dontgiveuponme Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 (edited) Hello guys just need some advice of what to do because im very confused right now and its very painful in this kind of situation. To make the story short my ex fiancee of 3 years break up on me last january and have an affair,but after 2 weeks he comes back said sorry and regret what happen. Its a bit complicated since its a LDR aswell..He comes visit me every 6 months and spend his time for 2 months with me, the affair and break up happen here in my city and that hurts me so much since its a very small town. When he comes back to UK we tried to fix things again.But i think he regret what he did that sometimes he doesnt know how to approach me,and make himself very busy at work. 2 weeks ago we had a fight and its my fault which i admit and apologize but he never talk to me for a week and when i confront him he just said he is busy and dont want to be bothered with some ****. We are both 25 and ill say we had a very strong relationship before we talk on skype everyday before he goes to work and after his work till we fall asleep.I even talk to his family and everyone likes me.He got lots of plans in our future. The problem starts when my tourist visa got denied and we tried again this time a fiancee visa but its on hold at the moment coz theres a problem with his financial requirement. The rest of his family tried to help but he start losing hope. Eventhough he keep telling me he will never gonna give up on me.He starts building our house aswell. Yesterday he leave me a message in response to mine this is what he said: "I know but I feel Like we need some space.... I don't know what I really want so I need some time to think... I feel like I've ruined this but I'm starting to feel like it won't work cos u won't let it go.... Plus if the visa isn't getting anywhere then what are we meant to do " What should i do guys?pls help me i ask him if he still love me he said he always love me and have feelings for me but he said its unfair for both of us that we cant be together right now. I know he doesnt have any girl right now im so sure about that.He only keeps himself busy at work and tried to hang out with his friends.But one of them got 5 kids,one just got engaged and the other one his gf just got pregnant so i know its all boys hangout. Im scared to give him space because if i do then our relationship will drift more apart coz of lack of communication or the relationship we are trying to save will be gone coz of neglect and i dont want that to happen.Should i give him space right away or ask him to talk to me for one last time and clear things first?Is he experiencing GIGS or more serious problem? Sorry for the long post guys Edited April 17, 2014 by dontgiveuponme
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