jassy Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 (edited) We broke up in October but remained in contact because I'm preg. Around February we became cool again & trying to work things out. We've been cool since & spend time with each other. He comes over almost everyday & even thinking about moving in with me. Yesterday he called me & asked me 2 come over. He was loving & affectionate as usual & a hour or so I left because he was going out with his friends & said he will txt me when he gets home. Around 12am he texted me & said he's coming 2 my house, but I was sleep & he never came. 2am I got a phone call from my mom that a relative passed away. The battery on my phone was dying & my charger was at his place. I called several times but he didn't answer. I then just went over here because we both have keys 2 each other's house so we always just come & go as he pleases. Well to my surprise he was laid up with a girl & he's been lying to me about this girl. Normally I would've caused a huge scene, but I just came for my charger & kept it at that. When I got my things & walked 2 my car, he EXTREMELY pissed off. He walked with me outside & when I was asking 2 hear the truth from him he pushed me, called me a b*tch, & put his hands in my face (poking me in the eye). He blamed me for the reason we broke up (which isn't true). He told me he hates me & can't stand being around me. Last weekend he told me he's been thinking about marrying me because he loves me & because I always been down 4 him no matter what. He also said he would honestly love 2 have a home a family with our baby. When I asked him why did he say all of that, he completely avoided the question & said "yeah I was thinking about it, but u wouldn't understand because u never understand anything!". I tried 2 hold myself together but I just broke down & cried. Not even the fact that he was laid up with this other girl, what hurt me was the way he was acting. When I started crying he said "See! Now you're crying! U can't handle pregnancy either! U need 2 be stronger!". Then when I was about 2 leave he hugged me & said with an attitude "believe it or not I do love u". I just don't understand why he acted this way & just instantly turned on me Edited April 12, 2014 by jassy
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 Not even reading the post, but the title should say PEOPLE, rather than MEN. There are both men and women who are slime balls AND there are both men and women who are fine, upstanding, moral people...
carhill Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 Sorry about your battery and getting cheated on while pregnant. That sucks. As to 'why', base male response to conflict is anger and violence. It's socialized into us from a young age. If a boy doesn't fight, he gets pummeled and picked on. Anger and violence are approved methods for males to express emotion. Right? IMO, no, and especially not with someone one purportedly loves and has gotten pregnant. Unfortunately, this guy doesn't sound like healthy relationship material. Perhaps someday. Hope the pregnancy goes well.
Tressugar Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 Great! Your star will be hitched to his wagon for the next 20 years of your life. He became upset because he got caught. Plain and simple as that.
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