Mla Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 I think it's been five months or so posted few times along way and I envy posts saying they feel better wtc by now but I feel worse! I'm even dreaming now more than I did in the beginning and shock phase I had my closure knowing he moved on straight away although it didn't give me closure, I don't lose hope and can't stop thinking bout him her and comparing and I kiss him everyday and still upset everyday I think of the good still struggle to be angry I think of the bad and simply upsets me and hurts me further I hate thought that he could have done better prettier and better relationship He contacted me that didn't help even though it should have realising he won't change but it jus bothers me he found his replacement straight away new job life car friends and iv been stuck skint lonely luve on my own isolated and keep thinkin il never experience the good I had with him again I wish I could be happy on my own bit I'm filled with sadness each day day in and out I'm ploughing on with work tryin to get out when I can afored to but nothing working thoughts don't go and I think over everything and curious as to what I doth know etc, not even nice weather like today cheers me up or music etc I spent it alone and jus missed him even though I hate him for wa he did act like and was he done when we rowed I jus hate I'm stuck and doesn't feel iv moved on in the slightest Days and weeks merge into one same **** different day no life I hate myself knowin he has his happy moments and a life and feel I have nothing I don't want anyone else still can't believe the time that's past yet still feels like yesterday! :,(
yorkie Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 hey your not alone im 7 n half months on since ex left me she cheated on me and now lives with the new guy. yes its hard i have moved on in some ways i have a new gf who i like alot but i still miss her loads but that isnt saying i would have her back. 13 years we were together but it just takes time last week i was really down nearly as bad as i was at the break up but you have to keep your focus! its alright to want them and miss them thats natural but you also have to try and make plans for the future for yourself! chin up and keep the faith you will move on in time but it isnt easy and all those who say yeah they moved on blah blah yeah right why are they still here!
FortunateSon Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 If it makes you feel any better, I am over 10 months post BU of a 6 year relationship/engagement, 4 months NC and I am still not where I want to be yet. I have found the healing process is not linear, there are waves of emotions that ebb and flows. I find I will be doing well for awhile, then feel set back for a week a week or two. I found out that my ex got into a serious relationship after 4 months post-BU and still is as far as I know, this REALLY hurt me. I have been NC since the beginning of the year, blocked her on FB, and extricated any reminders of her out of my life I possible could. I have been dating casually, but still do not feel ready for a relationship. I think I am doing the right things, I am hoping by a year I will be healed and ready for a serious relationship should the right person come into my life.
Author Mla Posted April 13, 2014 Author Posted April 13, 2014 I'm happy for u that u have moments or periods of doing well only time I was doin better n didn't cry was for 5 days after he emailed me thinkin he will never change I stuck to no contact too and deleted everythin I relapsed and looked twice it hurt seein pics thought she was better in everyway even tho others say diff and I am very insecure yet I also so the relationship wasn't rosy but that has no affect as I think well thy still have each other! I seen post that hurt him sayin how happy he was compared to few months ago with his new gf yet he emailed me After this but I know I'm being hard on myself as it's him he moves on quick and contacted his ex when we rowed and she fell for it and got messed around again but it makes me think was out relationship all a lie that he could jus replace so easily and start sayin he loves her so quickly too! I hate they have each other for company and go places he does things I anted him to do with me he wouldn't I miss physical side it was perfect in every way and my attraction I'm so scared I won't get tht again and not dated still can't comprehended anyone else! I'm happy you are dating and that my first replyer is in a relationship now u r both makin positive steps I felt I not even made a step in that direction yet
Author Mla Posted April 13, 2014 Author Posted April 13, 2014 What I have been doing which I thought was strange until a friend confirmed she doe same is instead of checkin his profiles I been checkin his ex to see how she gettin on thinkin I hope I'm in her place soon doin better etc :/
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 Stop doing ANY cyber snooping!!! This is hurting you!!! 4
sooshi Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 FortunateSon, I am so sorry for what you're going through. Mla, I know what it's like to miss your ex, but it's clear that being on your own for a while is a good thing. You've admitted to your issues of insecurity (which is also evident in your posts). Work on yourself. Get your confidence and self-esteem up. You're not ready for a healthy relationship right now or anytime soon. After you've worked on yourself some, you'll be happier to be on your own and attract someone who's happy to be on their own but also wants to be with you (and vice-versa). 1
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