bf has no intention to marry me either. Whatever, I am not eager to get married, but I am eager to work on my career. I have an office space, where I work some days and nights apart from working a part time day job. I run my business half the week, and I eventually want to run it full time. It makes me come home really late, and bf gets pissed. Where he wants me is a good wife (that he doesn't have to marry), that is a good lay, a good cook, and pays bills (which I do), usually about 1/2 bills sometimes more.

 

Anyway, I like my bf, but I want to move out. I don't want him giving me cold shoulder, when I come home late or don't want to listen to his problems, when all I am trying to do is start a lucrative career that would benefit both of us. I am finally getting the recognition and I am signing contracts (Interior Design - takes several years to build credibility)

 

Don't get me wrong, he is a sweetheart, but the whole living in his place makes me feel like I am living his life, and he can be very self-centered (he is an only child). But he is also very sweet a lot of times, and he likes to be nice to me. Anyway, I have decided to move out, and I love him, so I don't want to see anyone else. Has anyone successfully continued dating after moving out? I don't care if we ever move back in, or get married, have children, although I have wanted this with him, he has delayed everything, so I don't think he is any rush either.

 

Whenever I mention moving out he gets very upset. I think it is a convenience for him, because his rent is cheaper, too.

 

First of all, I was an only child and I resent that a lot. I am definitely not self-centered at all. Having siblings doesn't make you a better person.

 

Second, if your relationship is not going anywhere, that's ok as long as you've both agreed on it, but it doesn't sound like you and your boyfriend want the same things. So maybe it's best to walk away.