down hearted Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 So just a thought here, I personally do not have Facebook neither does my husband, we used to have it but we both got rid of it before we got married since we did not want drama, and the people we do need to talk to we talk to every day so if i don't talk to you then you are not really important in my life. Kind of like high school classmates etc.. i don't need to keep in touch with half of the school since the reality is that we do not keep in touch aside from Facebook then its not a "real friendship" or so i feel it isn't more like acquaintances really. We keep in touch with the people that are really active in our lives. Anyways, lately my husband's coworkers have been giving him the idea to get Facebook and what not, so my husband brought it up a couple of times to have a Facebook together. One, my husband is extremely jealous, so if an old co worker or high school friend decides to friend request all hell will break loose even if i don't care for it, ignore it whatever. This is the kind of drama am talking about. I want to avoid Facebook because i realized that even when you don't look for trouble, there is always a misunderstanding that can bring problems to the surface, something so small can become a HUGE issue, i know my husband and boy is he jealous. I have no interest for it, but feel like because its a social thing and everybody has it whatever i may be kind of anti-social here i don't know/ or missing out?? i don't know, i am not jealous at all of course to a certain extend where i will not be disrespected just saying but not really jealous, my husband though quite opposite. What do you guys think of Facebook and what not? I just feel this will be a disaster for my relationship. I mean its not a big thing it was just a thought my husband brought up a few times before. 1
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Facebook - successfully destroying relationships since 1999! x 3
ffsear Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 (edited) I don't have a problem with using facebook on a computer. If someone wants to sit down, have a facebook session for an hour or so and see whats going on then its not a problem. Me and my Mrs however both decided to not have the facebook app on our phones. Getting an alert (like a txt message) eveytime someone likes something or says something on something you've commented or whatever is far too intrusive. It makes you look at your phone, then you starting looking at pointless crap again. As facebook has evolved over the years, they have engineered it to be far too intrusive. As for me, having co-workers on facebook is a No. The odd one or 2 end up as actual friends, but the vast majority are nothing more then co-workers. My mrs started a new job and in the first 2 weeks she had about 20 new requests from co workes. Some of these people you look at their profiles and the have in excess of 2,000 friends. Its ridiculous Edited April 14, 2014 by ffsear 1
Author down hearted Posted April 14, 2014 Author Posted April 14, 2014 I don't have a problem with using facebook on a computer. If someone wants to sit down, have a facebook session for an hour or so and see whats going on then its not a problem. Me and my Mrs however both decided to not have the facebook app on our phones. Getting an alert (like a txt message) eveytime someone likes something or says something on something you've commented or whatever is far too intrusive. It makes you look at your phone, then you starting looking at pointless crap again. As facebook has evolved over the years, they have engineered it to be far too intrusive. As for me, having co-workers on facebook is a No. The odd one or 2 end up as actual friends, but the vast majority are nothing more then co-workers. My mrs started a new job and in the first 2 weeks she had about 20 new requests from co workes. Some of these people you look at their profiles and the have in excess of 2,000 friends. Its ridiculous Yea i agree it can get pretty crazy and ridiculous, I had a guy crash into my car a few months back because as he stupidly put it laughing through the comment "My bad i was face booking some stuff"…..reallllly……mind you this was on a red light with no moving traffic. Anyway, my husband has not mentioned much lately since i told him i do not want Facebook and i kept turning it down to a point he probably forgot i was just thinking about it and realize it really isn't for us, i don't know i like my privacy for instance me and my MIL do not get along so i just blocked her out of my life and have my husband deal with her instead is funny how my mother in law is emotionally frustrated because she wishes she knew something about me and she doesn't because other than my husband telling her there really isn't much for her to know, which is nice makes my marriage a little easier without her meddling in our things. For instance, If we were to go on vacation etc, she will feel the need to ask for money because in her eyes if we can afford vacation we can afford paying for her things and meddle, but since she has no way to get her information life is good and drama free, It's quite nice. If hubby asks again, i don't know how else to tell him i don't want anything to do with Facebook, his own parents had FB drama!
MidwestUSA Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 The Facebook issue seems pretty trivial in light of the jealousy issues you describe with your husband. "All hell would break loose" if you got a friend request from an old high school classmate? Really? 1
Babolat Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 So just a thought here, I personally do not have Facebook neither does my husband, we used to have it but we both got rid of it before we got married since we did not want drama, and the people we do need to talk to we talk to every day so if i don't talk to you then you are not really important in my life. Kind of like high school classmates etc.. i don't need to keep in touch with half of the school since the reality is that we do not keep in touch aside from Facebook then its not a "real friendship" or so i feel it isn't more like acquaintances really. We keep in touch with the people that are really active in our lives. Anyways, lately my husband's coworkers have been giving him the idea to get Facebook and what not, so my husband brought it up a couple of times to have a Facebook together. One, my husband is extremely jealous, so if an old co worker or high school friend decides to friend request all hell will break loose even if i don't care for it, ignore it whatever. This is the kind of drama am talking about. I want to avoid Facebook because i realized that even when you don't look for trouble, there is always a misunderstanding that can bring problems to the surface, something so small can become a HUGE issue, i know my husband and boy is he jealous. I have no interest for it, but feel like because its a social thing and everybody has it whatever i may be kind of anti-social here i don't know/ or missing out?? i don't know, i am not jealous at all of course to a certain extend where i will not be disrespected just saying but not really jealous, my husband though quite opposite. What do you guys think of Facebook and what not? I just feel this will be a disaster for my relationship. I mean its not a big thing it was just a thought my husband brought up a few times before. I hate it for its Narcissistic reasons, like it for keeping up with family and friends and invitations to events.
ffsear Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Leave it at that then. Facebook will not enrich you life in any way shape or form.
Valen Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Facebook drama is unnecessarily. My real friends and family are just a phone call away. I need to get me one of this: http://disseminatedthought.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/facebook-tee.jpg
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