irc333 Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 I recently heard a few complaints from engaged women that after a year or 2 of dating and being engaged...that when it came to a head....after all that time, the guy never really did want to get married (in general) or to her specifically, but either way....it wound up being more of a stalling tactic if anything. Usually I kind of figure it out, as often times when I would be getting to know a woman...they'd say, "Yeah, me and my fiance' are , blah blah blah" and I'd like "Oh, congrats, when are you two tying the knot?" And she'd say, "Meh, we're in no rush to the alter" Chances are that's a cover up on her part, because its not going anywhere, or perhaps she is hopeful. But as the previous paragraphs states the outcome of a guy who just dated her for the sake of dating her. The female companionship and sex. That's pretty much it. Come to think of it, its kind of like a friends with benefits situation, but without the other party being aware of it? Yes?
soccerrprp Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 (edited) Men do use engagements as a very powerful tool to string women along. I know a couple of female friends who were engaged for unreasonable lengths of time (5+ years and in the end, no marriage let alone any concrete date). Anyone who agrees to an engagement that lasts longer than 1-1+ years is being "strung" along. I absolutely believe that if you are not ready to get married within a year, then don't get engaged. My feeling is that if you are ready to ask, then you should be ready to marry. Edited April 12, 2014 by soccerrprp 2
MissBee Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 Men do use engagements as a very powerful tool to string women along. I know a couple of female friends who were engaged for unreasonable lengths of time (5+ years and in the end, no marriage let alone any concrete date). Anyone who agrees to an engagement that lasts longer than 1-1+ years is being "strung" along. I absolutely believe that if you are not ready to get married within a year, then don't get engaged. My feeling is that if you are ready to ask, then you should be ready to marry. Ditto. I absolutely don't see the point of an official engagement unless you're planning to get married shortly thereafter, within a year or so. If you are intending to wait several more years, then don't say you're engaged.
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