ExposedBrick Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 It's the end of the date. I'm either really interested, indifferent, or uninterested. I never know what the best way is to close out a date of interest. Usually I feel like people imply they had a good time regardless. Is it better to ask for the second date on the spot or just say you had a good time? If the date is poor, is there a nice way to be upfront?
Strength in Healing Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 I always made a second date at the end of the first one. Why wait? Those waiting games/rules are BS. It was created by someone with a low IQ, and sheep follow it.
MidwestUSA Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 I always made a second date at the end of the first one. Why wait? Those waiting games/rules are BS. It was created by someone with a low IQ, and sheep follow it. This is insulting to sheep! But yes, agree. If a good date and you want another, ask during or at the end of the first. If poor, I don't know. Most times I've faced the fadeaway. Looking forward to other replies and/or experiences.
Mrin Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Interested: a kiss or if not a kiss, an intimate moment of eye contact and perhaps a touch of some sort. Make second date there on the spot. Momentum is your friend my friend. Indifferent: tell her I had a really nice time and thank her for her company. I don't toss them back after the first indifferent date. Too many variables. Nerves, situation, work stress. A mediocre first date can turn in a wowser of a second date. Disinterested: While I am guilty of the fade, if the situation calls for it I will just be upfront and tell her I had a good time (often a lie) but that I just don't feel a spark between us and don't want to waste her time.
thecrucible Posted April 18, 2014 Posted April 18, 2014 (edited) Understanding social cues helps. If a guy doesn't ask for a second date during the first one, I assume he doesn't want to see me again. I leave the ball in his court and I don't bother contacting him about it. Usually that intuition tends to be right... I don't assume that a lack of kissing means that the guy isn't into me. Now I think..."thank God this guy isn't trying to get into bed with me so quickly". But if I kiss them, I usually expect a second date. I never kiss someone if it doesn't feel right, even if they want to kiss me. And for goodness sake people, never go on a date you're not enthusiastic about. I tell myself that now. If I get proper cold feet before the date, I cancel ASAP no matter how bad it looks because it's better than wasting someone's time. I also don't go on a date unless I know for a fact that I'm going to make a proper effort with it. Edited April 18, 2014 by thecrucible
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