tam1984 Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 So I've been seeing a guy for about 3 weeks. So far, we have really hit it off. We have so far been on 6 dates, and have hooked up 3 times. I last saw him on Sunday. He told me he had a great time and that he would try to see me on Tuesday, and promised to text me today. I sent him a funny text this morning and had no response. Since we've met, we have texted daily so this is very strange to me. I did not want to seem psycho so I've not texted him since...but I did see that he checked his dating profile today. I can't be upset over this, of course...we have yet to really define the relationship and, I mean, I was checking my profile as well...but, at the same time, it only takes 3 seconds to send a text. Well, tomorrow is Tuesday and I've yet to know if we are meeting up. I don't know if I should just wait and seem uninterested...or if I should cave in and text him and risk seeming overly desperate. I've had guys pull a disappearing act in the past and I really don't want it to happen now. Any advice?
Conners Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Don't text him. You texted him so the ball is in his court! 2
LuvsTrucks2 Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Last week I was going through something similar and again this week. The "excuse" last week was a miscommunication, not sure what the "excuse" is this week. I agree with Conners, the ball is in his court, don't text.
martaldn Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 dont text. and if he hasent texted before tomorrow morning make other plans.
Damaged217 Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Do NOT text him again. And don't be just waiting and available. Even if he does contact you today and wants to see you, I would tell him you already have other plans. Don't say, "Well, since you never contacted me, I made other plans," because that will show him that you were waiting around for him and you were basing your schedule around him. Just tell him you're busy. If he likes you enough, he will make concrete plans as to when to see you again. Most likely he's dating other people as well since he's still checking his profile. That's to be expected on those dating sites. You should be dating around yourself. Please don't place all your eggs in one basket. 2
mammasita Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 You hooked up, he got what he wanted. From where I'm sitting his short lived interest has quickly faded. He obviously had time to check his dating profile which means he had time to text you - if he wanted to. IMHO - you gave up the goods too soon. You didn't even know if this guy was seeing other people or had any interest in dating you exclusively. I mean, if all you want is a good time - go for it - but own it and don't expect any call backs. 3
Zahara Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Well, tomorrow is Tuesday and I've yet to know if we are meeting up. I don't know if I should just wait and seem uninterested...or if I should cave in and text him and risk seeming overly desperate. I've had guys pull a disappearing act in the past and I really don't want it to happen now. Any advice? OP, don't text him. The thing is he is still checking the dating site so he's still looking to see what's out there. Or is probably engaging with someone and has lost sight of you. I don't think you have any control over guys wanting to do the disappearing act. You can't make them stay and focus on you. You did your part by texting him so leave it and let him come to you. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Well, it appears unanimous - do NOT text him! You already sent him a silly text and got no response. On top of this, it looks like he's gonna leave you hanging until the bitter end. As much as I'm not one who encourages game playing, I am in agreement with others on here that IF he calls today, I'd tell him you're busy and leave it there. As you already stated, you're both still online and since you haven't established any kind of commitment or exclusivity, anything goes. I know it's hard to NOT chase after him because you really like him BUT believe when I tell you that if he's meant to be with you, NOTHING will get in the way of him being with you so R.E.L.A.X. If he's not meant to be yours, there is NOTHING you can do to keep him so save your dignity and self-respect. Learn this early and you will save yourself from a lot of heartbreak and wasted nights thinking about someone who isn't feeling the same way about you. Good luck! 1
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