Hosea Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Went on 3 dates with this girl but she eventually told me she doesn't want a relationship with me. If you remember my previous topic last week I did send her some pretty lame texts, but I think it is more that I did something during the third date that just turned her off. You might be thinking 3 dates dude wtf, get over it beta. Yeah you might be right, but still. She's not out of this world hot but was just cute enough to keep me interested.. it was her personality that really hooked me in.. she just seemed like a very caring, open, and interesting person. She was kind of out of my league in terms of intelligence.. full ride to a top 10 school, spoke 5 languages, really passionate with her interests and hobbies. I found myself wanting to learn more about her and honestly didn't think about sex too much with her I've been talking to other girls to attempt to get my mind off her but it hasn't helped. Sometimes I'll be on facebook and I can't help but peek at her pictures. I'm really taking this rejection to heart and it sucks. I am used to being rejected by girls but when you thought that it was going somewhere and you get cut off, you can't help but wonder why. Thanks if you read through my little rant. I guess all it takes is time but I'm still a little bummed.
slizl Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Sorry to hear that. When I am feeling down, I just think to myself, there is only one relationship (hopefully) in your life that won't lead to a breakup (your marriage). Dust yourself off and get back out there! 2
Lyn77 Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Care to mention what you did/said during that third date that might have turned her off? {Curious}
shet Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Sometimes we meet people who are faster, more successful, more driven and more buttoned down than us. Maybe they really want a partner more laid back they can relax and share life with. Or maybe they definitely don't want that, they want someone else as highly educated, wealthy, whatever. It's inevitable if they move on from you, that you will feel inadequate. It'll get in your head more than usual because it's harder for you to equivocate the relationship failure - saying to yourself "they don't know what they're missing" and "I deserve better anyway" rings really hollow.
Author Hosea Posted April 15, 2014 Author Posted April 15, 2014 Sometimes we meet people who are faster, more successful, more driven and more buttoned down than us. Maybe they really want a partner more laid back they can relax and share life with. Or maybe they definitely don't want that, they want someone else as highly educated, wealthy, whatever. It's inevitable if they move on from you, that you will feel inadequate. It'll get in your head more than usual because it's harder for you to equivocate the relationship failure - saying to yourself "they don't know what they're missing" and "I deserve better anyway" rings really hollow. That doesn't make me feel better but everything you said is true, lol. I'm not really sure exactly what I did wrong. I do know that I was not being my normal confident self during the date. I was downplaying myself a lot. It could be that she is graduating this semester and I still have another year left to go and she didn't see a future with that. It could have been anything but I honestly don't know for sure. On the third date she invited me to her apartment to hang out. I just know that she wasn't as into me as I thought when I tried to touch her during our makeout session and she stopped me.
BreakOnThrough Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 She sure isn't thinking of you so why bother doing the same? Just think of her getting plowed by that other Guy, which is what she is probably doing and wanting to do and that should set you straight.
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