Shibby585 Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 So I've recently had a breakup in march and I'm really struggling at the moment. We were together 2 and a half years and it wasn't working out so I had to call time on the relationship. The reason why is because we drifted apart I had recently started a new job working evenings and only saw him On the weekends and then I realised we barely spoke he hadn't rang me for 6 weeks. There were other issues surrounding the relationship he was a big mummies boy the sun shone out of her arse constantly excluded from Stuff and she was rude to me. She booked a holiday for her and her 27 year old son my ex to go on holiday to Mexico together as they needed to repair their relationship. Anyway we had our own house then moved back up north into our parents me at my mums his at his mums so we could save for a mortgage. He was doing drugs behind my back promised to stop but he used the excuse he was bored. He promised to get help didn't because his mum said he was fine didn't need help and made the excuses that he was bored also as if that made the lying and sneaking about and drugs ok. So after fighting for 6 months for him To follow his promises. Trying to save for a mortgage while he dodged the question as to when we would move and when he was going to do as promised and see someone I gave up. Bearing in mind all through this I tried really hard booking us romantic trips to rome and loads of stuff he would enjoy to try repair out relationship to which he said he didn't care about (oh his mum booked the holiday to Mexico same time as I booked rome) Anyway it's been a month but I'm still struggling with no contCt and to cope i spoke to him to return stuff and ask to help pay rome off he said I didn't want u out of my life but I still care. I told him I loved Him but things had to change and if he wanted to try and fight for us it had to change to which he didn't reply and I haven't heard back since I know I deserve better he didn't want to commit he let his mum twist everything into believing that he's happy at home with her because he doesn't have to grow up and she will blow smoke up his arse and boost his ego telling him how great he is (oh she goes clubbing with him she's 60) So she told me he wasn't ready and didn't want a house or kids and would always pick her over me. I'm devastated he should have been man enough to speak up against this and to fight for our life but now I feel like was i even worth anything to him. Constant memories and pain dreams of him I haven't been back in touch since I had him the option but I feel Completely worthless I devoted my life to him tried to make it work and he didn't care when I walked away how do I cope with this? Sorry I know this is long
melell Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 Try not to put too much emphasis on the details, they really matter little, and the more you think about it the more you keep the 'fire' burning/fuel the feelings so to speak. At only a month nc it is perfectly normal to still be feeling this way and thinking about it- it will get better I promise. It took me about 2.5 months to really stop thinking about it all the time- that was after many years together. You will be feeling better before you know it. Hang in there
Author Shibby585 Posted April 14, 2014 Author Posted April 14, 2014 Yeah I know your completely right I just feel like after a month I shouldn't still be feeling this way. I was fine this week haven't been in contact at all and seemed to have had a massive relapse it's just knocked me back down but thanks for your kind words
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