unagedtiger Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 This girl and I have been going out for 4 months now. (I just met her parents last Friday). She sends good night and morning messages everyday and that suddenly stopped. I posted something similar a while ago but that got solved. But this time, we had some disagreements during our conversations and slightly upsetted each other. (She even said I look quite upset). It seems now she is upset. Shall I just leave her alone until she processes her thoughts and gets back to me? Or try to figure out what is upsetting her?
tekkenfan2 Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 I think you should just text her and be like hey, how come you stopped texting me? Direct communication is always best if possible.
Author unagedtiger Posted April 14, 2014 Author Posted April 14, 2014 I think you should just text her and be like hey, how come you stopped texting me? Direct communication is always best if possible. I already asked once to see if she is ok. No response yet. I guess I'll just have to wait until the reply comes? and not repeat texts?
mammasita Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 When was the last time you communicated/texted?
Author unagedtiger Posted April 14, 2014 Author Posted April 14, 2014 When was the last time you communicated/texted? Last night. Because she always responds promptly and that's what's bothering me.
ja123 Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Don't text anymore today, if you don't hear from her. Then tomorrow, you can say something like , "Hey, I noticed you haven't contacted me. Did I do anything wrong?"
mammasita Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Well, you've already asked if she was ok and got no response....... Since you suspect she is upset you should call her (I'm not a fan of phone calls personally - but I think this is your best option here). If she doesn't answer, leave her a message calmly stating that if she's upset you'd like to talk about it and ignoring or avoiding you is not the best way to deal with things. Just make sure she's not at work or an appointment or somewhere that she doesn't have phone access before you assume she's ignoring you.
Author unagedtiger Posted April 14, 2014 Author Posted April 14, 2014 Was anything different before the text messages stopped? Anything you said or did that might have upset her? Did her parents seem to like you? If not, could it be that you have gotten kind of comfortable in the relationship and stopped doing the kinds of things you did when you first wanted to impress her? Women don't really like to be alone to process things....that's a male way of handling things. They like to talk things out and they like to know that others care, so I would keep texting her and asking if she is ok, that you are worried about her, etc. Make it about her not you. If you don't text her she may take that as a sign that you don't care and increase her distance. Her parents and I got along fine. After parents left, yea we had a slight argument/disagreement about something. Before she went home, she said she can notice I'm upset and I think now she is upset the way I am still now that I'm not agreeing to her stance.
d0nnivain Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 I'd call her not text her & ask if something is bothering her. Then talk it through.
Author unagedtiger Posted April 14, 2014 Author Posted April 14, 2014 I'd call her not text her & ask if something is bothering her. Then talk it through. If she doesn't respond to calls? Shall I wait a few days without initiating any new conversations?
d0nnivain Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 If she doesn't respond to calls? Shall I wait a few days without initiating any new conversations? If you have reached out via call & text, the ball is in her court.
Author unagedtiger Posted April 14, 2014 Author Posted April 14, 2014 If you have reached out via call & text, the ball is in her court. Can she do this without an intention to end our relationship? Just holding out because being upset temporarily?
mammasita Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Can she do this without an intention to end our relationship? Just holding out because being upset temporarily? She can do whatever she wants, no way for us to know what's going through her head or if she intends to break up. All I know is that her response to a disagreement (not sure what your disagreement was about, it may have been a deal breaker for her - who knows?) is very immature. Whatever the case, ignoring and not responding is juvenile. I personally woudn't want to be with somone who handled themselves this way. You're only four months in, This is simply a sample of what's to come - do you want to be 4 years in and have a MAJOR disagreement and have her disappear for weeks/months? I wouldn't.
Author unagedtiger Posted April 14, 2014 Author Posted April 14, 2014 She can do whatever she wants, no way for us to know what's going through her head or if she intends to break up. All I know is that her response to a disagreement (not sure what your disagreement was about, it may have been a deal breaker for her - who knows?) is very immature. Whatever the case, ignoring and not responding is juvenile. I personally woudn't want to be with somone who handled themselves this way. You're only four months in, This is simply a sample of what's to come - do you want to be 4 years in and have a MAJOR disagreement and have her disappear for weeks/months? I wouldn't. Good point. I'll set a deadline or think of this more.
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