I've missed my ex. She contacted me, but idk if i should respond

[TheSadd]

We dated for a year?

 

I was the boyfriend from hell. Clingy. Verbally abusive, needy just totally crappy in every way. I did love her, but i was 17 and going through a ton of stuff, and totally didnt know how to treat her.

 

She cheated, and i pretty much forced her into it with my super clingyness.

 

I freaked on her when i found out, didnt hit her, but scared her and she ran off crying. Her mom called the cops and i went to jail.

 

My ex made statements against me saying i was stalker, she was scared for her safety, even had her friends make false statements saying i had hit her. Blatant lies.

 

She had no injuries so i got a misdemeanor. But she also got a 5 year restraining order. That day she came to court to get the order she was wearing my jacket and in complete teas the whole time. So idk if she really felt that way or if her parents made her make the statements.

 

Its only a year later. She went to my moms house this morning, mom told her i didnt live there. She somehow got my phone number and has texted twice asking if it was me.

 

Tbh i want to respond bad. She was my bestfriend and i loved her so much. I've been practically in tears thinking of her all day. Ive grown so much, and i can see everythijg i did wrong.

 

But on the other hand she was wrong to get me falsely accused. If she truly didnt want me in her life i would have left. I broke up with her a few times and she always begged me to stay.

 

And idk i just feel like i have love for her, but what is there left to say? Can never be the way it was.

[kaylan]

Yikes.

 

Just move on kid. No use going backwards in life. But knowing how young boys never listen to good advice, youll likely start talking to her again.

[maturityassets]

Seriously, it doesn't sound worth it. She is bored? Guilty? Ashamed? Doesn't matter, I know you've grown in the past year but the best way to show that is proving it to yourself by meeting someone else. First love will always be attractive to our eyes but it's a mirage. You can't simply go back. the only redemption I have found in this life is the ability to accept and move on from the past. We can't will to change the past but we can will to become something bigger than our current selves. It is only by experience do we grow and develop, seems like you have plenty of experience to make the decision you think is best

[Eternal Sunshine]

If she has a restraining order responding to her can land you in jail.

[soccerrprp]

Really, for HER sake, leave her alone.

[TheSadd]

Well shes texted again. Im not responding. Can i call cops on her for violating her own order?

 

And how do i just forget? I was like over her (still am) but now i cant stop thinking about her. its driving me crazy.

 

i just want to be left alone, im honestly just not ready

[David87]

No don't call the cops lol....... Just ignore her texts, she'll understand eventually.

[somecamel]

What is she saying in her texts? This might not be about trying to make things up with you and may be about something else?

[melell]

Wouldn't forgive a false accusation under any circumstance- there was potential there for your life to be seriously influenced by that.

 

Learn, ignore, move on.