jothebo41 Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 (edited) so I met this girl out and about and we talked a little. Two weeks ago I again saw her at the gym approached her and asked her out on the spot. She accepted and we had a nice time, attraction was there, shared a nice kiss afterwards. She was wearing a walking boot due to breaking a bone/tearing a ligament in her ankle (this is key to the story) surgery upcoming, at the gym to keep upper body active. We made plans to go out shortly afterwards, but she canceled because her friend was in town. I did not over contact, I texted her about every 4-5 days to guage interest about going out again. She always responded but was always busy, kept referencing her upcoming surgery and was taking on overtime. So I last talked to her on Saturday, pretty much gave up. But guess who contacted me yesterday? Her. Invited me to eat dinner with her brother and his gf, they kind of treated me as her bf. It was fun, they liked me. I kept the physical contact going, we ocassionally rubbed each others legs under the table. Back at her place we walked her dogs and made out in the park. Snuggled up on the couch together and watched some TV, and made out on the couch before I left. I wasn't trying to at all, but when we were getting a little more 'into it' (I wasn't really groping her or forcing myself, but she pulled me onto her) she stopped and said she didn't want to get really into it that night because of her surgery tomorrow (its today). I was just like hey its ok, I wasn't trying for anything else I completely understand (...you were obviously thinking about sex...) We shared a few more hugs and kisses as I left and I promised to see her again and watch movies with her while she is in a cast. She though that was nice/a good idea and I left. Texted her thoughts/payers and that I had fun, replied with a thanks/smiley she had fun too. What just happened? should I put any stock into this? Any experience in this situation? Thoughts? Thanks in advance Edited April 17, 2014 by jothebo41
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 so I met this girl out and about and we talked a little. Two weeks ago I again saw her at the gym approached her and asked her out on the spot. She accepted and we had a nice time, attraction was there, shared a nice kiss afterwards. She was wearing a walking boot due to breaking a bone/tearing a ligament in her ankle (this is key to the story) surgery upcoming, at the gym to keep upper body active. We made plans to go out shortly afterwards, but she canceled because her friend was in town. I did not over contact, I texted her about every 4-5 days to guage interest about going out again. She always responded but was always busy, kept referencing her upcoming surgery and was taking on overtime. So I last talked to her on Saturday, pretty much gave up. But guess who contacted me yesterday? Her. Invited me to eat dinner with her brother and his gf, they kind of treated me as her bf. It was fun, they liked me. I kept the physical contact going, we ocassionally rubbed each others legs under the table. Back at her place we walked her dogs and made out in the park. Snuggled up on the couch together and watched some TV, and made out on the couch before I left. I wasn't trying to at all, but when we were getting a little more 'into it' (I wasn't really groping her or forcing myself, but she pulled me onto her) she stopped and said she didn't want to get really into it that night because of her surgery tomorrow (its today). I was just like hey its ok, I wasn't trying for anything else I completely understand (...you were obviously thinking about sex...) We shared a few more hugs and kisses as I left and I promised to see her again and watch movies with her while she is in a cast. She though that was nice/a good idea and I left. Texted her thoughts/payers and that I had fun, replied with a thanks/smiley she had fun too. What just happened? should I put any stock into this? Any experience in this situation? Thoughts? Thanks in advance You should've told her you weren't expecting a "foot-job" or anything lol. And as for your questions at the end? Experience in what? Going on a date that went well..? I don't see what advice you're looking for. If anything, the moral of the story is don't appear as the needy one and always be the one who initiates contact. By laying low you created mystery/interest/the appearance that you're busy and her interest went up. So don't go overboard with contacting her. But I would ask her out soon. Have a set time, location, and activity. And make it something interesting/fun.
Author jothebo41 Posted April 17, 2014 Author Posted April 17, 2014 You should've told her you weren't expecting a "foot-job" or anything lol. And as for your questions at the end? Experience in what? Going on a date that went well..? I don't see what advice you're looking for. If anything, the moral of the story is don't appear as the needy one and always be the one who initiates contact. By laying low you created mystery/interest/the appearance that you're busy and her interest went up. So don't go overboard with contacting her. But I would ask her out soon. Have a set time, location, and activity. And make it something interesting/fun. Haha that actually would have been funny, she has a good sense of humor. I guess not advice dealing with a girl with a torn ankle ligament lol, but advice going on a second date that got hot and heavy (relatively) but then not being able to see someone for awhile. Like we can't really 'go out' for a few weeks, I probably can't come over to her place for at least a week while she recoups. That's why I am not sure exactly how to play this. Our next tentative plans I had discussed was going to a baseball game (fun/interesting) and she liked the idea. Other than watching movies at her place. I'm not so sure of how much she just wanted to make out before her surgery or if she actually likes me, going out on a 'double date' with her brother and his gf really surprised me.
HappyLove Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 I'd keep communication and not expect her to be ready to hang out for a while. Just check in with her I'm sure she will let you know. Looks like when you backed off a bit is when she became more interested so I'd watch that. She seems kind of flakey but maybe she really was just busy.
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 I see no reason why you couldn't stop by her place to hang out as she recoups.
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