Rdskinz Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 I've been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years are we are crazy in love. I don't feel like I have given him reason to suspect me so I'm not sure why he would be snooping. Just yesterday, I caught him sneakingly go through my text messages. I came out of the bathroom and he was putting my phone away pretending to do something else. When I checked my phone, my messages were open. I did not confront him about this at all. We are in a serious relationship and he has told me in an emotional and serious conversation that I am the one he wants to marry and etc... So I am not understanding why he would snoop? Is this part of the relationship phase before making a big move? What could it be?
ASG Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 Jealousy pure and simple. He doesn't trust you. Why he doesn't trust you I don't know, but that is what snooping means... I think you should confront him. It is not cool and it means there are deeper issues in the relationship...
Silly_Girl Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 In my experience, folk who are suspicious with NO basis are actually the ones we should be suspicious of! Is there anything that might trigger him to check on you? Why did you not ask him about the snooping? 1
Keenly Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 Now you are positive he was snooping? I've snuck my past girlfriends phone. Few times, but only to change my name in her contacts to something that would make her smile. Did he change anything ? 1
Author Rdskinz Posted April 16, 2014 Author Posted April 16, 2014 No he didn't change anything . He was just looking through my texts. I did tell him I was going to go out past Saturday ( he snooped yesterday so afterwards). But I didn't go out b/c I ended spending time with hi instead
Author Rdskinz Posted April 16, 2014 Author Posted April 16, 2014 Nothing but I did tell him I was going to go out sat. Might but that didn't happen
Mascara Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 Some people need the extra reassurance, usually through previous experience. I know that bothers a lot of people, but it wouldn't bother me. On the other hand, I can see why the snooping aspect is underhand, if I felt my boyfriend needed the reassurance I'd probably just give him my passcode. He told me what his is (although I can't remember it), albeit for an unrelated reason.
todreaminblue Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 I've been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years are we are crazy in love. I don't feel like I have given him reason to suspect me so I'm not sure why he would be snooping. Just yesterday, I caught him sneakingly go through my text messages. I came out of the bathroom and he was putting my phone away pretending to do something else. When I checked my phone, my messages were open. I did not confront him about this at all. We are in a serious relationship and he has told me in an emotional and serious conversation that I am the one he wants to marry and etc... So I am not understanding why he would snoop? Is this part of the relationship phase before making a big move? What could it be? i think keenly said something really cute and positive it could be it might be soemthing positive..made me smile so thanks for the smiel keenly ...needed it........ why does it bother you he read your messages...would you let him if he asked too? all i know is everytime i have snooped i have followed a prompting to snoop and every single time ....i needed to find the truth even though it hurts like crap to know the truth that truth forces me to make changes i need to make and stick by them...yep cheats but you arent cheating or doing anything wrong...there are worse things a partner can do than snoop on you.........if i had a partner who snooped on me i would consider myself blessed that he cared what people write to me...... i would however ask him why......maybe you should ask him hey sweetness in my caffeine free cappaccino.......why you snoopin on me what is worrying you...sometimes lightness with concerns can alleviate them faster than harsh words....:0)...best wishes........deb
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